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Are you a clinger or a loner?
I, personally, am a huge clinger. I never get really clingy until I don't feel good or am hurt and then all I want is to be held. I'm not the type of clingy where I can't be apart from him, but I just want to be all curled up in a little ball with my man holding me.
I feel bad doing this. He, of course, says he likes it when I do this, not sure why. He does it too a little bit when he is sick (not as bad as me) and I like being there for him, but there is such a stigma about being clingy anymore that I feel a little insane.
The past couple days I have been super clingy because I hurt really bad (surgery for those who don't know) and I feel so awkward about it. I don't want to irritate him because I have been in "hold me" mode for three days now.
Now I know a lot of you are the opposite of me and when you are sick you just want to be left alone with the curtains drawn in a cave of solitude.
Is this weird behavior for me to cling when I am sick...
Loner, in every sense of the word. I go crawl into bed, turn off all the lights, and want to just sleep it off-alone haha.
oh gosh, when im sick its leave me alone to die in peace and go away! my husband on the other hand, 4th level clinger who wants me to spoon feed him. i broke my ankle last year and didnt get it checked for 3 days but he so much as stubs his toe and i have to apply 1st aid
I'm a clinger to an extent - just around DH at home. At work or around others I try to hide it. But with DH, I want him to hold me and take care of me.
I hope you're feeling better. Good thing you don't have to work tomorrow so your stiches can heal! Stupid boss.
@eloping: I think we're with the same man lol. I literally have to kiss his owies.
@hisgoosiegirl:Yeah I'm happy I don't work tomorrow. I'm the same at work, I try to be quiet, but when I'm at home I practically dive into FIs arms.
@eloping:I really hope I'm not that bad. I usually have to feel pretty shitty before I'll even say something.
Loner, big-time. I hole myself up like a wounded animal, and woe betide anyone who tries to drag me out of my blanket cocoon.
When I'm sick I like to be alone...especially if it's the flu. Leave me alone in the bathroom to feel like crap in peace. DH, on the other hand, needs lots of attention when he's sick.
I really want to be by myself, but my hubs is a big baby when he's sick.
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: i know! in my family you have to be dying to make a fuss, my brother never complained of stomach aches until his appendix burst
Ok I do want to clarify a little. I don't cling with every cold or scratch but I do when its bad like this week has been.
If i'm really sick i'll vote clinger to a certain extent. I'm okay alone but I want FH around, and taking care of me. Him on the other hand?! One cough and 'm rubbing Vick's on his chest cuddling him. lol. Men can be such big babies ;)
@LissaBabyxo:And none of them ever want to admit it. My FI is the only guy I have ever met that doesn't turn into a baby when he is sick.
I really do seem to be in the minority here. Now I do feel bad for pestering FI...
In my past relationship, I was a total loner. I didn't want anyone touching or taking care of me. I wanted to be left completely alone.
However, with DH, I'm a clinger. When I don't feel good, I want him close by. Fortunately, he doesn't mind at all.
I don't really like to be touched at all when I don't feel good but I like to be catered to. Haha. It's awful. I'll be like "baaaaabe, can you make me some soup?" But then he'll try to snuggle me and that's just not what I like when I'm sick.
I'm with eloping..... I get this 3 foot bubble around me and I don't want anyone near it or in it. DH totally tries to love on me and I'm just like "leave me alone...." When I want to be part of the social world again I will be but when I'm sick, no.
DH isn't too bad of a clinger when he's sick... but that's also b/c while we were dating I just told him to "get over" his very common stomach issues... In our house growing up we never went to the dr and the cure for everything per my mom was "take an advil"... so when it came to this with DH (then FI) I could only take so much.. lol Now he's pretty good ;)
wow, i always thought that fi and i were weird. when a box falls on my foot, its fi's instinct to run over and cuddle me but i just dont want to be touched at all. when i'm sick i just want to be wrapped up in a blanket and isolated b/c i feel gross. HE on the other hand, needs me to take off of work if he is sick. just really really really needs attention and pampering. its funny to think there are others out there like us :-)
when i broke my ankle last year hubby was in the middle of a work project and should have been at a office 4hrs drive away from me - he insisted on staying home and making the daily commute while i tried to force him to go and enjoy the hotel stay
good thing he did force the issue - i needed help to get out of bed and thats when he forced me to go to the doctors... he doesnt get to claim a win off me often so i give him this one :)
When I'm sick or hurt I have the evil eyes... he knows not to come near me or touch me... It will be world war 3 in my house if I don't get left alone.
