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I am in the bridal business (not yet a bride) and I am turning 30 very soon.... people have *terrified* me by telling me that all the good men are taken after age 30 and that I won't find someone etc. etc. I feel like 60% or 70% of my friends are married / engaged. I live in NYC where women significantly outnumber men as well. I'd love input from brides and stories of how their love came to be :) Where did you meet your husband to be?
Our first contact came through a message from him to me on MySpace - I know! Totally random and not like either of us - he rarely uses a computer and is not the type to email people he doesn't know and I'm not the type to reply to random messages (I used to delete the ones I'd get on MySpace) but there was something about him and he was so cute that I wrote back, we corresponded for about a week and then actually MET at a train station before going to the zoo for an afternoon date. We've been together ever since!
Don't freak out about age or percentages - just be open to possibilities, ask friends for introductions, take advantage or the opportunities that present themselves to meet anyone new - you might just meet a wonderful guy! It's not worth being with someone until it's worth being with them. I'd much rather be single (and 32) than be in a relationship with someone who wasn't worth the effort, energy and commitment. Good luck!!!
I met my fiance through my best friend...they were dating. The second I saw him I knew i wanted him but I didn't want to be a bad friend so I did nothing about it. Then the firend told me she still loved her ex and was going to break things off with my now fiance. She told me she could tell I liked my fiance and told me to go for it so I did and now we are engaged and my best friend and I are still great freinds. In fact she will even be in our wedding.
Met my guy in med school, across the state from where we are from, and it turned out to be that we grew up 20 minutes from each other and had never crossed paths until then!
I met my FI through mutual friends when I moved back home when I quit college. We knew each other for about 5 years before we started dating. My FI is 33. So don't think all the good men are taken once they turn 30!
Through a friend of a friend of a friend.. after years and years of online dating, we stumbled across each other by accident. Definitely NOT all the good men are taken after 30 (think about it - neither are the women!). Just be open (esp to things like men with previous marriages.. actually makes them more emotionally available) and you'll find him!
I also met my FI through a mutual friend. We both became single and she gave each of us the nudge to "talk" :)
We grew up in the same area, attended the same high school and had even hung out with the same mutual friend and her husband at various gatherings. You could have knocked me over with a feather if you had told me we'd be getting married two years later...
I also agree with AnamCara - I would have rather stayed single than dated someone who wasn't right for me. I'm an encore and was in an 8 year marriage when the bottom dropped out. My radar tends to be very sensitive and I wasn't even looking to be dating.
When it's right, it's right.
He bought the townhouse next door!!! We chatted over the summer of 2007 on and off (once a week or so) and then Labor Day 2007 we stood outside talking for FOUR hours straight!!! The rest is history. :)
He used to always call me the "Girl Next Door", because I literally was. hehe
Not all the good ones are taken (after 30). My guy was 29 when I met him (so almost 30!) and he's perfect. :)
Mutual friends who brought him to my 80's party. I was dressed up like a female Michael Jackson wannabee and he was dressed up like Magnum P.I. Love at first sight!
We met at a concert. The floor was General Admission and we weaseled our way to about the 7th row, dead center. After the end of the 3-night concert, he drove back to Tennessee and I drove back to Rhode Island. This was the weekend of March 6th, and on August 4th he moved to RI. He proposed March 6th on our 1-year "anniversary".
Since then, we've done 26 more concerts together. We are trying to re-create our dancefloor to look like this.
We met at a local bar. We were both there for happy hour with friends. I saw him across the bar and we kept looking at each each other the whole time. We finally spoke and the rest is history! I was 32 and he was 26 when we met. Age is nothing but a number!
We met in middle school! LOL. We became friends after being lab partners in physics during high school. We ended up at the same engineering school and same residence hall, started dating...
we pledged our university business fraternity the same semester in college. That probably doesn't make you feel better. But the sentiment that all good men are taken by 30 is absolutely not true!!! Some men just choose to advance themselves on the carrier front and do a lot of travelling or whatever it is that men do before they feel that they are ready for a long term relationship.
CAREER not carrier, geeze I need another cup of coffee.
We met at the dojo where we both train for karate. He was 32 at the time, handsome and not taken!
We met through friends that were dating. I met my best girlfriend while in college. I moved about 60 miles away to my home town/the big city. She remained at college but met a boy during a concert and continued a long distance relationship with him for a year. They were both around 30 when they met. About a year after they met they had a halloween party at his house. She told me she wanted to set me up with a friend of his. We didn't stop talking the rest of the night. About a year and a half after that they got married. . . and now he and I are planning ours.
If there's one thing I learned from the whole thing is that it really does happen when you stop looking. For me it was pretty literal. In the months before that party I had informed all my girlfriends that it was their job in life to find a husband for me. The day of the party I told my friend that I was done looking and was going to focus on other things. Later that same day I met "the one."
I understand your concerns as a 30 year old who lives in New York. I met my FI in my building. It was very muc like the TV show 'FRIENDS' he lived in the apt downstairs from mine and my roommates and I became friendly with their apt and the rest is history. I was 29 when we started dating and we are both 30 now and planning a wedding for next year.
