Post # 1
DH and I have a mutual friend that we seriously care a lot for. He’s such a good friend, and a loving and caring person in general. He is 30 years old and hasn’t been in a relationship for awhile. He was very lonely and always commented that he was until he started dating this girl. They have been together MAYBE 4 months (the 2nd time I ever met her was at our wedding). They just told us they are moving in together. This concerns me so much because they are still in the extreme lovey-dovey stage, and I doubt have even had a fight yet. I just have never seen this end well, and I’m concerned for him. On the other hand, he is a grown ass man and can and will do whatever he wants. What say you?
Post # 3
He is a grown ass man and can and will do whatever he wants.
Seriously. Either it will work out, or it won’t. Why does it matter to you?
Post # 4
I say he’s a grown ass man. They’re moving in together–not eloping.
Post # 5
@shellyjean: If they were getting married i MIGHT say something…but they are just moving in together…all is fine!! 🙂
Post # 6
Sometimes it’s hard because you want to protect your friend. BUT a friend of mine met a guy, moved in with him a month later, got engaged about 3 months after that, got married and have been happily married for years. So hey, who knows.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t say anything, this is not your business.
Post # 8
If it doesn’t work out they will find that out. My parents met and got married within 6 months of everything and my mom was only 19. They’ve been married for 30 years. Sometimes people don’t need time.
I doubt anything you say will even matter, as he’s old enough to make his own decisions.
Post # 9
As you said, he is a grown ass man and can and will do whatever he wants.
If it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t work out. But maybe it will! It’s not like they’re the first people to ever move in together quickly. It actually happens all of the time!
Post # 10
I can sense your concern and understand why you are so there’s no need to be rude. I guess you see it as an “infatuation” stage right now. Especially because he was single for awhile. But there’s really not much you can do. If you’d like to voice your concern, then do so. But definitely be polite about it. Other than that, he’s on his own. I wish the best of luck to him.
Post # 11
@deliciousappleblue: @ejs4y8: @LGenz:
Let him make his own decisions. I personally would be happy for him.
Post # 12
I moved in with an ex after like 3 weeks. My friends told me I was crazy but did I listen? No, because I can make my own decisions. All there comments did was piss me off and make me stay with my ex longer than I should have because I didn’t want them to be right. Life lessons I guess. I wouldn’t say anything, let him them figure it out on their own.
Post # 13
Mr.G gave me a key to his house and car a month or less after we started dating. I moved in about a month after that. Now that I have my own car, he has the spare key (in case I lock myself out, or he wants something faster than his car hehe), and yup, we’re still living together. Have we fought, yup. Did we make up, yup.
Life is so damn short! If he’s happy let him be. He’s grown and he will do what he wants to do…mistakes and all. Be a loving and supportive friend no matter what happens, and he will love you for it.
Post # 14
My Gmom once commented to me about how old and wise she is and how she constantly sees younger people making big mistakes and wishes she could stop them. But imagine how obnoxious that would be!
We should be allowed to make our own mistakes and while this might be one, it’s not your place to speak up. If two adults have decided to move in together after 4 months, I promise they won’t change their minds after a friend warns them that it’s a bad idea. They might just choose not to hang out with that friend anymore.
Post # 15
If we didn’t have roommates/leases at the time, we probably would have moved in together after 4 months. We had to wait until 11 months because of those things, but we new very early on that we wanted to live together. A few friends gave me a hard time about it and 3 years later I’m still a little hurt and don’t feel as close to them. And fwiw, we are still going strong and very very very rarely have a fight.
Post # 16
@Mrs.LetsGoPens: I wasn’t really asking if I should step in and make his decisions for him, but thanks. I mainly just wanted opinions on the situation in general.