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My FI and I will not be married until next summer, but I know for sure he's the right one for so many different reasons. Here's one of those reasons...We just found out that my mom is dealing with cancer again for the 4th time. With my wedding coming up next summer I want nothing more than my mother to be here, and to be healthy.... for many more years if possible. Sometimes I completely lose it , bawling and crying to the point where I can't breathe..but it's at night when I'm in bed and have time to think. He's always the one that's right there...the only one who has ever seen me at my worst... telling me to let it all out, and rubbing my back until I'm finally tired and fall asleep. He's always here to talk, and tells me I'm beautiful and strong every day. I feel like the luckiest girl alive to have him.
I'm so sorry for what you are going through. My husband and I don't have the best luck with our health, so we are constantly taking care of each other and it reminds me how amazing he is and how he makes me want to be that way for him. Last year I also got pregnant and had a miscarriage. It was devistating, and physically hard for me b/c I had a crazy amount of bleeding and had to have 2 d&c's. He was so amazing through the whole thing, I don't know what I would have done without him. Also, I get severe migraines that leave me useless for days, and he does everything for me and around the house.
Feel free to PM me if you need someone to talk to who has been through it.
We are getting married in 8 days so he is technically not my husband yet. There are tons of reasons I know he is the right man but I will list a few.
1. I grew up with an EXTREMELY abusive and neglecting mother. Because of this I was dealing with depression and crying all the time. Even considering suicide. Most men would have run as fast as they could. But no, not him. He would sleep over at my house to make sure I was safe and bring me food to eat when my mother wouldn't feed us. He eventually saved up money so we could move out together so I could get away from that horrible environment.
2. Last year I had my gallbladder removed. About two days after I started having severe pain. I went to the hospital and due to complications of the surgery, I was on the verge of death. My FI stayed with my for two weeks in the hospital every single night. He called out of work and didn't care if he would have gotten fired. I can never thank him enough to this day for being with me through such a hard time.
3.This wedding planning has been nothing but drama upon drama with everyone including our families and when I cry about it which has pretty much been every single day for the past 15 months, he is always there.
4. Yesterday I was extremely sick with food poisoning. I was vomiting all day. He came home and took care of me. Layed in bed with me, massaged my back, made me soup. I love him so much and I can't wait to marry him next weekend!
@2PeasinaPod: Um, when we lost Moose, it brought us closer than I ever thought possible. It sucks that it took losing Moose for us to get that close, but we did. Our communication is amazing. And I'm thankful everyday I have the best husband ever (granted, others may disagree).
Wow that's so awesome that you ladies and your husbands have stayed strong through such difficult things! I can't imagine what that's like, or how hard it was.
My Fiance and I haven't been through nearly that much, but we have had our fair share of drama, and fears. At the end of the day though, no matter how good or bad the day was, there's no one else in the world I'd rather sit back and forget about the day with. When I'm crying, he makes me laugh, when I'm insecure he takes care of it. He pushes me to accomplish my goals, and encourages me to dream no matter what anyone says.
We've been together for over 2 years now, and though people say that lovey feeling where's off in a year, it hasn't for us and I don't think it ever will. With every day that passes I love him more, and he still makes me giggle and blush every time he looks at me.
I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with him, as his wife, and as his best friend. :)
@TheFutureMcBride: I find it so crazy that it brought you and your hubby closer together and it's bringing me and my husband closer together. You hear so much about couples losing children and breaking up b/c they fight over not being able to conceive, and I was just so fearful of that happening. I think b/c we know we're in it together and we're such a team, I can't even imagine not considering his feelings in all of this.
As for everyone else...we really do have the best husbands/soon to be husbands in the world, don't we?
@2peas: I'm really really sorry to hear that.
I knew when I got a call from my Dr's office that said they found some cancer cells. I was on my way home at the time to take bf to the airport for a guys golf trip to FL. I told him when I got home. He was so sweet about it, and told me he didn't want to go on the trip anymore and he wanted to stay with me. I made him go anyway. This was less than 4 months into our relationship - I knew for sure he was the one then.