There are definitel aton of good ones left out there over 30. Based on my NYC dating experiences, I think there are far more of them in Brooklyn than Manhattan, but maybe I'm just biased :)
He was my undergrad advisor in college. Fast forward several years (after my graduation), we totally randomly met up on the street while I was out grabbing coffee, he was out grabbing lunch. I stopped him and we chatted and I went back to my office and fired off an e mail asking him if he would like to get a drink sometime. He responded yes in like 10 minutes lol, we met up 3 days later for drinks, have been together ever since!
There are def good men over 30 still available!
I was living in Los Angeles at the time and he was there visiting a friend. We both happen to be from Pittsburgh so his friend introduced us. We dated long distance NYC to LA for 6 months before I moved here! He was 30 when we met and living in New York City. There are still great guys available here! Dont believe all the hype!
We met online...oh, gaaaah, I rarely admit this, but we actually met on MySpace! And I was 30 when we met. So no worries, mslk, there are lots of good guys out there. 
I used to be totally embarrased to say where we met but after being together for over 2 years, I am totally ok with it now. We met on Craigslist!! Yes, ladies...good ol' Craigslist! LOL... I just make a joke of it now....I say I was looking for a couch and found him instead!
We met through mutual friends. He was actually renting the house that my friend's parents owned. :)
We met at Hooters, I was his waitress.
He totally wasn't interested either, lol. I was the one that persued him, which is totally NOT like me.
I met my SO at eharmony.com, we both had wonderful experiences with the site.
I love hearing all of these stories! They're great!
My husband worked with my brother and used to play golf with him all the time. I lived with my brother for a period of time, and he told me he used to get all excited when he saw my car was there when they got back from golfing. He would always come in when my brother invited him in for a beer just to see me.
Don't believe the stats - I think there are great guys still out there! In fact, the hubby has a friend who is now 31. He was dating a girl for 5 years, and they had talked about getting engaged after she was finished w/ grad school. That day came and she dumped him for another guy :o( I love this friend too...one of the sweetest guys and anyone would be lucky to end up with him! So there are some great guys still out there without a ton of baggage!
I'm 34 and I met my fiance on eHarmony. He's 41 and a really terrific guy! You have plenty of time - don't worry about it. You'll meet the right one for you when you least expect it.
I was 35 when I got engaged and 36 When I got married. I met my husband at 34 on E-Harmony.
I met my guy at a speed dating event. I was 39 and he was 40. I was not attending as a participant (it's my friend's business and I was working the event), but one look at FI and it was all over for me. I thought dating in my 30s was easier than 20s. Guys were more serious and ready to settle down (and those who weren't were easier to spot). Don't give up hope! 30 is nowhere near too old!!
I'm 37 (and in NYC, too!) we met on eHarmony. I went out with a lot of frogs before I met my prince! He is exactly who I want (and need) in my life, but he is not at all the person who I would have expected.
Our familes vacation in the same place every year since we were kids, tiny area but we never met until recently. We were 28 when we met and 31 when we married.
We were on a messageboard and he kept messaging me and around year two I messaged back.....lol....here we are five years later
Although I'm not married or engaged yet, we're both fairly certain that we will eventually get married.
I met my BF in college. He was going back for his masters and I was finishing up my bachelors degree. We had a class together and one day he asked me to take notes for him while he went out of town. The rest is history. :)
My advice to you is to get out. Take a class. Not necessarily a college course, but maybe a kick boxing, cooking or music class. Bonus points if it appeals to men. :)
I met my husband on an online dating site. (Not E-Harmony) and It's been the best thing ever! We talked on the site for a few nights then I gave him my messenger name and we spent everyday talking on there! After 6 months of dating, I packed up one day and moved an hour away from my hometown to be with him! (My parents didn't like it!) On our one year "anniversay" of dating he propsosed! We've been married 2 months now! I'm 22 and he's 45.
I met my boyfriend on a blind date. My sister's mother in law gave my number out to some of her friends and I got some calls and went on some dates with several guys. My boyfriend was the one guy that I kept on going out with while the others just didn't work out. My recommendation is to be open. Go on-line, have friends and family set you up (free dinners if nothing else - LOL), join clubs, go running in Central Park. Summer is a great time to be outdoors and you never know who you are going to bump into. Good Luck and try to enjoy the experince.
I'm 29, almost 30....we met in med school. I have several friends in the same boat....my advice to them is usually to get out and do things like take a class per semester, go to book stores where you can sit and read, go to the gym....and I've even suggested eHarmony which usually is followed by some eye rolling....but honestly, I have a friend who just married a guy she met online. It's increasing in popularity. Good Luck! And don't worry about it. It usually happens when you are not looking for it. It did for me.
On a company Golf outing! I hate golf, but am taking lessons from my Fiance now!
My FH was working as a radio DJ and I kept scoring prizes off him (not much to do at my job then obviously!).
Anyway, I saw a group wearing their brand clothing at a concert I was a bit tiddly at (read: a lot tiddly) and waltzed up and asked 'who was Sam?' - we became best mates soon thereafter and EVERYONE thought we were 'friends with benefits' (note: we weren't, we both thought it was hilarious noone else could think of being platonic friends with someone of the opposite sex).
Hehe he fell in love with me and kissed me - I was really taken aback but returned the favour at the movies (Kung Fu Panda I do believe) - been together ever since!
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