Post # 1
Now that we are married, is it customary to go to a wedding together if your invited to it? I will elaborate.
A guy my husband knows has given my husband a invite when he saw him this past week. Guys used to work years ago in the same building but with different companies. I have only met the guy once about 4 years ago. I would feel weird to go to a wedding where I wouldnt know anyone. However, my husband obviously wants to go.
Have you or your spouse ever gone alone to a wedding? Would you or you spouse go even if you dont know anyone? Would it be weird if I didnt go, but my husband does?
When your married, are you always supposed to go to a wedding if your spouse goes?
Whats the right thing to do? What would you do? Sorry if I repeat myself. This is the first wedding invite we got since we ourselves have gotten married and am confused about this. I think I might be overthinking this. lol
Thanks for any and all help. 🙂
Post # 2
I would attend any event to which I was invited with my husband. It doesn’t matter if I know anyone or not. Adults should be able to socialize and make small talk with the people at the same table or with the other guests during cocktail hour.
I don’t think there is any rule that you should or must attend with your spouse, but I am sure he would enjoy your company rather than attending on his own.
Post # 3
I would go. I don’t think this a hard and fast rule if you absolutely cannot stand the idea of going, but I’m sure your husband will appreciate your company.
And people attend weddings of people they don’t know all the time. There will be a few dates at our wedding that I’ve never met, and I’m glad that they are coming because I think that our invited guests will have a better time if they have a date there with them :).
Post # 3
Earlybride: We would both try to go to any event where we were invited. If your husband really wants to go, I would make sure to go too. That being said, there are times one of us can’t go and we make it work just fine. We’re adults-we can talk and mingle with others without the other being there. Still, if we are both available, we go together.
Post # 5
Thanks for the help bees. What you have said makes sense. Thanks agian. 🙂
Post # 6
When you’re married you should always be invited along with your spouse. That doesn’t mean that you HAVE to go.
Post # 7
Earlybride: yes i would go and vice versa. Unless you have severe anxiety where you are not comfortable in situations where you dont know anyone, then I understand. But if thats not the case, you should go and keep your husband company bc he probably wont know too many people either. It would be even more weird if you didnt go. I went to a wedding once where I hardly knew anyone but was able to make small talk and it ended up being a lot of fun. Dont wprry about not knowing anyone, you will be with your husband, and thats all you need.
Post # 8
Earlybride: Were you invited? Either by name, or is it an invitation for two?
if yes, then I would certainly attend. Yes it would be a little weird for him to go without you. It doesn’t matter that you don’t know anyone else – you are your husband’s partner.
If you’re not invited then it’s different – either your husband needs to clarify (it might be an oversight) or decide whether to attend alone.
Post # 9
aussiemum1248: Actually the guy just handed my husband the envelope. Neither of our names were on it. I just assumed we both were invited. But then the guy knows we are married. Lol
Post # 10
Earlybride: OK, then I’m pretty sure you’re invited too. So like I said above, I’d attend. I haven’t been in that exact situation but there have been others (e.g. husband’s work functions) and I always feel welcome because I’m his wife.
Post # 11
If I had another obligation that prevent me then no I wouldn’t attend and my husband would happily go on his own. If I had nothing else on then I would attend.
Post # 12
Earlybride: Both my SO and I have done it for each other and actually had the most fun at those weddings. I was so so so nervous to bring him to one of my high school friend’s weddings. He had met the bride before, but he knew none of the guests. Add into that, I had duties to do and had to leave him alone for long periods. He ended up having a blast.
I was also nervous to go to his buddy from college’s wedding – I hadn’t even met the bride and groom before! But I ended up having a super fun time.
Yes it might be awkward for a minute, but just be friendly and smile… and then get down on the dance floor!
Post # 13
My husband seems to think any invite we receive from one of his friends means we both have to go even if I don’t know them or don’t want to go. I go with him because he likes to have me on his arm. I show well. LOL. No really he wants me there; we have a good time together. I would not mind if he attended solo and I would definitely attend a friend’s wedding solo if he didn’t want to go.
Post # 14
Earlybride: I do not think that you have to attend, especially if it would make you uncomfortable. Just because you are invited as a unite somewhere, does not mean you have to go as a unit.
I went to a destination wedding years ago with a BF (not DH) and he was in the wedding party. I did not see him the entire morning/early afternoon of the wedding day (he was getting ready and taking pictures) and at the reception the bride and groom had the whole bridal party sitting together (I was not in the party so I was sitting at a table full of strangers). It was the longest reception of my life. I did my best to converse with people but it really did not work out. I really wish I just stayed home that day.
Post # 15
I would go, but then again, I love any excuse to get dressed up and go out with him. But if I didn’t want to go, then I just woudln’t go, I dont see anything wrong. Married doesnt have to mean attached at the hip if you’re uncomfortable and dont want to go and he’s ok with that.