Post # 1
Hi Bee’s –
I was just wondering if what you discussed before marriage actually stuck after marriage. My FI and I discussed having kids about 4 – 5 years after we are married so that would make us 29/30 or 30/31. Yesterday FI threw me for a loop when he said he has been thinking about he wouldn’t mind having kids sooner, like 2 years. We didn’t go into detail about it.
So, what did you discuss when you were engaged and when did you actually have kids?
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We agreed to not have any more (I have a teenager from a previous relationship_. Now I am dying to have at least one more, maybe two. oops
Post # 3
We planned to keep the timeline discussed but I got pregnant accidentally a few months before we planned on trying..
Post # 4
We talked about waiting until I was 28 and he was 29. We moved our timeline up (still not trying until summer 2015) which would put me at 26, hopefully having the baby a few months after I turn 27 and right before he turns 28. So not too much sooner, but having the baby actually arrive about a year sooner than we originally thought.
Post # 5
We had said within 2 years of getting married, and then we accidentally got pregnant with our honeymoon baby!
We have both said that it’s probably a good thing we had an oops because neither of us could imagine actually making the choice to TTC haha.
Post # 6
We weren’t planning on getting pregnant right away and so far we’ve kept that timeline. Maybe this summer we’ll try.
Post # 7
We planned to ttc right when we got married, but it didn’t work out. I had surgery on my ovaries to help my PCOS and lost a ton of weight, and we got pregnant 6 months later. So it wound up being about 2 years later than originally planned, but I think the timing actually worked out better since we had time to grow as a couple and I had time to get healthier.
Post # 8
Before we got married, we decided on waiting about 5-7 years (when I was between 30 and 32). Now, DH says he wouldn’t mind TTCing sooner…as in anytime after we have been in our new home for at least a year (we close in July). Eek…I am not quite that eager. We are now aiming for about 3-4 years, but we will see!
Post # 9
So far we’ve stuck to no kids. With my health issues, I can’t see that changing anytime soon and I’m not getting younger.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods
We decided to try once we got married and did so. I’m in my early 30’s and he’s in his late 30’s. I also was worried it might take awhile becuase of the Endo. I was right, cycle 11 here, so glad we started quickly.
Post # 11
We planned to ttc one year after the wedding. I got my BFP one year and 23 days into the marriage! Right on time 🙂
Post # 12
We agreed on a timeline before marriage…and the closer we get to it, the more we push it back. The reality of how much a baby would change our lives not just in the near future, but for the rest of time, makes it little daunting!
Post # 13
We said we would wait 2-3 years and ended up getting pregnant a year and a half into our marriage – so earlier than expected but not an insane amount earlier. There were times during the pregnancy (and my freak out moments) where I thought, we should’ve waited like we said we were going to!! But now that she’s here, we both agreed the timeline ended up being perfect for us 🙂
Post # 14
We both said ” eh, after a couple of years of being married we will TTC”. Well, we are right at 2 years and neither of us are making a move to start TTC, so I don’t know when we will!
Post # 15
Meant2Bee: When FI and I first started talking marriage and kids, we knew for sure we wanted them. Now that we’re a few years older and talking about all of the things we want to do, we aren’t so sure.
I have a feeling once we get married and start our careers (woo, grad school), we will definitely want to push the kids off for at least 3 years when we’ll be 29. I always said if I had kids I wanted to wait until about then anyway. But who knows if we’ll even have them! We love our dog to pieces and wouldn’t mind just having dogs in place of kids!