(Closed) When you have to invite someone,

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

You don’t have to invite anyone you don’t want to. It’s your damn wedding, do as you please. That’s my attitude anyway. My FILs have demanded I invite my fiance’s psychologically demented, homocidal and coke-addicted brother to the wedding (who coincidentally hates my guts as well). Long story short, it ain’t happening. Fiance doesn’t want him there, and neither do I. It’s our wedding and that’s that. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

haha, your last sentence.  people like that always manage to alienate people then wonder why no one wants to be around them.

if you do that, she might really be offended and cause endless drama down the line.  be the bigger person, invite her, and don’t let one person ruin your day.  if need be, ask M to kind of act like a buffer if need be.

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

ugh that’s rough.  then don’t invite her.  if you really think she’ll be that insufferable, don’t even give her the opportunity.  talk about it with your FI and if he supports you, everyone else’s opinion won’t matter.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Oh, I just saw your other posts.  Invite her or not, if your FI supports you, do whatever you feel is best.  It’s his family after all.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@nikix:  That was the argument FMIL tried to use. Fiance just told her ‘brother is a title, not a state of being. He lost that when he tried to murder all of us’. Conversation ended pretty quickly after that. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee

Don’t judge, you’d hate her too. <— This seriously made me laugh

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@nikix:  BAhahahahahha oh hell no. We’re students, there’s no way. Unless this girl really, REALLY wants to be there, she won’t be able to come up with the flight that soon let alone a room and food. 

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I would just invite M, and not N and the other sister, whom you didn’t mention (we’ll call her O.) If O’s not invited, N won’t be isolated- inviting M&O would cause an uproar, but just M and not N&O, esp. if M is in your wedding party, is more understandable. If you’re not inviting some of your cousins, that could also help the situation. 

I’m sorry, but I disagree with the “you’re related, so you HAVE to have an invite.” Sometimes water is a hell of a lot thicker than blood! 🙂

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