- 4 years ago
- Wedding: January 2014
So I was chatting with my FI about how many tuxes we need to hire for our dads, FI, and the three groomsmen. My FMIL has offered to pay for them, since English ettiquette is to cover the costs of the wedding party. Then my FI starts talking about hiring more. This is the conversation that ensued:
FI: We can offer suits out so that people are well dressed.
Me: We still have to pay for them…
FI: Well, I offered to Dave and Paul (his work friends)
Me: What?! Honey, the only people wearing the tuxes are people in the wedding party and our dads. Random guests don’t.
FI: Don’t they?
Me: No, not at all.
FI: Is this an American ettiquette thing?
Me: I’m pretty sure it’s an anybody ettiquette thing! I’m not having your mum pay for more tuxes!
That man… just deciding to let his friends, who are not in the wedding party, wear the matching tuxes? What a weirdo. I’m pretty sure this is not a British thing– at the wedding we went to in England I certainly didn’t see random guests matching the wedding party! Can a UK Bee please confirm this isn’t usual?
Anyway, what weird wedding assumptions has your partner had?