@2PeasinaPod: ((hugs))
My hubby and I have been through an amazing amount of things in our short relationship, cancer issues, miscarriages, hospital stays, etc. I also agree with you ladies that these things have pulled us closer together. We know we can make it through anything together. I would like to tell the most recent and lighter story of falling for him all over again:
I am currently working 3 jobs, not because we need the money, but basically because I am an ass :) I am at my maxium stress level dealing with all of this, as well as a new husband, searching for a house (that we both agree on which is for another post), FMIL drama up the ying yang, starting a new business (1 of 3 jobs), all while juggling a 3 year old bonus son, which comes with it's own issues. Ok, enough complaining...
I work first shift and DH works 2nd shift. I had a crappy day and DH and I had texted back and forth about it all day. I get home from work to a very clean and empty house, (this doesn't happen often), I mean you can smell the clean, he didnt just pick up or hide things in closets :) On the kitchen island is my nook, a beautiful vase of star gazer lilies, a reese's peanut butter cup, and a little note that says, "You are the best wife a man could ask for. Tonight just take time for yourself. I have taken care of everything for you to have a relaxing night. I can't wait to see later. I love you the most." I dropped my bags and welled up a little. I know it was so silly and so simple, but it was perfect. I grabbed my $8 grocery store lilies, heated up the pasta he made me in the fridge, and read my Bethenny Frankel book, ate my peanut butter cups first, in my jammies, curled up on the couch with the dog. It was perfect :)
@2PeasinaPod: I was so sorry to hear your news and I really hope the doctor was wrong! Glad to hear it's bringing you two closer.
I have moments like this quite often actually. My DH treats me like a total princess, I never have to lift a finger and he does all the stressful household chores. So when he goes away on a trip I'm always reminded of how much he does without the tiniest complaint. Also, we dogsit for my friends often and DH does all the work walking the little cutie, picking up poo, playing with her and making sure she has food and water. I look at him while he's doing all that and can't keep from smiling. And of course there are the obvious things like how he compliments me all the time on my looks and smarts :)
This is such a sad, but heartwarming thread. @OP: You continue to be in my prayers.
Here's when I knew:
I had only been dating my FI for about 7 months when I went on vacation with his family to the shore. We were about 6 hours away from my home by car. I got a phone call about halfway through the week that my grandma had passed away. My FI (boyfriend at the time) not only left his family vacation to drive me home, but then he came to my grandmother's viewing (and smiled through a string of exboyfriends that came through the line) and funeral AND was even a pallbearer (we don't have a whole lot of men in our family). I had always known I wanted to marry him, but that solidified my thoughts beyond a shadow of a doubt.
@mwitter80: Oh. I just totally melted.
@2PeasinaPod: ((hugs)) I'm glad you and DH are finding strength in each other through such a difficult time sweetie.
So I had a particularly craptastic day when I got fired from a job. The one and only time I've been fired. I came home, bawled my eyes out while blubbering what happened, and he looked at me and said "Why are you so upset? You hate your boss and you hate that job! I know you don't like feeling like you failed but baby you can do anything you want! Forget about that guy and go chase your dreams!". He was so right. He's my fiercest defender and I love that he's always in my corner fighting for me and supporting me.
Whenever one of us says "I love you" the other says "I love you more" and back and forth. I just feel like when he says "I love you more" it's the most sincere heartfelt words that have ever come out of his mouth. I just know he would go to the ends of the earth for me.
I am so sorry you are going through that, but am glad you have such an amazing husband by your side.
We have had a lot of little moment throughout our relationship but lately we have been having a problem with one of our pups. She is having a separation issue and loses absolutely confidence when she isn't with our older dog. So we have gone to a trainer and he has really stepped up to the plate with the exercises. We were even outside the other day in the pouring rain working with her and at that moment I really thought about how he is going to make such a great partner and father. I know in know way raising a dog is like raising a child but we are working on the puppy because we want to have a baby soon so it's so nice to know I have such a great partner.
Why is this thread totally making me cry? :)
I soooo love my husband and he is so incredibly supportive. I remember one x-mas, we couldn't afford ANYTHING - really struggling just to buy food and pay bills. So he asked one of his employees if he could make payments on some necklace (not expensive, maybe 100 or 50$) and pay them later. They gave him a necklace that is totally not my style lol. And then he gave me one of those musical cards and it said "I'm sorry I couldn't give you more - we will get better". He had tears in his eyes and I just broke down, thought it was so sweet that he thought of some way to get something even when we had nothing. I love the necklace because it reminds me of that time when all we had was each other. Best Christmas ever.
