- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
I need your opinions and sorry for this lengthy post….
First off, FI is british and I’m Asian. We currently live and work in the UK but have come to a point in our lives where we feel we should either move to asia permanantly or invest in a house in the UK (for 3-5 years) and then move back to asia when we decide to have children.
FI is pretty open to where we live but I am being so indecisive and non-committal. Just some background on me, I came to the UK when I was 18 to attend university (I am 27 now) and have always enjoyed being independent and making my own decisions. I always thought I would return to Asia eventually as that is where majority of my close friends and family are.
However, I have some apprehension about moving back to Asia as this would mean a big change for us. Alot of things in Asia are culturally different and I worry sometimes about whether my FI will be able to adapt. The weather is much hotter, workings hours are alot longer, government policies and attitudes are different and ..the list is endless! Also, my family is pretty close knit and “is all up in everyone’s business” which he isn’t used to at all.
But there are factors drawing me back to Asia as well like my friends and family members. I don’t make friends easily (and feel socially awkward) and often feel lonely without anyone other than my FI to talk to. I do have friends I meet up with occassionally but I prefer hanging out with FI and/or being at home. FI is very loving and committed and we spend all our free time together which is great…but I still miss having my mom and close friends around just to chat and have girl time.
So bees, please let me know what you think. Should i stay in the UK for the next 3-5 years or should we plan to move back to Asia at the end of this year?