Post # 1
Have you ladies ever had a moment in your relationship where you just know that you are or did marry the right man?
My husband and I have been married a while now…3 1/2 years. Some of you might know that I’m currently pregnant, but we got some dismal news at the doctor’s on Monday that I am likely to miscarry in the next 2 weeks. We had been TTC for 8 months prior to getting pregnant, and this news just totally devastated us.
I have to say though, that I feel as if it’s bringing my husband and I closer together. I look at how he’s handling all of this and how he’s helping me through it, and I thank God every day that I married him. I couldn’t have asked for a better partner to go through life with, and this just completely proves to me that I married the right man.
I’d love to hear your stories of how you fell in love with your husbands/FIs all over again b/c of how he’s been there for you or things he’s said!
Post # 3
My FI and I will not be married until next summer, but I know for sure he’s the right one for so many different reasons. Here’s one of those reasons…We just found out that my mom is dealing with cancer again for the 4th time. With my wedding coming up next summer I want nothing more than my mother to be here, and to be healthy…. for many more years if possible. Sometimes I completely lose it , bawling and crying to the point where I can’t breathe..but it’s at night when I’m in bed and have time to think. He’s always the one that’s right there…the only one who has ever seen me at my worst… telling me to let it all out, and rubbing my back until I’m finally tired and fall asleep. He’s always here to talk, and tells me I’m beautiful and strong every day. I feel like the luckiest girl alive to have him.
Post # 4
I’m so sorry for what you are going through. My husband and I don’t have the best luck with our health, so we are constantly taking care of each other and it reminds me how amazing he is and how he makes me want to be that way for him. Last year I also got pregnant and had a miscarriage. It was devistating, and physically hard for me b/c I had a crazy amount of bleeding and had to have 2 d&c’s. He was so amazing through the whole thing, I don’t know what I would have done without him. Also, I get severe migraines that leave me useless for days, and he does everything for me and around the house.
Feel free to PM me if you need someone to talk to who has been through it.
Post # 5
We are getting married in 8 days so he is technically not my husband yet. There are tons of reasons I know he is the right man but I will list a few.
1. I grew up with an EXTREMELY abusive and neglecting mother. Because of this I was dealing with depression and crying all the time. Even considering suicide. Most men would have run as fast as they could. But no, not him. He would sleep over at my house to make sure I was safe and bring me food to eat when my mother wouldn’t feed us. He eventually saved up money so we could move out together so I could get away from that horrible environment.
2. Last year I had my gallbladder removed. About two days after I started having severe pain. I went to the hospital and due to complications of the surgery, I was on the verge of death. My FI stayed with my for two weeks in the hospital every single night. He called out of work and didn’t care if he would have gotten fired. I can never thank him enough to this day for being with me through such a hard time.
3.This wedding planning has been nothing but drama upon drama with everyone including our families and when I cry about it which has pretty much been every single day for the past 15 months, he is always there.
4. Yesterday I was extremely sick with food poisoning. I was vomiting all day. He came home and took care of me. Layed in bed with me, massaged my back, made me soup. I love him so much and I can’t wait to marry him next weekend!
Post # 6
@2PeasinaPod: Um, when we lost Moose, it brought us closer than I ever thought possible. It sucks that it took losing Moose for us to get that close, but we did. Our communication is amazing. And I’m thankful everyday I have the best husband ever (granted, others may disagree).
Post # 7
Wow that’s so awesome that you ladies and your husbands have stayed strong through such difficult things! I can’t imagine what that’s like, or how hard it was.
My Fiance and I haven’t been through nearly that much, but we have had our fair share of drama, and fears. At the end of the day though, no matter how good or bad the day was, there’s no one else in the world I’d rather sit back and forget about the day with. When I’m crying, he makes me laugh, when I’m insecure he takes care of it. He pushes me to accomplish my goals, and encourages me to dream no matter what anyone says.
We’ve been together for over 2 years now, and though people say that lovey feeling where’s off in a year, it hasn’t for us and I don’t think it ever will. With every day that passes I love him more, and he still makes me giggle and blush every time he looks at me.
I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with him, as his wife, and as his best friend. 🙂
Post # 8
@TheFutureMcBride: I find it so crazy that it brought you and your hubby closer together and it’s bringing me and my husband closer together. You hear so much about couples losing children and breaking up b/c they fight over not being able to conceive, and I was just so fearful of that happening. I think b/c we know we’re in it together and we’re such a team, I can’t even imagine not considering his feelings in all of this.
