When/How to announce Adults Only for the wedding??

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsPhilly:  The etiquette experts will be here soon, I’m sure.

I would add Adult reception to follow  in the bottom left hand corner of the invitation.

Address the invitations to the people who are invited.

Use the rsvp card to indicate  ___ seats have been reserved in your honor (although the aforementioned experts will say that’s not proper)

If anyone reponds indicating they are bringing anyone other than the named invitees, phone them and explain that there must be a misunderstanding, but you are not able to accomodate (little Georgie). “I am sure having planned your own wedding, that you will understand (for the one who wants to bring her 18 month old). Do not make excuses, or they will go into problem solving mode.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Make sure to start spreading it by word of mouth.  Instead of saying “no kids” say you are planning an adults only reception so everyone can really party and not worry about getting too naughty.  When you send out invites, only list the names of the adults you are inviting on the envelopes and add “Adult Reception to Follow” on the invitation.  You will still deal with a few co-dependent parents that could never dream of leaving little Suzy or Johnny at home but be firm and let them know that you understand if they can’t make it due to commitments to their children.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Add Adult Cocktail Reception to Follow.  If you don’t put “adult” guests won’t necessarily realize that a cocktail party isn’t appropriate for children.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@MrsPhilly:  we have it on our website (& the website URL on the invite). We’re having a similar evening wedding & the wording we used was “Due to space constraints and the tone of the event, we respectfully request an adults-only event. We apologize if this inconveniences any of our guests.”

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

  1. @MrsPhilly:  we put “adult reception to follow” on the actual invite. Then, we put “blank (fill in number) seats have been reserved in your honorr on the response card. 

 

Also so helps to address only to those being invited. 

 

 

 

I would make make the font smaller and have “adult cocktail reception to follow”, we did that and didn’t have kids at all :). 

 

 

 

Hope that helps!

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@MrsPhilly: I actually adapted it from another Bee… the search function proved quite helpful but I just needed to adjust it a little 🙂  We’ve done an FYI section so that was under the heading “Are children invited?”

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

On my RSVPs, I put names of invitees.

                                     Will Attend    Will not Attend    Steak      Fish         Vegan

 

Mr,    blank blank

Mrs.   blank blank

 

Obviously you will not need the menu selections, but I want to make it clear, that invites are not transferable.  If RSVPs come back with changes or extra names, i will call.

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