Post # 1
My friend who has a long-term, live-in Boyfriend or Best Friend was telling me how they each go out seperately and flirt with others, and it’s ok as long as they come home to each other. I agree that that is ok and can even benefit a relationship. Then she said that her Boyfriend or Best Friend comes home from the bar with numbers from girls, which I think is maybe going a little far (but I’m pretty prudish), but that doesn’t bother her.
So what are you ok with when your guy goes out? What line will you not cross when you go out?
Post # 3
No flirting, no coming home with numbers, nothing. I’m not prudish, but I personally think that’s a little rude to the relationship. But everyone is different..What works for some, doesn’t work for others. I know I wouldn’t be okay with that.
Post # 4
@redheadem: I don’t flirt consciencously, and if a guy gave me his number I wouldn’t take it.
Post # 5
@redheadem: I would never take or give a number. I will innocently flirt, but anything beyond that doesn’t seem right to me.
Post # 6
My Fiance and I have the same idea on appropriate, which is “If SO saw me, how would they feel?”.
So I wouldn’t like to see my Fiance flirting with other girls, and he wouldn’t want to see me doing the same, so that is off limits.
I am okay with him going out with his buddies, I’m okay with him drinking, I’m okay with just about anything, but flirting is not okay, and getting a girls number by accident (i.e. girl forced it on him) and KEEPING IT is WAY past my line.
Post # 7
If it’s OK by them, it’s OK.
Post # 8
@takemyhand: FI saw another guy buy me a drink once when we were out together with a group of friends. I told him “Oh calm down, it saved you money,” and he wasn’t that upset.
Post # 9
Every relationship is different. If that works for them, it works for them. That would not work for me, however, in my relationship with Darling Husband.
Post # 10
@redheadem: A guy wanted to buy me a drink when were out once and I said no. He ended up sending it to me anyways while I was CLEARLY with my Fiance. I sent it back to the bar and my Fiance was happy with that. We agreed that even though it was free, you can’t take a drink from someone who is clearly interested and ignoring you or else it might lead them on further.
Every relationship is different, but that is how we are.
Post # 11
God, I cant even remember the last time I was hit on… something about this ring must really turn dudes off. 😉
But seriously. I’m okay with Fiance talking to other women and having a social, casual conversation. Once it heads into leading her on territory (or if she doesn’t care he’s engaged and wants to keep going), that’s when it needs to stop. I would do the same for him. But at NO point is giving or accepting someone’s number appropriate in my relationship.
Post # 12
I’m a super huge flirt, aaaalways have been and my bf knows that. But he also knows the difference between me just being a friendly flirt and if I were actually interested in a person.
He understands me and is pretty chill with the fact that I’m super friendly and pretty flirty in a really lighthearted way.
He on the other hand doesn’t flirt at all. We are just totally different people that way.
Post # 13
No flirting & def no number exchanging. But that is just us. 🙂 Whatever works for someone else, well great!
Post # 14
My Fiance and I go out seperatly. Thats fine. But we never flirt with other people or come home with numbers.
Fiance is a DJ, he is in semi retirement and only does Friday Nights these days (he used to do it full time). Girls throw themselves at him. They flash their tits and everything when they are drunk. Its funny, but only because he does nothing to provoke it. if he was encouraging it he would be in huge trouble with me, and the establishment he works for. HAHA. And while he is at work, if he is having on of those nights, he texts me and tells me all and asks if I am jealous. I’m never jealous, I’ll know he will come home to me. 😀
Post # 15
@Firie: Wow that’s intense! Good for you for being ok with that. I would NOT be happy even though it’s not his fault.
Post # 16
I am a huge flirt and even more so when I am drinking. My SO knows that about me and trusts me and knows I would never cheat. I go out without him and sometimes flirt, get free drinks and sometimes dance. I dance with our guy friends all the time. I never give out my number or take one. If a guy gets too touchy I tell him I have a SO and it’s done. Idk it works for us.