As for everyone else…we really do have the best husbands/soon to be husbands in the world, don’t we?
Post # 9
@2peas: I’m really really sorry to hear that.
I knew when I got a call from my Dr’s office that said they found some cancer cells. I was on my way home at the time to take bf to the airport for a guys golf trip to FL. I told him when I got home. He was so sweet about it, and told me he didn’t want to go on the trip anymore and he wanted to stay with me. I made him go anyway. This was less than 4 months into our relationship – I knew for sure he was the one then.
Post # 10
My hubby and I have been through an amazing amount of things in our short relationship, cancer issues, miscarriages, hospital stays, etc. I also agree with you ladies that these things have pulled us closer together. We know we can make it through anything together. I would like to tell the most recent and lighter story of falling for him all over again:
I am currently working 3 jobs, not because we need the money, but basically because I am an ass 🙂 I am at my maxium stress level dealing with all of this, as well as a new husband, searching for a house (that we both agree on which is for another post), FMIL drama up the ying yang, starting a new business (1 of 3 jobs), all while juggling a 3 year old bonus son, which comes with it’s own issues. Ok, enough complaining…
I work first shift and DH works 2nd shift. I had a crappy day and DH and I had texted back and forth about it all day. I get home from work to a very clean and empty house, (this doesn’t happen often), I mean you can smell the clean, he didnt just pick up or hide things in closets 🙂 On the kitchen island is my nook, a beautiful vase of star gazer lilies, a reese’s peanut butter cup, and a little note that says, “You are the best wife a man could ask for. Tonight just take time for yourself. I have taken care of everything for you to have a relaxing night. I can’t wait to see later. I love you the most.” I dropped my bags and welled up a little. I know it was so silly and so simple, but it was perfect. I grabbed my $8 grocery store lilies, heated up the pasta he made me in the fridge, and read my Bethenny Frankel book, ate my peanut butter cups first, in my jammies, curled up on the couch with the dog. It was perfect 🙂
Post # 11
@mwitter80: LOVE this story!!!
Post # 12
@2PeasinaPod: I was so sorry to hear your news and I really hope the doctor was wrong! Glad to hear it’s bringing you two closer.
I have moments like this quite often actually. My DH treats me like a total princess, I never have to lift a finger and he does all the stressful household chores. So when he goes away on a trip I’m always reminded of how much he does without the tiniest complaint. Also, we dogsit for my friends often and DH does all the work walking the little cutie, picking up poo, playing with her and making sure she has food and water. I look at him while he’s doing all that and can’t keep from smiling. And of course there are the obvious things like how he compliments me all the time on my looks and smarts 🙂
Post # 13
This is such a sad, but heartwarming thread. @OP: You continue to be in my prayers.
Here’s when I knew:
I had only been dating my FI for about 7 months when I went on vacation with his family to the shore. We were about 6 hours away from my home by car. I got a phone call about halfway through the week that my grandma had passed away. My FI (boyfriend at the time) not only left his family vacation to drive me home, but then he came to my grandmother’s viewing (and smiled through a string of exboyfriends that came through the line) and funeral AND was even a pallbearer (we don’t have a whole lot of men in our family). I had always known I wanted to marry him, but that solidified my thoughts beyond a shadow of a doubt.
Post # 14
@mwitter80: That’s so sweet!
Post # 15
@mwitter80: Oh. I just totally melted.
@2PeasinaPod: ((hugs)) I’m glad you and DH are finding strength in each other through such a difficult time sweetie.
Post # 16
So I had a particularly craptastic day when I got fired from a job. The one and only time I’ve been fired. I came home, bawled my eyes out while blubbering what happened, and he looked at me and said “Why are you so upset? You hate your boss and you hate that job! I know you don’t like feeling like you failed but baby you can do anything you want! Forget about that guy and go chase your dreams!”. He was so right. He’s my fiercest defender and I love that he’s always in my corner fighting for me and supporting me.
Whenever one of us says “I love you” the other says “I love you more” and back and forth. I just feel like when he says “I love you more” it’s the most sincere heartfelt words that have ever come out of his mouth. I just know he would go to the ends of the earth for me.