Post # 1
just a note, this post has no purpose, I’m just bored in this ice storm, and sick of my future sister in law.
My FI’s sister is a bridesmaid with a boyfriend, and they are attached at the hip. At my bridal shower, she asked me how the bridal party would be seated. We’re doing a banquet style bridal table that is situated in the corner, like a V. So she’ll be sitting there with the rest of the bridal party for dinner. just to eat.
she looked at me with pouty eyes and asked where her boyfriend would be seated. well, at a table, with other people, as a guest. for dinner. just to eat.
I think I stabbed her in the heart.
“but then after dinner we can sit together, right?”
“Oh, okay good.”
at my fiance’s brother’s wedding, they left right after they ate. so sweet.
Post # 3
I like how you prefaced this hahaha… that would annoy me too, I mean theres nothing you can really do, its just sort of obnoxious
Post # 4
@eliwhit: She sounds like a gem. 🙂 LOL.
Post # 5
This is exactly why my bridal party table will include the SO’s to the wedding party. You don’t see why she would be confused and hurt?
Post # 6
Why are you down on her for asking a perfectly reasonable question? Some brides these days are NOT having the bridal party at a head table. Their reasoning is that they want their wedding party to be with their SO’s during the reception.
Post # 7
I see why she’s upset! I absolutely hated being seperated from my DH (boyfriend at the time) when I was a bridesmaid. It was so isolating! It felt so much longer than I anticipated, and I felt bad leaving to go hang out with my boyfriend. That’s why we decided to do a sweetheart table at my wedding and my bridal party was able to sit with their significant others.
Post # 8
Kinda depends on the situation, but I see your ‘maid’s point. The last wedding we went to was for FI’s brother. Being a groomsman, he sat at the head table. I had to sit at a table with people I had never even seen, much less met, and I don’t even remember any of them. We had nothing to talk about, nothing in common that I recall, and I felt extremely out of place. I barely got to see FI through the entire event, and almost wondered why I even attended in the first place.
Post # 9
Guys, I don’t think she’s really that worried about it.. I think this was just a little vent post, no need to get high and mighty 🙂
Post # 10
I can understand why she’s upset. I’ve been both the BP member and the date of the BP member and sitting separately sucks, thats why we’re having a separate BP table for them and their spouses. As a bridesmaids I do what the bride wants me too but it doesn’t mean I like it.
I definitely don’t think you should change your plans or anything just because she’s unhappy but I do know what it feels like to have to sit separately, even if it is just for dinner.
Post # 11
Agree kingytobe! Way to state that!
Post # 12
This is why we did a sweetheart table.
I think its tough for the bridal party’s significant others to sit by themselves at a table with people they probably do not know, or at least do not know very well.Try to put yourself in her situation… and how you would feel if you and FI had to be split up at different tables during dinner for someone’s reception. It doesn’t seem like she’s being *that* ridiculous about it with asking the questions.
Post # 13
I can see why this would irritate you. If you cannot be seperated from your SO for a couple of hours you need to chill out. I think that if you seat him near a few people he knows then they both should be fine and they can frolick together after dinner.
She was asked to be a bridesmaid for the day and she should be up to doing the duties of a bridesmaid. I want my bridal party seated at my table because they are people I love and enjoy the company of and my wedding dinner should be the best dinner and the most fun I have ever had. I want to talk to those people and enjoy their company after running around like mad all day not really connecting with them. Hopefully she gets over it.
Post # 14
@kingytobe: I don’t think anyone is being “high and mighty”.
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
You want to hear uncomfortable? I went to my good friend’s wedding, and everyone who I knew (except me) was in the bridal party. They put me at a table with this crazy lady and her ADD son. Did I complain or ask for someone to sit with me? No, I plastered a smile on my face and supported my friend. Your BM is being a little girl. 😛
Post # 16
Sorry, I don’t mean to offend… I think that sometimes in here people just want to vent and then get a LOT of opinions, we all make choices that are right for us and have different obstacles