- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2015
Long story, not so short…
FI and I have lived together over 5 years. We have what we need. Sure some things could be upgraded, but when its that time we can afford it ourselves (we prefer to ride things till the wheels fall off haha). We don’t really want to register. We are in our early 30s, and it feels almost gift grabby.
However, FAIL (lol), who has become almost motherly since FMIL passed away a few months ago, INSISTS that we register. She said not everyone will want to give money (which we absolutely DO NOT want anyway, if I had it my way, I’d DEMAND no gifts, monetary or otherwise) so people will end up giving us like 100 photo frames, that we can’t exchange/return. But, I know how our family and friends are, and they will give us a little something each. She said that some people can’t afford the standard $100 gift (she’s old school Italian from Brooklyn, this is 100% her thinking-NOT MINE), so they should have the option of giving an actual gift that may be less expensive.
Now let me reiterate; I wish there was a way to avoid this whole “gift thing” anyway. I’ve never been a good gift receiver for some reason. Im not comfortable with people splurging or going out of their way for me. I’d rather my guests show up, eat a lot of food, dance, get a little drink on and have fun. That’s it. But, I know some people do enjoy *giving* (like me), so I imagine what Aunt says has some merit. I do not want people to shell out money, because they feel obligated since I didn’t register.
Ugh. I’m really wrecked over this. I don’t want a shower or a Bach or anything like that because I don’t want anyone spending money for MY wedding, besides dresses (I’m providing jewelry, hair and makeup) and suits.
So, if I do decide to do this, when do I do it, and how do I let people know? I’m not into wedding websites, and Facebook has been off limits for my planning. Grrrrrr.
Or, do I just roll the dice and risk getting 100 crystal/silver photo frames?
I know I can’t specifically mention “no gifts” just because that feels extremely presumptuous to me. Help?
P.s. wasnt sure where to post this. Thought there was a “registry” board?