I knew I was marrying the right man, when I watch him week after week tear up(and try covering up) every time we watch The Biggest Loser...
My hubby and I got married in July 2010. We were together for almost 6 years when we did get married - and I already knew I wanted to marry him - but I can pin point the EXACT moment when I thought to myself - "I can't let him go!".
A couple years ago, my mom was having some health issues. I was still in college at this time and I had to leave for one of my night classes knowing that my mom wasn't feeling very good :( I called my then (fiance) and asked him if he would go over to my house and check on my mom while I was at my class. Hubby is a paramedic so he is very knowledgable in the health field so I felt safe with him being with my mom :)
Well he went over to my house to find my mom lying on the bathroom floor in utter pain - so he wisked her up and took her to the ER. He didn't call me because he knew I was taking a very important test that night in my class and didn't want to worry me. He finally texted me after about an hour before my class ended to tell me "At hospital with your mom - she is fine but just come here after class".
I rushed to the hospital - and I remember this memory like it was yesterday!!! I walked in the ER room to find my now hubby sitting in a chair pulled up to my mom's hospital bed holding her hand. Ahhh - ladies - my heart melted. I knew right then that any man that would take care of my momma like that was a keeper :)
If I had to say one time. It was the time I was in the hospital and under for a 9 hour surgery due to complications. He never left my side. When I got home he took care of me and doted on me. He "took me for walks around the block" and asked me not to go without him so I didnt fall by myself. He was just perfect.
But I re-realize it because he is always taking care of me in the small ways. He is loving both physically and verbally. He thinks of me in the small ways like slicing the first piece of cheese and bread and giving it to me. Its these little things that really make the man I want to marry.
When we have a discussion over sharing responsibilities or me being upset about something, he listens and does what he says! He doesnt just say he will help out more with cleaning, he does it and continues doing it. We dont need to discuss things twice.
If I wanted to quit my job and do nothing or start a business, he would support me and has told me so. He just wants me to be happy.
Almost anyone can have a good moment or year or even few years, but to be that man long term is the real test and he passed with flying colors!
You are all making me cry! I love that we have such wonderful men in our lives!
I'm so sorry you're going through this,but so glad for you that you have such a good hubby to get you through.
I often look at FI and get an overwhelming sense of happiness (YUK! lol) and sense that I'm so lucky to have the exact right man for me (even though he drives me bonkers sometimes!)
I wish you all the very best and you're in my prayers today
@2PeasinaPod: thinking about you today and hoping for good news.
I want to respond with my story, but I have too many tears in my eyes from such sweet stories from PP.
Makes me wish all the bees who write "should I stay or leave him?" post would read this. I think they would get their answer if they really allowed themselves to look deep in their heart.
He's not my husband yet, but it's the small things that make me smile.
Like when he bought me a cheap ebay necklace that has an envelope and when you open it it has a little card in it the says "I love you."
Or when we have the "I love you," "I love you more," "No way," "Yes way" conversations.
Or the time he went to the store on Valentine's Day and couldn't decide what to get me. He about drove our jeweler crazy.
We can walk around the store, and if he sees a stuff animal that reminds him of me he will buy it.
When we have tickle fights because he knows my feet are horrible ticklish, and he likes to watch me laugh and scream.
We watch tv together every night. He takes care of me when I'm sick. He helped my mom make homemade mashed potatoes when I had surgery even though he doesn't really cook.
When he goes to work before me, he kisses me and gives me his bear that he's had since he was a small child to sleep with.
Early this week, he got up for work, hit the snooze button, and got back in bed and rubbed my back while I slept.
I love him, and all the small things he does for me to show his love.
My husband, then NEW fiance, decided he was definitely making the right choice when he saw how much I cared about him and took care of him and stood by his side/visited him everyday after a tricky and consuming reconstructive knee surgery. I love him so much!
I just know he is in all ways the most perfect guy and DH for me. We brokeup multiple times during our relationship but I knew that we were meant to be together, and so did he. I just waited out his immature phases and fought through his mother's meddling! All worked out. Best friends forver!
My husband, then NEW fiance, decided he was definitely making the right choice when he saw how much I cared about him and took care of him and stood by his side/visited him everyday after a tricky and consuming reconstructive knee surgery. I love him so much!
