Post # 1
So, in the next week or so, my BF comes back from an overseas trip and he mentioned he wants to talk about engagement stuff. Aside from being totally curious about what he wants to say (obviously), i also wanted to ask you all about your emotions when you have serious talks with your SO.
We have talked marriage and kids and wanting to live in Florida in the future etc, and so this will not be an out of the ordinary talk – except that none of those talks had a 10 day lead up… and usually, we’re both very calm and collected with some smiles as we talk.
My question i guess is to do with how you acted when you guys talked about getting engaged? Were you all serious and “business” talking, or were you giigly and excited, or something in the middle?
I guess i’m just a little curious about your experiences!!! 😀
Post # 3
I’m probably not a good story to copare yourself to. We have a son together and I moved to another country so the 3 of us could be together (before we were engaged). Most of our serious discussions about wedding/engagement plans were riddled with all sorts of emotions, mostly tears and frustration from my side, and frustration (from all the pressure from all sides) from him.
My advice for you is to take the next few days and really collect your thoughts and expectations about your pending engagement/proposal. Would you hate it if he did it in public? Do you want him to get your parents’ blessing? Is there a timeline you have in your head? These are things to think about so that neither of you disappoints the other.
Post # 4
Most of the time we just joke around about it teasing (especially if he’s tipsy lol) But when we talked about it seriously I was smiling but super nervous and excited, so much so that I can’t tell you for sure what his emotions were lol I think he was more contemplative than anything else. And like he didn’t want to give to much away from how he was feeling (not just yet lol)
Post # 5
We talked ALOT about the engagement, and future plans…
We wanted to make sure we both wanted the same things in life, and in his words “that my engagement and ring were everything i had every dreamed of.” *so cute*.
He has a divorce under his belt, so i think he was being more opinionated and detailed the second time around. lol
We talked about where we would like to get married, who would come, family permissions, the ring, kids, etc…
HOWEVER the biggest most akward topic was: WHEN WILL IT HAPPEN!!! I would vere away from that topic and leave it to chance, cause waiting sucks. LOL. and it feels way better to be suprised.
We dicussed a time “estimate” of course, but nothing concrete.
In my personal opinion talking about it is very healthy, makes sure everyone is happy.