Where are the childfree by choice ladies?!

posted 3 years ago in No Kids
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am child-free by choice for right now because it’s my body and let’s face it when babies are born they are here for life.. My husband would like kids right now and does not like my timeline. Oh well. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee

CBC Bee here! I have always known that I was not interested in being a parent. I enjoy my friends and family’s children but it doesn’t spark the desire to have any of my own. This doesn’t stop my mother from treating the fact that I don’t want children like a dirty family secret though, lol!

We travel a lot. We also like to kayak and ride our bikes, spend time with our friends and family, go to movies, have Netflix marathons, try new restaurants, and volunteer. We really love the freedom we have and feel that we contribute to society in ways other than having children. Life is good!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

CBC here too! I got my tubes tied, so both sets of parents accepted the lack of grandchildren from us. We both enjoy traveling, and we both are very career focused, so we’d never have time for kids, even if we did like them! No sleeping in for us though, we have 2 cats that are fantastic alarm clocks and wake us at the same time every morning 🙂

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Both FI and I have always been CBC! I have just never had an interest in kids.

I want to continue to travel, take lavish (adult) vacations, sleep through the night, work late without guilt, splurge on myself without feeling like I should be spending it on I don’t know, school clothes or something…

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Childfree here.  I always knew I didn’t want kids & it was the right choice for me.  Dh has 2 adult sons from a previous marriage, which is perfect.  I get a sense of family without actual kids.

Dh had a vasectomy after the second.

We’re very happy being parents to our German Shepherds.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’m assuming you meant to post this in married life and not the parenting board.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Cbc here. It would be really nice to have our own section on the bee and I think it has been proposed in the past even. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

mm86:  No kids here.  

I’m not picking on you but it irks me when CBC people always feel it necessary to tack on that they like kids when talking about being childfree.  Why would choosing not to have them imply a dislike of them? Why should CBC people feel the need to defend themselves? 

Just my little soap soap box issue there.

CurlyCue:  You are misusing the term “Childfree By Choice.”  CBC is a conscious decision to not have children – ever.  It is not for people who plan to have them in the future or are on the fence or who would like to have them but can’t.  People in those categories are childless. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

FI and I are both CBC. Were in out 30s so this is a set decision although family doesn’t stop hounding us. We love our family’s kids but we also love the ability to enjoy our lives and not feel totally strapped for money. My gf had two kids before she was even engaged and they’re like 10 mo apart. We don’t want to be her, begging everyone for rent money every month because we had to quit our jobs to have two children at home. So were pretty content with our lives and prefer to enjoy camping, hiking and exploring together. Besides, we’ve got a bear sized cat and a rabbit who runs the house. Those are our fur babies:)

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

mm86:  No kids in our future! We like going out to eat, sleeping in.. so many things!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

BeeG35:  It was and the Bee flatly refused to create a childfree subsection.

Apparently, its fine for a wedding website to have a section and a gajillion threads dedicated to all things sprogging but inappropriate and unnecessary to acknowledge the childfree. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Zhabeego:  ok. CbC is forever not just deliberate family planning. Got it. Thanks

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

No child free section? I too would like that as a category because child free is a life choice and everyone has the right to make their own decisions regarding having children or not. 

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I don’t see why you’d need a CBC section. What would you post in it that couldn’t fall into other board sections?

“I’m going on a vacation because I’m CBC!”- Travel

“Husband and I are sleeping in today because we’re CBC!” – Married Life

“Inlaws are upset we’re CBC” – Emotional, Family, Married Life

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