When would/did you tell family and close friends??

posted 2 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: When did you share with close friends and family?!
    From 4-8 weeks : (14 votes)
    37 %
    From 8-12 weeks : (13 votes)
    34 %
    From 12+ : (11 votes)
    29 %
    Not until I showed : (0 votes)
  • Post # 2
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada

    MrsSaber:  We told immidiate family (parents and siblings) at 6 weeks, I also had to tell my trainer and my physio at 8 weeks for health reasons obviously. Everyone else we told at 13 weeks after our first ultrasound.

    Post # 3
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    307 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We told our parents and siblings at 6 weeks. We were going to wait until after our first appointment, which was at 7 weeks, but couldn’t wait! We told everyone else around 11 weeks, after our second appointment. 

    Post # 5
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    1107 posts
    Bumble bee

    We plan on telling our families right away. I think there’s nothing wrong with that. We are close to our families and we would want their support if anything went wrong. 🙂

    Post # 6
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    8425 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We told our moms right when we found out (about 5 weeks) because I was actually rushed to the emergency room since my doctor suspected an ectopic pregnancy.  It turns out I was just pregnant with twins, but our moms were worried from our previous phone calls so we let them know what was going on.  We told everyone else around 12 weeks.

    Post # 7
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    1140 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada

    MrsSaber:  I know it’s really exciting and you want to tell everyone straight away but I would still reccommend not telling anyone apart from family and maybe 1 or 2 VERY close friends early. It’s still really early days of pregnancy and there is unfortunately still a risk of things going wrong so I wouldn’t share it with anyone that you wouldn’t feel comfortable telling if the worse was to happen.

    12 weeks will pass really quickly and everyone will be super excited for you once you do tell them. 🙂

    Post # 8
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    852 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Told my parents last week and will tell MIL this weekend. I am 10 weeks to morrow. Two more weeks till the scan, a week for bloods then we can tell everyone else hopefully. Though I might just wait to tell everyone else until the MS is gone, and I acutally look pleaed to be PG.

    Post # 9
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    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We plan to tell family (parents, siblings) around 10-12 weeks, then others around 14 weeks

    Post # 12
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    943 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We told our immediate families immediately, and some very close friends (there was a beer sampling festival that we were going to… Would have been pretty obvious to the friends that I wasn’t partaking).

    We told extended families and everyone else at 8 weeks-ish because there was a holiday where we would be together, and because our immediate families were so annoying with their “I don’t know if I can keep it a secret!” crap.

    Honestly, tell when you feel comfortable, whether or not it’s “right” according to anyone else. Yes, a loss would be devastating, but there is never a guarantee whether you tell at 6, 12, or 20. The point is that your joy is NOW, and if you want to share it right now, feel free!

    Post # 13
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    946 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We told my family (parents, sister and BIL) right before 10 weeks. We told my ILs right before 11 weeks. Then we told Facebook right before 12 weeks. I had an ultrasound right at 9 weeks and no bleeding or anything negative, so we figured might as well share! At my 13 week appointment we found out I had a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks 2 days. It was extremely painful to un-tell people and make the phone calls to our immediate family. I slightly regret it, honestly. The pain we put them through was not worth the joy in my opinion. When we TTC again, we won’t tell anyone until after our 2nd appointment/2nd trimester.

    Post # 14
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    187 posts
    Blushing bee

    My first pregnancy we told immediate family at 8 weeks. I told my best friends when I was 3 weeks and just found out! We waited until 12 weeks to tell everyone else.

    I’m 4 weeks as of today and have told 2 friends. I think we’ll wait to tell family again until 8-12 weeks and everybody else after 12 weeks.

    Post # 15
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    3360 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    We plan to tell my family over Labor Day (I’ll be about 9 weeks), and DH’s family when they come to visit in September (11/12 weeks).  I’m spending some time with my parents and one of my brothers next week, but it just feels too soon (5 weeks), so I’ll be doing my best to hide it and not raise any suspicions.  We’ll tell extended family and friends/acquaintances once we’re out of the first trimester.

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