Post # 1
…do you leave together?
This recently came up in conversation and I’m wondering what most people do.
Here is an example situation:
You and your FI meet up with friends for drinks right after work. Because you came straight from work you arrived separately. One of you is ready to leave at 6, but the other wants to stay until 9. Would you leave at the same time or would you both just leave separately and go home at different times?
Post # 3
Hmm…we probably w ould have compromised and stayed until 7:15, 7:30. If it were a work night, I think neither one of us would want to stay out til 9, so we’d probably be happy for an excuse to leave a little earlier.
Post # 4
This doesnt usually happen with us, because we are usually both ready to leave around the same time. But if one of us wanted to leave early, we both would leave together. Unless it was a weird circumstance, like seeing a friend we havent seen in years or something.
Post # 5
But our situation might be different than others. We live in the same house but our work schedules are totally opposite so some weeks I might only see him for a couple hours. Because we barely see eachother as it is, the time we have is SUPER important to us. Even if one of us is exhausted we would stay together and leave together because we can sleep in on any other day. The time together is too rare and special to give up. 🙂
Post # 6
We would have left at the same time, but compromised on the time we left.
Post # 7
It depends on what’s going on. We usually do leave at the same time. Sometimes, I will get him to run me home if it’s close or whatever. I’m not sure why I feel this way and I don’t want to offend anyone, but I think it’s weird when couples don’t go places together. I know a lot of people do it and it’s fine, but I don’t like it lol.
Post # 9
It depends… we generally try to leave together, but if one person REALLY wants to stay and the other person is fine with it then we haveleft separately. Sometimes if one wants to stay and the other wants to leave we’ll compromise on a time to go home.
Post # 10
this happened last night, apparently FI wanted to leave earlier but he didn’t really say anything and styed until late and then was mad this morning that we came home late, men…
Post # 11
We would leave together, and most likely stay until later… But that is because neither one of us generally wants to go home early.
Post # 12
We wouldn’t neccesarily have to leave at the same time. There have been situations in which I have had a really long day and was just tired and I never make or expect DH to leave with me. Sometimes when we arrive seperate we leave together and other times one of us might chose to stay. We respect each other and are not the same person so I never found that it mattered.
Post # 13
it depends. if one of us wanted to leave because i/he was just really tired after a long day, or needed to do some work or soemting that night, we’d leave separately. if one of us was sick or needed the other one for some reason, we’d leave together. i think in most cases though we’d just leave separately–no reason for him to leave if i’m just tired or something like that!
Post # 14
Depends on the situation. I trust him completely to stay if I was ready to go home. Most of the time though we are in sync and ready to go at the same time. I would only be concerned if he always wanted to stay longer than you
Post # 15
We would leave together but compromise on the time we left (aka later than one person’s ideal but earlier than the other’s).
This might be partially influenced by the fact that DH travels for work so we only see each other a few days a week. Have to make the most of the limited time we have so we don’t typically go out without the other during those days.
ETA: We are typically pretty in sync with how late we want to stay out so this really isn’t an issue for us.
Post # 16
We would leave at the same time except if there’s some specific reason one of us has to leave earlier (another appointment or something). We usually compromise about when to leave, although we almost always want to leave at the same time.