- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2012
Ladies, I did it again. I had an outburst. My SO and I were brainstorming interior decorating ideas and he commented that he is now thinking that perhaps we should consider having a less expensive, much smaller wedding to save money for renovations in his apartment. And, that simply pissed me off.
He already has full control over this “stupid” engagement process (yea, I went there) and now he wants to dictate the wedding too?
I know he was simply tossing out ideas but I said “no way.” Since, he’s made a big deal about proposing and needing to propose on his time/in his way/when he wants to, I, now more than ever, want my ideal wedding. Forget about cutting corners. Way back when, I was all for a small wedding, a low key engagement… but after this process of highs/lows and waiting, waiting, waiting… I want what I want now. At the vert least, if we’re going to have pre-engagement conversations about marriage/living together then I need to feel like my comments have just as much weight in our decisions as hi.
I am sure at least some of you ladies can attest to the way I’m feeling, right? Like you have no place in this process… this process which is supposed to be an exciting time, marking the days until the “official/legal/spiritual” start of you and your SO as one… all because your SO thinks he has all the time in the world to propose. (Mind you this is coming from the perspective that my SO and I have already discussed where we are at and our marriage intentions… there ais no confusion there.)
My SO retorted that he wish I could be happy with the proposal because planning one makes him happy and it breaks his heart that I can’t just let him be and be happy about the fact that he will propose… eventually. I said I am always happy when he is happy… but not when his happiness is at my expense.
Where’s the love there?