Post # 1
Let me just say, I have never felt this way. I was that insecure girl who just came out of a 4-year relationship. I didn’t know what I wanted in life or who I even wanted. Not an assertive person, afraid to express myself.
I met this man a couple of weeks ago, and I have never felt this way. Ever. I feel like I’ve known him forever. I feel like I’m experiencing falling in love for the first time. I can’t go a day without seeing him. I miss him al the time. I hate talking on the phone, and I want to call him. I never initiate physical intimacy, and I have been. I’m never that girl who “tells it like it is” when it comes to her feelings. It’s so easy for me to with him. I think about marrying him, having children with him.
I was never like this with my ex. We lived together, bought a house together, the whole nine yards. I never missed him like this. When we talked about marriage, I felt weird. When I didn’t see him for a week (even in the beginning), it wasn’t a big deal.
I’m afraid if I’m just experiencing this because I’m older, wiser, and miss being in a relationship. Or… is this the real deal?
I actually cried to my friends after our first date telling them I was going to marry him.
Post # 2
Happened to me. Got out of a TERRIBLE 3 year relationship, was not looking to date. Met him at a party. I swear it felt like I knew him better than I knew myself, instantly. I saw him within, as if we were of the same substance. Granted we went through ups and downs, including a break up, but that is the course of most relationships. He’s now my fiancé.
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2015 - Malibou Lake Mountain Club
erin013 : same. Was in a craptastic relationship for years. When i met my now hubby, i knew.
Post # 4
Happened to me too. I got out of a 22 year marriage. Met DH 5 months later and I just knew. Then he called me for a date…..6 weeks later. 😁
Post # 5
I have felt instant overwhelming attraction like that for a person when I first met them. It’s rare for me, but has happened once or twice. I’ve also been burned with that lol when the person showed their true colors later on, so I tend to be skeptical of “love at first sight.” (Not that it does’t happen…just that you need more time than one meeting to know if someone is your forever match!)
While I had a really good feeling about FI after our first date, I definitely did not know he was the one at that point. The more time we spent together, the more my feelings for him deepened and I gradually did become 100% confident he was the one for me, but no it was not a sudden lightbolt thing during our first meeting.
Post # 6
This is 100% how I felt when I met my FI: I knew we had something really special and I knew I’d never felt that way about anyone before. Before I met him I was sure I’d never get married or have kids because of a string of bad relationships and then all of a sudden I wanted things I didn’t think I wanted before.
There is always the honeymoon period of every relationship but I feel like this was different.
Post # 7
Yeah, same story here. Less than a year after ending a 6 year relationship, I met my husband. By our second date I knew he was it.
Post # 8
erin013 : Exciting!! I knew my DH was someone who had potential from the first date. We moved in together at 3 months and married at 11 months. BUT not everything ends up roses and fairies. DH’s old best friend has a line up of girls who think he’s the one because he’s charismatic and attentive. Let yourself fall but also keep your head about you 🙂
Post # 9
I had been separated for 8 months when I met my current SO. Although we had an instant spark that I hadn’t had with any other guy I had met before, admittedly, because of some trust issues, I wasn’t certain until after a month or two. But he apparently knew after two weeks of dating that I was the one.
ETA: for sure being more mature and having experienced a failed marriage really does give a more complete picture of what you want and knowing when you have or have not found that.
Post # 10
I had just broken off a 3 year relationship 5 days before meeting FI. I met him and that night told my college roommate I met my husband and that I’d marry him someday. Everything moved so fast. We said I love you after 2 months, moved in together after 3. We’ve been inseparable! Exactly 6 years later (minus two days 😉) we are getting married this fall. My friends and family thought we were crazy at the early stages, but we just knew!!!
Post # 11
I only needed the first kiss to know I was going to marry him someday. I knew within the first ten days of meeting (we met traveling Israel together on our Birthrights) that I felt like I had known him forever, we just needed to catch up on the last ten years. Seriously I went home after that first kiss and told all my friends and my mother (that was a mistake) that we would be married someday. The mistake was it took a loooooooong time for us to be financially ready to have the wedding and life we wanted, 8 years in fact, so she’s been like “when’re you going to get married already??” for about 7.5 years.
Post # 12
I didn’t really just know, I didn’t think about it. With all of other relationships (all crappy) I had to constantly wonder about it and question if it was right but with DH I never thought about if anything was wrong, it all went smoothly and we just went with the flow. I hope this makes sense lol.
Post # 13
- Wedding: February 2018 - Emerald at Queensridge
Yep. I was in a terrible relationship for about three years. Met FI (while I was still in the crappy relationship! But I broke up with him to go on a date with FI) and on our first date I knew I would marry him. 🙂
Post # 14
I had a horrible breakup and went on a series of meh first dates with a bunch of guys for a few years, but when I went out with my now FI, it was just different. I’ve always been able to completely be myself and say how I feel with him and I’ve never had that with anyone else. I’ve felt more “crazy in love,” so to speak, in other relationships, but I’ve never felt more secure or happy.
We were actually so sure about each other that we set our wedding date after three months of dating, which is something I never thought I’d do!
Post # 15
When DH and I first started dating, I used to tell my friends that we were either getting married and living happily ever after, or the relationship was going to crash and burn in the worst way. I had a really really bad habit of self sabotage back then.
Happily ever after it was.
It hasn’t always been easy, and we have had some hurdles thrown our way, but we stick together and power through. I couldn’t ask for a better man.❤️