Where am I going on my Honeymoon? Um nowehere…

posted 3 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 3
226 posts
Helper bee



#1 congrats on getting married to the love of your life! That’s the most important part

#2 don’t feel bad, see #1 lol you are already veryyy lucky 🙂 I would just tell the guests who ask: right now my husband and I are just looking forward to getting settled into our new home (if u dont already live together) or taking advantage of our bonding time as newlyweds! We’ll probably think about a honeymoon perhaps for the spring or summer break when hubby has time off 🙂

Post # 4
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@HourThyme:  a lot of couples put off their honeymoon.  i for one didn’t go on our honeymoon right away.  we did a little something a few months later.

if anyone asks, just let them know that you both decided to wait on the honeymoon for a while and that you just want to settle into your home as husband and wife for now.  or, you both haven’t decided where you want to go and you are waiting for the dust to settle after the wedding before you make that decision.

Post # 5
8677 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Been married for nearly a year. Haven’t been on a honeymoon. My husband can’t get time off and he is deployed more than he is home.

A honeymoon is just a vacation. You can celebrate your love with him every day. No need to feel bad.

Post # 6
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Not going on a honeymoon right away bc fi starts work literally day after wedding but we want to go to Europe anyway and it’s too cold for that until may or june. Of course I’m a little sad about it, but we are going to make the best of it and the first weekend we have a chance to get away to a nice hotel and spa, we will. Surprisingly, not many people asked where we’re going. 

Post # 7
3442 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@HourThyme:  We didn’t honeymoon either.

1) Tell people you are saving up to go, &/or getting time off is an issue right now. Don’t worry about their reactions because people usually only ask for small talk reasons anyway.

2) Why should you feel badly just because there are factors that are getting in the way of a vacation after you get married (because, really, that’s all a honeymoon is). People have issues all the time that get in the way of taking vacations. Aside from the fact that vacation or fun & it sucks when you can’t take one, there is really nothing to feel bad or embarassed about…


Post # 8
15 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

Find a cute B&B in the area and do a “minimoon” for a weekend or a day or two after the wedding.  That way you can spend a little time with your new hubby and let the marriage glow sink in, and you have something to tell people.  Look for groupon specials or even try one of the travel sites that let you name your price.  The thrill of a good deal can add to the fun.

Post # 9
490 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Just say you’re not going on one and leave it at that.  It’s no one’s business but yours why you’re not going away anywhere.  

I hadn’t planned on going on one right away either (work reasons), but the work schedule cleared up and we went away.  Otherwise, we wouldn’t have gone until probably next year.

Post # 10
303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

we decided that since we paid for our wedding 100% ourselves, that we could wait a year to take our honeymoon.  this way we got everything we wanted for our big day but also we didn’t have to skimp on a good honeymoon.  

Couples Swept Away in Negril, Jamaica will be our honeymoon on our first anniversary.  😀

Post # 11
2546 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

for the same exact reasons (immigration+being broke+husband is a teacher) we haven’t been in a honeymoon yet. i just say “we haven’t been anywhere yet but we’ll probably plan something for next year”

Post # 12
6194 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

@HourThyme:  I didn’t really take one either, so my default explanation ended up being a variation of “we spent so much time planning the wedding that we couldn’t imagine planning a vacation on top of it! We are going to go somewhere a little later when it’s more convenient and we have the time to think about it.”

Post # 13
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012


A honeymoon is the traditional holiday taken by newlyweds to celebrate their marriage in intimacy and seclusion. Today, honeymoons by Westerners are often celebrated in destinations considered exotic or romantic.


For the record…

A Honeymoon… doesn’t have to be an extended trip to a far off exotic destination… altho that is AUTOMATICALLY what many people think of today when they hear the word (and hence the second line in the Wikipedia Definition)

In reality… a Honeymoon is what is the first sentence in the Wikipedia Definition says a time to be alone together as Husband & Wife and CELEBRATE one’s marriage in intimacy & seclusion.

So the fact that you cannot travel afar should not stop you from having some sort of Honeymoon… even if it is just a Mini-Moon now (a few days)

You can always have a more extended vacation that is exotic & romantic later.

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Your WBEE PROFILE says Chicago…

So that means you have the whole of the USA at your disposal to explore if you truly wanted to go somewhere

Nothing wrong with a “domestic” Honeymoon…

Lol, Heck there are lots of people the world over who come to the USA to Honeymoon.

If you really want to celebrate with a Mini-Moon in America, you could probably make it happen.

Lol, if America is the land that you love enough to want to immigrate, I am sure you would be happy to discover one of her many great Destinations

(USA in reality is almost as big as Europe… so lots of great places to explore)

If you need ideas, no matter your timeframe, budget or geography restrictions … just ask…


Post # 14
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@HourThyme:  I personally don’t think you owe anyone an explanation. People love to talk about themselves so use that to your advantage: “We aren’t taking a honeymoon. How is little Suzy/your dog/your new job?” Just change the subject and people will take a hint.

Post # 15
615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I mean with weddings a lot of days need to be taken off for work in the planning and getting everything together

you can say you dont have enough vacation days for the long honey moon that you want

you can say you haven’t decided/planned/thought about it yet

you can say you’re doing a staycation

you can say you’re saving up for a multiple destination honeymoon trip

you can say you’re just going to stay in the states and do things locally

you can say theres a lot of things you need to do right after the wedding that requires  your immediate attention so you can’t take off anytime soon (renovations, job, children, house, finances, family, illnesses etc etc etc)

Post # 16
2878 posts
Sugar bee

We will probably delay our honeymoon because FI’s college semester will start 3 days after our wedding. And being both students, we’re broke, so the extra 4 months to gather and save money are more than welcome. We’ll probably spend a few days in a romantic place closer to home, then have our real honeymoon later. When we’ll get married, it will have been over 2 years that we’ll be living together, and almost 3 years as a couple. It’s not like we needed the honeymoon right away to ”get to know each other”, if you know what I mean 😉

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