Hmm. I am clingy when I've had a bad day, but when I'm sick, I just want to be left alone. After somebody gets me a cold washcloth for my head, some advil, and some diet sprite, that is. :)
I'm definitely a loner. I just want to be alone to barf or to jump up an down in pain. However, if my neck hurts or my back, I'll sweetly ask for a backrub! :)
I'm a loner too. I just want to veg out and watch TV quietly. Although DH is handy if I need something! ;-)
Like most of the other ladies, DH is the biggest baby ever when he is sick. I dread those times. (shudders)
Definitely a loner. DH likes to play with my face when I'm asleep, so if I'm sick, I'll be that more tired and annoyed. He is a good husband though by taking care of me. He would be perfect if it weren't for the playing with my face when I'm asleep part.
Clinger here! I like to be taken care of and entertained :D
I'm a big baby when I'm sick. I always want my SO to hold me and rub my back. He's such a good sport about it, but I do the same for him when he's sick so I like to think we're even. :)
I guess this just proves what I have always thought, guy want to act all big and tough but they are really just big babies when it come to being hurt or sick. when I am hurt I am a clinger (which sucks with my endo it happens alot). when I am sick I like to just be left alone to sleep but its nice to have someone check on you every now and then
i voted clinger, but i should have voted other...in general, if i've hurt myself (like, badly...sprain or something like that, surgery, or even general shittiness pain, like cramps, lol, but not stupid stuff like scratches or bruises), or if i'm miserable with like a head cold, the flu or allergies, i generally want to cuddle, and this is what i thought of when i voted clinger. if it's my stomach that's bothering me though...the only thing i want to cuddle is the porcelain throne. just let me lie on the bathroom floor and wallow in my misery in peace, please. (i have IBS, so this happens at least a couple times a year.)
I used to be a loner. I told my partner I was like a dying cat - I just wanted to wander off and die. Now I'm a clinger, which is very recent. I've been quite sick lately and I just want my partner near by adn lots of cuddles. I'll be honest, I totally want him to pamper me and coddle me.
Most of the time I'm a clinger. Especially if it's emotional pain. If I'm nauseous though, please leave me alone.
Clinger. Wait on me hand and foot!! Meals in bed. FEED ME!! LOL!!
I alternate. I want him to rub my belly if I'm nauseous but then I might feel feverish and just want to be left alone. I really like when he brings me soup though. Always appreciate that.
@ItsHollyAgain: Haha, a dying cat!
I'm a clinger, but not super clingy. I like the extra consideration & attention, and if I feel like crap and don't want to get up, it's nice when I don't have to.
I voted other- I always end up ignoring it especially physical pain. I won't tell anyone and if someone notices a slight limp or cringe that I am trying so hard to hide I will down play it x10. If I feel sick I do the same, I will take medicine and rest and say nothing about it. So I'm not really a loner, I will go about the day as I normally would and suffer quietly. It drives my SO crazy especially when I screwed my back up or kept running on an injured knee but I have always been like that.
when I have the flu/upset stomach. I need to be left alone and not touched at all. Total loner. lol ..If I have a head cold or nothing stomach related, I can be a clinger and like to be taken care of and cuddleD.
I should have voted other, but I voted loner. I go both ways. Body aches and pains, cramps, colds, exhaustion, I like cuddling and being close, holding hands, head on shoulder, draw me a bath, make me soup that kind of thing, but not overly clingy in the touching and holding. Serious fever, flu or nausea, LEAVE ME ALONE! I like to shut the door, crawl into bed (or the bathroom) and sleep. Lots and lots of sleep. Bring me tea, water, that's ok, but otherwise, no touch, no talk no eye contact lol. Injury like broken bones and such, I'm about middle of the road, though I get really cranky (bitchy) as I HATE not being able to take care of myself and having to ask for everything, so I start out clinger, and morph into loner a few days in.
FI on the other hand (and his son) are MAJOR clingers when ill, with anything. Both are big time drama queens when it comes to pain, and make a major production out of any little injury. Drives me nuts, and I spend all my time running up and down the stairs trying to staisfy them lol.
I'm a bit of both, but to the extremes. I'm a very needy loner lol. I'll whine for him to cook me this or make me that, draw a hot bath, etc. But other than that, I want to be left alone. I basically want him to be my man slave awwwww. But then again, when he's sick he is the same way haha. Not so much of a loner as I am, but definitely needy.
@mrsbruff2b: bah hahah!!! feed me!!
I like to take care of myself but I like him to tuck me into bed, rub my back in the tub, give me lots of hugs and check on me to make sure I am still alive if I sleep for a long time. He is usually pretty good about it. I do the same for him, too. We are very nice to each other when one is sick. This usually causes the other to catch what the sick person has though, from constantly cuddling and hugging.
I pretty much always want to be left alone. Being sick or hurt is no exception.
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