Post # 1
Hello all of you fellow bees! I have been following this blog for a while but am new to the posting game.
I got engaged in March, but my wedding is not for another 3 years (boo having to finish college). Still, it wouldn’t hurt to get started planning but here’s the problem: I have no idea where to start! No one in my family has gotten married recently (except like a second cousin I see once a year), so I have no idea what to do first.
What did you do first after you got engaged? Was there anything you wish you would have done first? Where is the best starting point?
Post # 3
After telling everyone, the first thing you need to do is decide a budget. That will help you determine the number of guests, the location, the date, everything.
Post # 4
Congratulations on your engagement! Honestly, your wedding is so far away that I would just save as much money as possible and concentrate on college for now. You’re very likely to change your mind with regards to anything you commit to now, and that will be costly later. I’d still look at wedding blogs and stuff of course, for ideas 🙂 I’d start planning like 1.5 to 1 year out, and the first thing IMO is the BUDGET. Second is the GUESTLIST and third is the VENUE/DATE. All those things are next to impossible to figure out so far out (especially the guest list!)
Post # 5
My FI and I spent a lot of time discussing what was important for us about the wedding – basically what our priorities are. We had different visions of what a wedding should be (yes, my FI has had opinions throughout this whole processes). Then we worked out our budget. After the budget we worked out a tentative guest list. In between all that we found a minister to marry us (long story). That put us 8 months into our engagement. It was only then that I started to look for a dress and the venue.
There are a lot of ways to approach planning – that’s just what worked for us!
Post # 6
We’re in the midst of a 2 1/2 year engagement because of college and financial reasons as well. The biggest thing for us was making a list of what is most important to us – we came up with big things, like making sure our wedding is in our city, not where our parents live. We also decided that we did not want a church or a pastor, and that we wanted to keep the guest list as intimate as possible while still pleasing our parents.
Beyond that, we began our venue search early. Around here popular venues for Saturday weddings in June often book up 2 years in advance. I have looked at fun things and gotten a feel for our theme, but I keep in mind that I might have a change of heart.
I also bought my dress, but that was a happy accident. I wouldn’t recommend looking early in most cases!
Post # 7
Yes, definitely budget, and brainstorm a time of year, specific dates, or possible venues. Most venues seem to increase their prices every year too. Other than that SAVE ALL THE MONEY YOU CAN.
Post # 8
Well, this is basically the order we followed:
Tentative guest list
Venue for ceremony and reception
Those are the biggies, to me. And sprinkled throughout we invited our bridal party, we did the wedding bands, girls dresses, those kinds of things. Then a few months before is when I did my accessories, he did his tux and we got invitations. It really worked well, so far!