Post # 1
I’ve recently noticed a trend on FB…. People asking details about how planning is going for ‘your’ wedding and such. But further, saying things like ‘I better be invited!’ and ‘when and where is the ceremony?’
After seeing these and knowing the me and my SO want a smaller afair- I’m almost worried about posting anything regarding our relationship when it does change to engaged. I don’t want people to assume they’re invited. Hell, I had a coworker tell me she can’t wait for my wedding….um I’ve known you for 1 year and don’t plan on inviting a lot of extended family??
Any other ladies think about this?
Post # 3
Personally I keep my relationship completely off of Facebook. If you’re that concerned maybe don’t change your status.
Post # 4
I don’t post anything about the wedding on Facebook. I think that’s just asking for people to comment on it?
Post # 5
After the status change and a few ring pics (which I didnt leave up that long) I did not say a single word about my wedding on facebook… nor did anyone else ask me about it there either.
Post # 6
Other than changing our “status”, we haven’t mentioned anything wedding related since we got engaged a year ago. We really don’t post anything personal so it hasn’t been an issue for us.
Post # 7
I cant help but to laugh….. My Fiance and I have not changed our status on Fb for this exact reason. We have decided on a small intimate wedding and not everyone (family or friends) will be invited so to avoid feeling the pressure we left it as ” in a relationship with” . But I do love those friends who are aware of us getting married, and keep asking whether or not the wedding is still on b/c we havent changed it yet. I often wonder do people really live there life through FB?
Good luck!!!! (sorry for venting also)
Post # 8
I had a coworker ask me what I wanted for my wedding, it was kind of weird cause I didn’t really consider who would be invited from the office. And if I invite one, do I have to invite the rest and it is just…SO AWKWARD.
Post # 8
Aside from changing my relationship status to “engaged” I don’t put anything wedding related on Facebook.
Post # 9
It is totally inappropriate for people to assume an invitation to your wedding – that said, if you don’t want to deal with it, you shouldn’t change your status or mention it at all on FB.
I personally don’t even define my relationship on FB at all – nor do I make any posts about the wedding plans, etc.
Post # 10
I changed my status to engaged, but after that I didn’t post a single thing about wedding planning. It is rude to discuss details of an event in front of people not invited to said event, and IMO that includes social networking.
Post # 11
I have a facebook friend who I barely know that has posted not once, but TWO times on my wall that he can’t wait for him and his wife to get their invitation to the wedding. I don’t even know how to respond to that so I just ignored him.
Any wedding details that I post on my wall I only share with my list of close friends who would be invited to the wedding anyhow..
Post # 12
Ok so I’m not alone in that! Good to know! I was like moritified when I saw that my Future Sister-In-Law posted she ‘bought my wedding dress =)” and then had a flood of “OMG can’t wait for my invitation!” and “You’ll be a gorgeous bride! Me and hubs are trying to figure out when we’ll come in town” and they havent even reserved a venue yet!
I like your plans…change status and then no posts about wedding. Taking note for the future.
Post # 13
I only changed my status to engaged and that is it. I have been tempted to write other things on there but I am holding back simply because I don’t want things like that happening.
Post # 14
Personally I feel that if you post updates about your wedding each person that sees your updates is happy for you and wants to feel included and thats why they ask more questions and assume they will be invited. I didnt post about my wedding on facebook at all.
Post # 15
Basically, with Facebook, I put on there what I would be comfortable telling every single person on my friends list in person or in a letter. So I changed my status to engaged, but that’s it. Keeping all the other details off helps to cut down those awkward “can’t wait for your wedding!” situations, but it doesn’t eliminate them, as you’re still going to run into people and deal with it.
Some people take a more middle of the road approach… they put up when they got engaged, plus one or two other things like “got the dress”.
And then other people post every tiny detail… “meeting with the florist today!” “Got my wedding band, wearing it in 72 days!” “booked a DJ!”… if I wasn’t invited to those weddings, I’d probably feel bad that I was seeing all of that stuff only on Facebook and not invited to experience it. As it is, I just really don’t need to know these things.