Post # 1
This is my first time posting, so please excuse any mistakes, and if this has been posted before, I apologize!
I’ve been engaged to my FI since December of 2012! He proposed whilst I was battling severe anxiety. He knew we wouldn’t be able to get married for a while, but he wanted to show me he’s ready to spend the rest of his life with me! We’ve been together for almost 5 years.
I’m still in the recovery process, but I’m ready to start planning, my only problem is, I literally have absolutely no idea where to start. At all, not one bit.
Thank you in advance!
ETA: Oh my, I even posted this in the wrong section! 🙁
Post # 3
Welcome!!! There are tons of great planning tools for free on the web, but I found that starting with when/where was the easiest 🙂
Post # 4
@LeSpice: Welcome to the hive! The first things I did were to go out and buy some wedding magazines and went online getting ideas for everything. Happy researching.
Post # 5
Hi @LeSpice: As this is your DEBUT Post… a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”
First things first…
You’ll need to establish WHAT TYPE of Wedding you want…
Traditional – Destination – Elopement ?
And then WHERE…
Church – Courthouse – Other type of Venue – Outdoors
Pick a Date… and see if the Venue you’ve chosen is available
What paperwork you need to make the Wedding happen ? (Do you need a Marriage License ? Do you have to publish Banns of Marriage etc ? And HOW to go about gettting that ? And WHO will be marrying you…
And lastly WHO will be on your Guest List
And then after you’ve got a Date & a Guest List Drafted you need to look for a Venue for the Reception
Hope this helps,
PS… Handy Tips:
1- Go out and buy a Bridal Magazine, they typically have tons of info on them for someone just starting the Process (and there is often a column that might be titled something like “Congratulations you are engaged… now what ?”)
2- There are also Wedding Planning Books you can buy that will be chocked full of info on how to get organized
3- DO NOT make the mistake of ordering or sending out Save The Dates until you’ve Drafted a Budget, have a Date, Venue and Guest List all nailed down. Too many sad stories here on WBee on what happens when you get all caught up in the excitement and send out STDs BEFORE having done enough research & planning (find out you cannot afford to invite all that you originally thought)
Post # 6
Thank you ladies!
Going to get my butt down to the mall asap! Didn’t even think to get wedding magazines!
Post # 7
@This Time Round: Thank you! It’s always nice to see how welcoming everyone is on here! I’ve been lurking these boards for months now, and always find the things your say to be extremely helpful!
Will most definitely keep everyone posted!
Very excited now!
Post # 8
The bee is such a great place to get started. These ladies are absolutely amazing. As far as what to do to start.. Start thinking about the largest night with both of your family and friends. Is it a fun brunch? Is it a relaxed dinner? Or more of a black tie affair? From there you can decide which venue you want to go with. Then think about what you want to look loke. Bridal magazines are perfect for thst. Good luck. It is a fun xperience. A bit stressful at times but at the end of the day remember you will be married to your best friend.
Post # 9
@HisBrownEyedGirl: That last sentence made me choke up! I’ve been planning for 30 minutes and I’ve almost cried!
Thank you for your advice lovely! Can’t wait!
Post # 10
I highly highly recommend the book “A Practical Wedding” by Meg Keene (she also runs a blog by the same name). Particularly if you’re struggling with anxiety, it’s a great resource because it provides a good reality check on what matters and what really doesn’t matter about a wedding. Wedding magazines are great for ideas but they will also give you the idea that you HAVE to have every element perfectly planned or everything will be ruined…not at all true. Like a PP said, the most important thing is that you end up married to your best friend. All the rest is just details 🙂
Post # 11
@gingerpanda: I’ll most definitely look into it! Thank you so much 🙂
Post # 12
I’ll admit, I didn’t read the other comments (I’m at work!!) but I found the most important thing for us was to BOOK THE VENUE. However, we’ve known for a long time we wanted a fall wedding and our barn venue was getting very popular. As it was, we lost our 2 original dates in a matter of HOURS.
Do you have an idea of what time of year you want? Back out 12-18 months from there and make sure you get that deposit in!
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
@BurlapnLace: Oh, I have to second this. I’m not even in a wedding-industry obsessed country and I STILL had to change my original date to get my venue.
That’s where I’d start.
Also? No magazines required! You can look for free on pinterest and follow leads/themes/moods that you like– you’ll end up with so many ideas you won’t know what to do!