Post # 1
Hi Bees! I have been struggling with my weight for the past 4 years more than ever. That was after my youngest daughter was born. I have been on and off of WW and other plans since she was born and can never stick to it. I just don’t know where my motivation is going to come from.
I know I really hate how I look right now and I know that I want to be at least 41lbs (that will get me just under 200) lighter by this time next year. But, why the crap can’t I get started on something and stick to it??
Is it because my FI is amazing and makes sure I know he loves me just as I am so I don’t care as much? Is it because I want to pretend that I love me for me and if that means I’m fat then so be it??
I am 5’1″ and weigh 240lbs! Granted I do carry it pretty well, I have huge boobs lol and normal sized legs but the rest is in my face and belly.
I just need help bees. I need someone to give me tough love or talk me through it. Idk I just need help. I’m ready, like really ready to make a change but I just don’t know how I guess.
Post # 3
…losing weight is HARD. That’s why it’s so difficult to stick to. Everyone is different – you have to figure out why your focus will be. Meaning – is it health, for your daughter, for yourself, etc.
Try writing down all the reasons why you want to get healthy and keep those with you. When you are tempted to cheat or not exercise, read that note and see if that helps you change your behavior.
Also – try doing something today that will help you in your weight loss goal. Decide what that is – and then stick with it. Making small changes every day will add up to the big picture.
So… what’s the one thing you will start doing today to help you toward your goal?
Post # 4
It’s all about motivating yourself–I think it’s important (and great) that your fiance doesn’t tell you to lose weight, but your motivation has to come from within. Buy some Jillian Michaels videos, a couple 3-lb dumbbells, and an exercise mat, and challenge yourself to complete at least one of her workouts each day, at least 5 days a week. You’ll start to notice changes and those alone should motivate you–for example, I never thought I’d be able to do a regular push-up, and now I can do like 6 in a row! You just need to tell yourself that it’s important for whatever reason–maybe you want to be healthy and set a good example for your kids, or maybe you just want to look good in a bathing suit. Figure out what motivates you and think about it while you’re sweating it out.
Post # 5
For me, I used to be about 25lbs heavier (freshman 25 lol). I went to bed one night and just cried and cried. I felt so terrible about myself. I basically hit a low and decided right then and there to change it. I used my treadmill for somethiing other than a clothes dryer, did some weight training, followed a strict diet of lean meats, veggies and fruit. The weight melted off SOO fast!
Post # 6
I totally understand. I did WW in 2007 with great success, but then met my amazing boyfriend and gained back everything, plus 40lbs more 🙁
It is HARD. I get embarassed when I look at pictures, I had to buy bigger jeans, I wasn’t sleeping well and just generally uncomfortable. I was working at my old job 70+ hours a week and commuting for 3 hours a day. At the end of a long, stressful day, food made me feel better.
But one day something just clicked. I don’t really know what it was but I suddenly knew that I couldn’t just keep talking about losing weight, I needed to do something. Now I am back to WW and loving it. The new plan I find to be a lot easier to maintain. I am not starving all the time and I feel like I can eat a lot more, and I’m still loosing. I have lost 13lbs in 6 weeks 🙂
I’m taking it one day at a time, and so far its working. Some days I want to say forget it, and eat everything in sight (and yup, sometimes thats exactly what I do!), but usually I find something to distract me or think about how much better it will be when I loose some weight.
Post # 7
@oracle: I am going to stop getting something fast food for breakfast and/or not stop and get a wonderfully yummy iced coffee beverage EVERY DAMN MORNING on my way to work! Cause it’s killing my weight and my wallet!
@Pomapoo: Sad thing is I have Jillian Michael’s 30 day shed and it has worked for me in the past and I have hand weights AND I had my FI buy me the Zumba for the wii and it’s STILL in the box and I bought it a month ago! I don’t know what’s wrong with me!
@Lindsay05: I think it’s the trying to change my diet that’s killing me!
@Bostongrl25: I totally relate! I work my 40hrs a week but also commute 2 hrs a day! I don’t get home until 8pm or later and have to find time to visit with the kids before they go to bed and then clean up and THEN try to find time for my FI and excercise??? I don’t know how to find that time because at that point all I want to do is sit on my Big O’l butt and eat ice cream lol
Post # 8
@Crisark: I tried doing Wii workouts too and they didn’t keep me motivated enough 🙁 Now I just do Wii stuff for fun and don’t count it towards my actual daily exercise.
I know what you mean about the yummy coffee drinks and the sneaky but delicious calories they contain. FI and I bought a Keurig coffee maker to stop our Starbucks/energy drink habit and since you can buy delicious flavors of their coffee and add Splenda and skim milk, we still get our flavored coffee fix without the empty calories.
And if you don’t have much time at home with your long commute, you might want to consider buying a workout machine (elliptical, treadmill, or exercise bike) for your house–we found a great elliptical on craigslist for cheap. That way, you can fit in 15-20 mins of cardio whenever you get the chance. Good luck!
Post # 9
For me, it was a combination of being healthy for my daughter and wanting to be able to go out and wear cute clothes again like I used to.
Every time I reached for junk food or something insanely fattening I’d say “There is NOTHING, including *insert bad food* that I want more than to be healthy and fit. I don’t want *insert bad food* more than that.”
