- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
This is a vent and I apologize for it in advance:
My brother and his Fiance got engaged in May 2009, my Fiance and I got engaged the end of June 2009. My brother proposed for the simple fact that he had moved in with his Fiance and her parents were livid that they were living under the same roof and not married. They are both 35. whatever. Not the reason I would get engaged, but it seemed to work for them.
After my Fiance proposed we made the phone calls to our immediate families. When we got home from our vacation we went to visit my brother and his Fiance to talk to them and make sure we would not step on any toes because we wanted to start planning our wedding immediately. They told us they were waiting to plan and for us to do what we wanted.
Fiance and I called the church and found a reception venue and set our date by the end of July 2009. We called everyone and told them the dates, we sent out the save the dates in the December and well, I see my brother and his Fiance often and tell me then about our wedding plans.
In July 2010 my brother’s Fiance calls and says she will not be able to attend the rehearsal dinner or the wedding because she has to work. Forgive me, but she has known our wedding date for over a year and has the nerve to tell me she cannot get off from work. WHAT???? How can you not ask off? Not making the rehearsal is not a huge deal, but I cannot believe she will not be at our wedding. I cannot believe she thinks it is OK. She gets mad if my brother wants to do anything our family on holidays because she HAS to be with her family because that is what she has always done. In the last 4 years we have had to re-arrange celebrating everything because we have to do it on her schedule. I should not be surprised that she has said she was not attending because she is not the center of attention that day, but I am still shocked that my brother is OK with it and sees nothing wrong with it. He thinks it is a perfectly logically excuse.