I just know he is in all ways the most perfect guy and DH for me. We brokeup multiple times during our relationship but I knew that we were meant to be together, and so did he. I just waited out his immature phases and fought through his mother's meddling! All worked out. Best friends forver!
@2PeasinaPod: I've seen your other posts in blogs about what's going on and I'm glad that the experience has brought you and your husband closer together. I am sorry that you are going through this...it's never easy, especially when you've been trying for awhile. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers....and the hive is always here too!
I was on year 3 of an illness that left me unable to work or do much of anything else when we started dating. I was tired and over weight and just not feeling all that lovable, but somehow we started dating.
I did my best to go out on dates like a normal person, but there were some weekends, that I was just too exhausted. I knew that he was the right man for me when he told me much later on (after I had recovered enough to find a job and start to feel normal again) that one of the things he did that I just thought was fun, but he was using as 'therapy' was suggest we go feed the fishy in a pond in the townhouse complex. He knew I was very limited in what I could do, but also knew that he had to get me moving and out of the house. I knew I had the right man when I realized just how conscience his 'casual' suggestions were. He was helping me take little steps on the road to healing.
Oh yeah--he also thinks I look sexy when I wear my swim goggles (and put my glasses on over them) while I chop onions.
There are so many characteristics about my husband that I wonder how I survived any other relationship without them.
We espically went though a hard time when my full time position was transistined into a part time contract position, when my non-profit lost multiple grants - the timing couldn't of been worse b/c we were just closing on our house, still owed 2 months of rent on our old apt plus our new mortgage & had already hired contracters to do work in the house!!! This was by far the most stressful 2 months of our relationship, financial issues are the worst!! Thank goodness I found a new position, but throughout this very hard time, we worked together and he was as supportive as possible. Overcoming extremely stressful times like these just shows the strength of our relationship & I love us for it :)
I've known my FI all his life but we reunited a couple years ago at a family party. The party was only a few months after I lost my dad. I wasn't in the best of shape, and went through so much loosing my dad that I really wasn't thinking about a relationship. I also had an ex that was just horrible -- and while my dad was sick, broke up with me, etc. The worst. When I met FI, I felt a connection right off the bat though, and ever since he has showed me, & taught me how love should be. Its not just one particular thing, but everyday I realize just how much he means to me. I can't wait to marry him, he is my best friend : )
I LOVE this thread and all these amazing stories of people making it through such hardships together :)
We've been through our share of challenging stuff - a 4-year LDR, family deaths, unemployment - and we've made it through stronger, but what reminds me that he's the right man is that I still feel like I did when he'd step off the plane in our LDR - thrilled just to be next to him, no matter what we're doing. Plus, he totally just goes with whatever's on my mind and does it with a smile, no matter what crazy scheme I come home with that day (Hey meateater, lets start vegan meals once a week! I know you don't run, but let's do the couch-to-5K plan! I bought us a livingsocial deal for getting our a$$ses kicked at bootcamp for a month! Eat this unpronounceable food I found in the organic aisle! Let's take a trip... tomorrow!) He treats me so well, like a queen and an equal and his best friend, that I have no idea how I ever got along without him before.
I loved reading these uplifting stories. We aren't married yet, but I knew he was the one when he agreed to go down and help clean horse stalls simply because I asked him. He has no interest in horses what-so-ever, but was excited and willing to go when I asked.
Then, when my grandfather, who I was extremely close to, had a massive stroke, he left work to drive me 2 hours to go to the hospital and stayed for 2 days with me in the hospital. He made sure I ate and slept and then drove me home only to turn around that same night when my grandfather took a turn and ended up passing away.
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Have you ladies ever had a moment in your relationship where you just know that you are or did marry the right man?
My husband and I have been married a while now...3 1/2 years. Some of you might know that I'm currently pregnant, but we got some dismal news at the doctor's on Monday that I am likely to miscarry in the next 2 weeks. We had been TTC for 8 months prior to getting pregnant, and this news just totally devastated us.
I have to say though, that I feel as if it's bringing my husband and I closer together. I look at how he's handling all of this and how he's helping me through it, and I thank God every day that I married him. I couldn't have asked for a better partner to go through life with, and this just completely proves to me that I married the right man.
I'd love to hear your stories of how you fell in love with your husbands/FIs all over again b/c of how he's been there for you or things he's said!