Post # 1
I’m trying to figure out where I should sleep the night before our wedding day. While my fiance and I live together (and have done so for four years), I don’t want us to sleep under the same roof the night before the wedding. As such, he’ll be sleeping at his family home that night.
My first option is to sleep at my family home, a short 15 minutes away, or sleep at home (with my BMs, most likely). Sleeping at my family home has high sentimental value, obviously, but might not make sense logistically, since my hair salon is a two-minute drive from my house.
So, give me some advice, and tell me what you all are doing! What helped influence your decision?
Post # 3
I’d pick the place where you think you will get the best night’s sleep.
Post # 4
I’m staying in a hotel. Our house is really tiny and the idea of 9+ people gathering there at 4 a.m. to get hair and makeup done was just not going to work. Also, we’re having a morning ceremony, so I wanted to stay somewhere close to the ceremony location to minimize travel time in case we’re running behind schedule.
Post # 5
@gingernutjo: That’s a great point! I guess in my confusion I hadn’t considered that the point is to get a good night’s sleep!
@HeyKaraoke: That’s a great plan, and makes sense logistically!
Post # 6
At the hotel….because it’s easy! Also, the wedding is there, so all I have to do is ride the elevator down.
Post # 7
My DH and I did not live together and, in fact lived in different states. He stayed in a hotel near our venue, and I stayed at my own house. (My family also lived in another state.) My house was about 20 minutes from my salon, so that’s why I decided to do that. However, because my salon was an hour and a half from my venue (and it turned out to be two hours with heavy traffic), I regret that decision very much now. I wish I had not decided to cancel the suite I originally had booked for my MOH and me at the hotel in the city where my venue was and just had my dear friend and hair and make-up artist come to me instead. There were so many reasons I didn’t, but, in hindsight, I very much wish I had. As it turns out, there would have been other reasons why staying near my venue wouldn’t have been possible anyway, but I wish it had.
Post # 8
I spent the night before at the hotel with one of my bridesmaids and DH stayed at our home. It was nice being able to stay with her because we live half an hour from the town we had our wedding in. No need to cut your beauty rest short on your big day!
Post # 9
My fiancé is staying in our house and I will be staying at my parents house. My dress will be there (they have a better place to keep it once alterations are done), my sister/MOH will be staying there, it’s closer to our venue… Just all around a better option. And we don’t want to see each other til I’m walking down the aisle.
Post # 10
My mom, kids, MOH and I are staying at my FILs house where the wedding is. They live an hour from my house and since we will be there for the rehearsal the night before, it’s just easier for us to stay there. The makeup and hair people are coming to us the morning of.
Post # 11
I’m staying at a hotel – but we’re getting married in another country so I didn’t have the option of staying at my house. At this point, I’m not sure where FI is staying, but he very well may stay with me as there really aren’t any other options (unless we want to pay for another hotel room which we don’t really want to do).
Post # 12
I’m staying at a hotel because I have 10 bm, MOB, 2 flower girls, makeup artist, and beautician. I think that’s self explanatory!!!
Post # 13
I slept in the bridal suite at the resort we got married at–they threw it in as an extra for us (we got the night of the wedding for free as part of our package deal). 3 of my 6 BMs, plus my DD stayed with me. It was a blast!
Post # 14
@tennjm2663: Sleeping in a hotel a short walk from the venue, with FH. I’m actually surprised at how many people stay apart the night before… I don’t think I could do that… especially staying with FILs or friends or family members? No way! I’d never get a wink of sleep! Having anyone other than FH in the room where I’m sleeping is just… nooooono no no.
No, FH and I are going to sleep together in a nice cushy hotel bed, I’m gonna wake up, have a snack, take my favorite OTC sedative, probably post on here, then sleep a little longer (since one of them causes drowsiness), eat a leisurely breakfast with FH, we’ll go to the venue to do some setup since we’re allowed to do parts earlier in the morning… then we’ll head back to the hotel for some lunch and maybe relieve some tension and maybe another nap.
Around 2 or 3 pm we’ll go our separate ways to get ready, only to meet up again for our first look a couple hours later.
I have fairly serious anxiety, and FH is kinda my rock. I wouldn’t want to go it alone. I’m planning to be very restful and reclusive for most of the day prior (ceremony is at 7 PM) to save my energy and coping skills for showtime.
Post # 15
I stayed at the hotel in the suite where we got ready, and it was the same room DH and I went back to after the wedding. Our hair and makeup came there, and it was easier since most of my BMs were from OOT anyway and already staying in that area.
Post # 16
FO and I will both being staying in a hotel, in different rooms (heck, maybe different hotels!). My parents are “local” but my childhood bedroom is now my mom’s craft room so I’d have to sleep on the couch if I went there, plus they’re actually about an hour from our ceremony venue and outside of my H/MUA’s free travel zone. Our original plan was that FI would stay in a hotel and I’d stay in our house, but we just found out yesterday that we’ve moving halfway across the country so we will no longer have our house here (boo)!