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    futuremrsoloyede    February 22, 2012   Orange County, CA

    it seems like so many of u wear ur hair natural and i would love your input! ive been wearing individual braids (w/ synthetic hair) since i was probably 10yrs old.. and for the past 8 years ive been wearing weaves... im dying to wear my hair natural because im just tired of pressing my roots when i workout, but i dont even kno where 2 start

    my hair is pretty fine and thin... and shoulder length when i take the weave out...

    when u ladies started wearing your hair natural did u just find a natural stylist? get it cut into a style? or just like wet it and put produts in? is it hard to maintain natural hair?

    i would appreciate any help thnx ladies!

     

     
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    plantains    July 17, 2011   Live in NY, wedding in CT

    www.longhaircareforum.com is a great starting point. Have a look around and do some reading, it has been an invaluable resource for me.

     
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    futuremrsoloyede    February 22, 2012   Orange County, CA

    @plantains: thanks so much for ur help!!

     
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    mnw8781    September 18, 2010  

    Well, I started with a "Halle Berry" haircut years ago and then just shaved my head. lol. Not many want to go that route, but I started my research at www.nappturality.com. It has SO much info. For me I wear twists and redo the twists myself every couple of weeks.

     
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    JamaicaBride    May 14, 2011   Charlotte, NC

    I started out just taking care of my own natural hair. I would do various afro styles, twist-outs, etc. I think a lot of women think that going natural means less maintenance but it really doesn't. Until you "train" your hair, it still takes a lot of work.

    I started the loc-ing process on my hair about 6 months ago. I go to a loctitian about every 3 to 4 weeks to get my locs tightened. It has really been a labor of love b/c the process is not fun at all....lol. 

     
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    YSQueen    October 9, 2011   Atlanta

    I transitioned for about 18 months (meaning carrying permed texture while natural hair growing out) before I cut the permed ends off and had natural hair only. During the transition, I stuck with braids and wigs to get myself use to dealing with my hair.

     
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    suburban    August 4, 2012   Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania

    @futuremrsoloyede:  I have tried so hard to find a natural stylist... but in Pittsburgh that just is not going to happen.  Everytime I go to a salon, the stylist always ask "why don't you want a relaxer?"  "Your hair would look so nice and it will be twice as long."  Umm.... because I don't want for my hair to look like yours.....Smile

    Here (in Pittsburgh, PA) it's like natural hair is a foreigner. 

    But anyway, I encourage you to learn to do your own hair.  Only because in my opinion, not too many stylist are capable of doing natural hair.  Just find some products that your hair loves and play around with it.

    Also, http://forum.blackhairmedia.com/ is a great site for natural women.

    Oh and in my opinion, the only downside to natural hair is the humidity.  I can not wear my hair straight during very humid days... it just turns into a big puff ball.

    Good luck... natural hair is the best!!!!

     

     
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    2ndtime    April 16, 2011  

    I searched for styles on the internet and narrowed it down to two (keeping my fat, round head in mind).  I went to two regular salons in the mall.  The first stylist barely paid attention to what I was showing her and what I was saying to her.  She told me she would cut it any way I want.  The 2nd stylist looked carefully at the two pics.  She told me the model in one had thin hair and because I have thick hair the cut wouldn't look the same on me.  She told me I didn't have as much new growth as I thought so we'd have to curl it with the iron to get the same look until the next cut in 2-3 weeks when I had more new growth and we could cut ALL the relaxer out.  I was wowed by her attentiveness and attention to detail.  I let her chop my hair off and she's been cutting my hair ever since!  I tried products she recommended and then on Saturdays (when I had nowhere to go) I'd try different products in different ways to see what happened.  I will never go back to blow dryers and curling irons.  I don't care about rain nor humidity.  I can go swimming any time I want.    

    I don't have the patience to gradually transition into anything.  My suggestion is to JUST DO IT!

     
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    Shae726    June 20, 2011   Columbus, OH

    I just researched a lot at first and after a month i decided to just chop ot all off. I LOVED it, it was so liberating. Every website suggest up top are great starts. You may get suggstions from others but ultimately no hair is the same. What works for me may not work for you and that's fine. Just learn to love your hair.

     
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    kperry3    January 1, 1991  

    I grew my perm out for maybe 3 months, and then chopped the processed hair off. I had very very short natural hair. I didn't trust anyone to take care of my hair natural, because many stylists have no clue how to work with it. So for about 3 years or so, I just did my own hair. I went to motowngirl.com (or something like that) and found tips on how to style and maintain my hair. But honesly, natural hair has been easier for me than perming it every few months. I'm not into styling that much... I only do twist outs maybe once every 3 months. Sometimes I do pony tails. But I really like the wash and go style of my hair!

    About a year ago I began to notice breakage.. and it was because I kept twirling my hair and fingercombing the knots out when I was bored. Because of that, I decided to start going to a natural hair salon. Now I get it trimmed, deep conditioned, and styled every 3 months at least. Seeing a natural hair stylist, as well as not playing with my hair, has really made it start to grow again and become healthy.

     
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    kperry3    January 1, 1991  

    Double post!

     
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    squeak35    July 7, 2011   Cali

    I started by just letting my hair grow out and then cut the permed parts.  Since I live in the OC and didn't want to travel to LA, I just did a trial and error until I found what worked for me.  So that meant cutting my hair to 2 inches and going from there.  When I got bored w/ the natural, I would do a press and curl.  About 3yrs ago I decided to grow my hair to a curly bob.  Added a texturizer cause I work out alot and didn't want to have to tussle w/it on work days.  I've used all the major black hair natural products but I through trial and error that natural oils and a good leave-in moisturizer works for my hair. 

    Now, I'm back to straight cause I just needed a change.  My stylist has natural hair and is about healthy hair regardless if its permed or natural.  Love her!!!!  And to think I found her on Yelp.com.

     

     
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    MrsCypresstobe    September 10, 2011   Chocolate City

    I have been natural for seven years (this go round). Natural hair is beautiful! I agree that there are TONS of sites out there that help with getting the courage to wear natual hair, learning about your hair and discovering which products work (so many do not for me). Do not discount youtube! If you can afford or want, find a natural hair stylist. It took me seven years to find one (natural hair in MA is like finding a unicorn) but (now that I am in DC where natural hair is more popular)she is wonderful and taught me about what works and about the dreaded trimming process.

    I can't see her as often as I would like but I am like most of the women on here. My routine is wash, condition, two strand twist and leave it for a week or two and sometimes I use the twist as a roller set and take it out after having them in overnight. My number one tip is a great conditioner! PM me and I can tell you more.

     

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