Post # 1
Hi there, just a quick question. When doing a seating plan, is it wise to seat people on tables with other people they already know, e.g. friends and family, or would it be better to mix people up so they meet each other and mingle better? I am torn as I don’t want people sat with people who they don’t really get on with, but at the same time I don’t want that primary school thing of “cliques” and people sticking to the table of people they know already! Any opinions gratefully received!!
Post # 3
I intend to try to match with people they know but you can do a mix if you don’t want it completely out, try putting 2-3 social groups at a table that way its still that they know others than their date, but they also have the opportunity to meet new people 🙂
Post # 4
I made sure everyone knew a couple people at each table. There were some people who were mixed more than others, but we did our best to make sure people would have someone fun to talk to at every table. For family, we did all family together, but intermixed the tables (i.e., Table 1, my family; Table 2, DH’s family, Table 3, mine; Table 4 his, etc)
I do have to say, the seating chart was, by far, the worst part of the wedding planning process.
Post # 5
We’re sitting people who know eachother together!
I wouldn’t want to sit with a bunch of strangers if I had friends there!
Post # 6
@rambini: Put people with people they know. Where we couldn’t get a table full of people who knew each other, we made sure that (a) everyone knew someone, and (b) they were kind of close in age. You want your guests to be comfortable, and people are generally more comfortable being with people they know.
Post # 7
I’ll be sitting people with they already know. I assume that would be more comfortable
Post # 8
My caterer talked about mixing everyone up and even not putting a husband and wife next to each other at the same table. His logic is that if he and is wife on next to one another they will just sit there all night and talk to one another. If they are at the same table but seperated than they will talk to those next to them and they are more likely to get up and dance after dinner. Additionally, they get to meet new people by being sat at a table full of people they don’t know. I must say though, that it depends on your crowd. This gentleman (someone we know well) is very extraverted so he wouldnt have a problem with such and idea. I like the idea of mixing people up.
Post # 9
@miss narwhal: I would be VERY upset if I went to a wedding and was not allowed to sit next to my husband!!
Post # 10
Seat them with people they know. I went to an engagement party where the bride-to-be mixed seating and it was so awkward… We never met most of the people from her FI’s side, and we didn’t have much to talk about besides the weather and the food. Needless to say, everyone ended up planting themselves near people they wanted to sit with after dinner and never came back to the original tables. I get the idea behind it, but don’t force it! let pple meet and chat on their own during cocktails and dancing. It happens naturally and is way less stressful on guests!
Post # 11
@Pumpkin_Bee: See and I disagree. If my FI was on the other side of the table I was sitting at, I wouldn’t have a problem. My FI and I are both very extraverted so I wouldn’t see a problem if that were to happen. Would it be ideal for him and I to sit next to one another? Well, yes it would be but it wouldn’t be upset.
ETA: I also don’t see it being a matter of being “allowed” if there are several couples, I am sure that if couples felt uncomfortable there would be some moving around of place cards so they could sit next to their partner.
Post # 12
Oh my god, please do not mix/split up people. It’s awkward. I’ve been to two weddings where our group of friends was split into two/three tables on opposite sides of the room, and we felt really…slighted.
We’re putting FMIL’s family together, FFIL’s family together, my family together, and our friends together. There might be one table of mixed because of the way the numbers are (especially because we have lots of twos and fours, and one random three that we have nowhere to seat), but we’ll see when RSVPs come in.
Post # 13
@rambini: Seat people with those they know. It makes everyone happier and more comfortable. You never know who might be introverted enough that they are unable to converse with strangers.
Post # 14
So far, seating has been one of the hardest things to manage for FI and I. We have received about half of our RSVP’s so far. We called our venue and were told that due to the Dance Floor, we will need to put a few people in a seperate dining room (adjacent to the function room, but still…). also, orignially we wanted to do a Head Table, but when one of the bridesmaids wanted to bring her SO and kids to the table, that just made it too big and I really don’t want a 1 year old with messy hands touching the other women. (I know that is mean of me.) Now, we will be doing a Sweet Heart table. So now we have had to rethink our entire seating chart.
This is deffinatly the most stressful part of wedding planning so far.
Post # 15
I think as long as everyone has a couple people they know at the table it’s fine to mix. There is no reason why people can’t sit separately from some of their friends for dinner. They have the whole cocktail hour and after dinner to see their other friends. They can make new friends at dinner. Also if they make new friends at dinner that’s more people to dance with and talk to after! It’s not about them; it’s about you as a couple and if they can’t see that and are upset with who they sit with too bad.
We are mixing our tables for a couple reasons. 1.) We are an interracial/intercultural couple and we don’t want our tables looking segregated 2.) As new families coming together our families should sit together and get to know each other. 3.) There are some people that only know one to three people and rather than make a table with all the people that don’t go together we’ll spread people around with who we think they will fit with. Plus you don’t want that one table with all the randoms at – that makes for an awkward table.