Post # 1
I’ve made the unfortunate mistake of determining my current boyfriend is ‘the one’ for me too early on in the relationship. I knew it about 2 months into the relationship and he’s said the same within the first few dates. Well since I’ve known I want to spend the rest of my life with him, I can’t stop thinking about him proposing and getting engaged, and I’ve only been with him a year!! I think once you realize that special person is it…it all goes downhill from there. Every holiday, birthday, xmas is looking forward to that ring, and almost every conversation seems to contain thoughts on when it’ll happen. Has anyone else made the same mistake I have? Cause god only knows the sooner you realize the harder it is to wait..
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s really a mistake if you love the other person. Have you talked to him about your future together yet? I don’t think a year is too soon, either…Mr. Grape and I got engaged after four months (though we took a lot of flak for it at first!).
Post # 4
yes, made the same mistake. I had been best friends with him for 6 years, and we had dated before, once for only a few months long distance and then again for sixth months when he traveled halfway across the country to live with me while I was in an out-of-state college. This time, we got together and I told him from square one that I wanted to be with him, and that this time I was serious and I only wanted him to join me if he wanted to be serious with me as well. He agreed. I knew he was the one right away and thought the perfect time for a proposal would come at 1 year, right after moving in together. Here we are at three years…
The past two have been torture and it’s been brought up a million times and been the source of quite a few tears. But yeah, I definitely knew he was the one before he did.
Post # 5
We both knew around five or six months in the relationship we wanted to get married one day. Well three and a half years later I’m still waiting lol. We have circumstances that are preventing it right now but maybe a year and a half from now I’ll get lucky. I know it sounds hard but just try to enjoy the relationship it won’t be like this forever.
Post # 6
I don’t think its a mistake to know that early on, but I agree with you on the fact that it makes waiting feel like torture!
My boyfriend and I knew about a couple months into our relationship that this was IT (he had never told anyone else he loved them and he said when he realized he wanted to say that to me that he knew 🙂
Buuuut it has made waiting not so fun… every special occasion makes me get my hopes up just a little!
Post # 7
Adenine and I knew almost right away. He told me before I said anything, I took a bit longer to fall for him than he did for me 🙂 I know we were way too fast and too young but my parents knew they were with “the one” right away too, and got engaged younger than Adenine and I are, and are still happily married after 27 years so I’m not too worried… I know that Adenine and I are not going to get engaged until after he’s done teacher’s college, but I still can’t help sighing over rings and dresses and cakes and flowers and… well, you know.
Post # 8
Yeah, my SO wanted to marry me before I was there.LOL BUT I’m still here waiting, 3 days from 2 years together. Just crazy!
Post # 9
we knew [and admitted] about our 2nd month in and well, it’s been 5 years and we’re still not engaged yet. but since we’re long distance, i haven’t had the whole, holiday and special occasion anxieties yet.
Post # 10
Just be sure you don’t loose focus over it and miss out on all you’ve been blessed with! My SO and I were together for four years before he popped the question. We knew for years that this was it… but we enjoyed our time together as a couple and watched our relationship grow stronger. Now that we’re engaged, I’m glad it happened when it did and not any sooner! It was worth the wait, and although if he had of asked years ago, I’d have given the same answer… it happened at the best time for us!
Post # 11
I know exactly how you feel! I also realized early in the relationship that my boyfriend and I are in for the long haul.
We have been together for a 1 year and half and all I can think is getting engaged but because both of us are in school (he in law school and I am in graduate program), we want to finish the program before we enter the next phase of our lives.
Thank God he is finishing in early summer and me too. But one good thing is that we are going away this Christmas and he promised me that we would talk about our long term plans. So excited!
Post # 12
Ah you sound like me! He and I both admitted around month 2 or 3 that we realized on our first date that something was special/different. Around the 9 month mark we started talking about the future and I have been itching for a ring since!! He said at our upcoming anniversary I will probably be lucky and get what I want, but I still hold out that I’ll be surprised before then at each birthday and holiday. It’s not a mistake to realize that they are ‘the one’ early…it just makes waiting stink all that much more!!
Post # 13
We’ve always known as well, but I ask myself constantly to step back and make sure that everything we’re doing is right and at the right time. Enjoy dating!
Post # 14
@Uracil: I love the “names” you have given yourself and your SO!! Super cute!
Post # 15
@laurana: It doesn’t “all go downhill from there”!!! Seriously? Treasure every amazing new experience together knowing that you want to be with him forever. It isn’t all about a ring. Live your life and it will happen when it happens. Stop putting so much pressure on it, and allow the firsts to happen, and it will be amazing!
Post # 16
Enjoy what you have! it will come soon enough…FI and i dated for about a year and a half before he popped the question, i think we both knew pretty early on as well that we were meant to be! i knew we would get engaged but i was expecting it to be around this time (the holidays) he surprised me in july with a ring.