When was your SO allowed to be in family pictures?

posted 1 year ago in Waiting
  • poll: When was it?
    Within 6 months of dating : (29 votes)
    23 %
    Within a year of dating : (20 votes)
    16 %
    Within 2 years of dating : (5 votes)
    4 %
    After 2 years of dating : (3 votes)
    2 %
    Not until after we were engaged : (15 votes)
    12 %
    Not until after we were married : (15 votes)
    12 %
    Other : (9 votes)
    7 %
    SO is still not allowed in family pictures : (0 votes)
    We don't take family pictures : (31 votes)
    24 %
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    Honey bee

    He was in family pictures as soon as one happened after we started dating. It was obvious from a couple of months in that we were a long-term prospect.

    As for his family… I don’t think I’ve ever been in a family photo with his family but then they’ve never had one that I’ve known about (other than our wedding photos).

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    5730 posts
    Bee Keeper

    We’ve rarely had any “formal” family photos in either of our families. Both of us were always allowed in group pictures at our respective family gatherings since we’ve been together. The only actual formal pictures that have happened were at my SIL’s wedding, which was just 2 months before my DH and I were married, so I was already practically part of the family at that point.

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    3000 posts
    Sugar bee

    @Cornmuffin09:  My FI started appearing in family pictures around our 1 1/2 year mark. We have now been together for 9 years, so he has appeared in many more since. We usually have him in the family picture and sometimes take a few of just siblings or mother/daughter and father/son, etc.

    My FI’s family does not do family photos (kind of odd now that I think of it) because they are not very close really, so there hasn’t been an opportunity for me to be in them. But if they did do a family photo, I think his mother would be fine with me being in it.

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    Buzzing bee

    I was allowed to be in FI (then boyfriend’s) pictures after 5 years of dating. His sister’s boyfriend was allowed after 2 months.

    Hmph. 

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    Bumble bee

    There aren’t many formal photos taken (ever) but regular photos…he was in almost as soon as we started dating. We met in October and by Christmas he was in all the photos we took. My family loved him. Lol. His family honestly doesn’t take pictures, thank goodness.

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    1729 posts
    Bumble bee

    Well, the holidays rolled around when we were dating about 5 months.  My family doesn’t really do family photos.  Someone just breaks out their iPhone and starts snapping, lol.  He was in photos from last Thanksgiving but there was no discussion if he would be “allowed” to be in photos.  His family doesn’t do family photos either and I have never been in a photo with them (no pictures were taken at all).  But again, there hasn’t been a discussion about letting either one be in pics. 

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    1009 posts
    Bumble bee

    I don’t think he was ever not in family pictures. My family is the most open-arms family there is. The same way for myself and his family. It’s odd, I’ve never even thought of that practice being abnormal.

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    3895 posts
    Honey bee

    I guess we haven’t had the opportunity to be in family photos. I mean, we’ve taken pictures with my parents – some with just me and them, and some with just him and them, and some with all four of us. I don’t think I’ve been around his parents during any picture-taking times. Though I suppose when I visit this Christmas we will see.

    My mom did add him as a family member on Facebook this summer though (after a year and a half of dating)! I thought it was really sweet as my parents were very rough on our relationship in the beginning (due to the distance and him being 8 years older), so it really made me feel as though she accepted him when she did that.

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    9241 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    We’ve never really done family photos formally, so if a snapshot is being taken, it’s been anytime he was ever hanging around. 

    But, if we’re going to take a picture of a whole group hanging out, we’ll often do one with “blood” and then get spouses to jump in, and that’s whatever date happens to be there.

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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    We usually did some with girlfriends/boyfriends and some without.  I think once a couple is engaged that the person should be included in at least some of them, if they weren’t already before.

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    Busy bee

    Right away on both sides. I took him to my brother’s wedding about a month after we started dating and he was in a few of the family pics but not all of them.

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    Helper bee

    The first time I was in SOs family picture was last christmas… Just his parents, sister, her husband, and their kids..

    Sadly my family doesn’t really take “family” pictures, but he has deffinatly been in all of our random family time pictures within the first 6 months of us dating.

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