I also reminded myself that if I didn’t do something I would kick myself later in life when it’s so much harder to lose weight and I had health problems. Would I really look back and say “Oh well, at least I ate what I wanted…”
Post # 10
@Crisark: Yep it’s hard! I tried to eat the best I could all week long, then Friday night I spoiled myself with a treat. Nothing too bad, but something that would cure my craving.
Post # 11
I was very motivated after I saw the pics of me from the night FI proposed… Joined a gym and worked out hard, increase my water consumption and upped the amount of fruits and veggies I eat and cut back on the high calorie stuff. I was down 2 size, than came november, and wedding planning cut into gym time and it got cold, so the bikes got stashed away and we started staying in more, as opposed to going for long walks like we did when it was nicer. And all the salads I was eating were traded for hot meals (I need something to warm my bones.) I haven’t gained anything back, but I haven’t lost anymore either. I’m hoping that spring will hurry up and bring my motivation back with it.
Enough about me…
If you drink sugar (in coffee, soda, juice… w/e) Cutting it out will make a huge difference. Drink more water, not only does it help with weight loss, but it helps with clear skin and and beautiful hair. For coffee, try Folgers French Vanilla, found in most grocery stores, it’s the best flavored coffee I’ve ever had, I’ll take that with splenda and milk over dunkin donuts or starbucks any day. Make changes slowly, trying to change too many things at once will back fire.
There is no reason you need to exercise alone, you can involve FI and kids and it will benefit all of you. I’m not sure how old they are but if they are still in a stroller than go out for a family walk. If they are a little older, than you can play catch or frizbee or ride bikes. Or even turning on some music and getting everyone dancing around the house is exercise.
Post # 12
I’ve been very fortunate that I’ve been able to maintain a healthy weight. Keeping active is something that’s always come natural for me…I’ve even made a career out of it in recreation. And my sister is now a registered dietician, so when I go to eat something she’ll tell me why it’s bad and I’ll want to hit her for ruining my snack.
On another personal note, my Aunt recently passed away from a rare form of cancer. She was 5’1” and around 200 pounds. She did not drink, smoke, or do drugs, but she ate cupcakes any chance she could get. She did not exercise. She struggled with her weight for years. Weight was the leading cause of her cancer. Within three months of being diagnosed she was deceased. Now we all regret giving into her sweets and macaroni and cheese cravings. If only we would have helped her make the healthier choice.
What I learned was, surrounding yourself with people with healthy lifestyles is one part to the weight loss. Hopefully they will encourage you to make healthier diet choices and to get out and walk daily. You also need to want it for yourself. Hang in there.
Do your best to keep all junk food and soda out of the house. Get out and go for a thirty minute walk when it’s nice out (if you have on demand check out their in home workouts when the weather is bad). And get the support of your husband. If he’s eating cheesesteaks and french fries, how are you supposed to eat the grilled chicken with broccoli and sweet potato?
Post # 13
@KatyElle: I actually had my 7yr old ask me if FI and I were ever going to have a baby because she decided she wanted a brother lol and before I could respond to her my other daughter (who is 4yr) said ” Fat ppl can’t get babies mommy” . Talk about a slap in the face. How she would know to say something like that I have no idea but it has really made me think a lot lately. Because knowing that I’m over weight and had difficult pregnancies with them has made me concerned about being able to have a third child.
So, doing it for my children is a really big thing for me.
@msgraphics: I actually took NO pictures of that night because I hate the way I look. I mean I took ring pics but nothing of he and I.
I did just now sign up for Livestrong.com, after reading the responses I got back on here I started thinking about that site and what I had been told about it. I then set that I’d like to lose 1.5lbs a week and it set me up with a daily calorie goal of 1,472. And then I honestly entered what I’d eated today and without even having Dinner I’m already over 400cal for my day. It was crazy to see it all right there in my face the amt of Fat, Protein, Fiber, and so on that I was taking in .
A real eye opener. Thanks Bees for helping me today with this 🙂
Post # 14
To be honest, the second I start thinking about weight and measurements I lose my motivation. To me, it’s only a source of making me feel down on myself, setting unhealthy and unrealistic goals, and taking the joy out of movement and nutrition. I find that worrying about what something will do to my waistline is a lot better at causing fear and self-criticism than anything productive… bodies are complicated and we can’t ever have the level of control we’d like to have. All we can do is be as healthy as we can.
I am motivated to go to the gym because I remember the first time I ran a mile without stopping (I was 22… I could never even run a quarter mile as a kid) and I don’t want to have to go through the getting into shape process again if I can help it. I remember how excited I was when I first ran a mile in ten minutes, and want to keep getting faster. I am weirdly competitive about lifting heavier weights than the other women in the gym, too.
Once I stopped paying attention to calories and grams of this or that, I found that I could really tell how my body was reacting to food. Mostly I’m motivated to eat healthy and the right amount because I know how I feel when I don’t/
Post # 15
@mshoagie: Thank you for sharing your story about your aunt. It’s really scary for me sometimes because I know that I am so far from a healthy weight it’s discouraging to think of how far I have to go to get anywhere close to healthy.
My FI is wonderful. Tells me daily how sexy I am but I know that he’s the only one that thinks that. I’m in a size 20 for godsakes and not many ppl find that sexy. He, however, sees the real me from the inside out and doesn’t see a prob with my weight. Which is great but at the same time allows me to get comfortable at a nonhealthy level.