Post # 1
So I posted a board a few months ago about no kids at the reception. My Fiance and I don’t have kids and we don’t want to pay $45 a plate to have chicken fingers and fries. So we told everyone no kids allowed. Also, we will have loud music and drinks I don’t feel this is a place for children. So my older sister has a son who is 3, this is my parents only grandson. Of course my sister had a problem about us not allowing kids at the wedding because she feels we should have the exception because he is my nephew. However, she also had the same rule at her wedding but made the exception for her own son who was 1 at the time now.
So I was speaking to my mother the other day and she says she may end up watching my nephew during the reception since he was not allow. I was so upset, that is totally not fair for my mother to miss out on our special day because of my nephew. My sister needs to figure something out. Then my Fiance speaks to his mother yesterday and she says since her adopted grand kids which is really her second cousins (5 and 9 years of age) are not allow at the reception she may also have to watch them upstair during the reception. What is going on? My Fiance of course was also upsets.
I don’t even know what to say anymore to any of them. This no kid thing is the most stress to date about our wedding and we are not giving in. Maybe because we don’t have nor want any kids why we feel so passionate about this but I don’t think it’s fair for our mothers miss out on our day because of this.
I just needed to vent
Post # 3
No way should the MOB and MOG be babysitting someone else’s children at the reception. I don’t understand people.
I know this isn’t helpful – but doesn’t your venue have cheaper prices for kids? our kids meals are $9.99
Post # 4
I agree with you; they shouldn’t be babysitting the kids. Would both families be able to pool together resources and maybe hire a babysitter to watch the three kids?
Post # 5
that really stinks. we are also having a no kids wedding and had a few reply no because they could not find a sitter (or only one adult of the couple is coming b/c the other is staying home to watch the kids).
is there an extra room at the venue? maybe you could hire a sitter to be the kids in the room during the wedding? order some pizzas and rent a movie or something to keep them occupied.
Post # 6
I know this shouldnt be your responsibility but is it in the budget to have one of those wedding nannies. Dont disclose the information to EVERYONE who has kids because then you will have a million kids there but just the ones it seems to be making or breaking the day.
Post # 7
It’s funny because we bought up the idea to both sets of parents chipping in to hire a sitter and my sister said she don’t trust just anyone to watch her son. Which I totally understand. However, I told my mother if they won an all inclusive paid trip for the 2 of them to Hawaii they would have found a sitter without a problem. I just feel they are just being inconsiderate to the fact because we are family.
Post # 8
I feel like this is a ploy for you to cave and just end up allowing kids, but I don’t know the people involved-is that a possibility? Regardless, how dare ANYone ask the mothers to babysit on the day of thier childrens’ wedding so others can enjoy it. How selfish!
Post # 9
What about your sisters in laws? That’s crazy but probably the moms ideas to watch the kids. The whole thing about not trusting someone else is a crock! Don’t they have any friends they could ask. I think the idea of having a kids room at the venue is a good one, that way the parents can check in.
Post # 10
@bricon: Thanks, I totally agree but in the end I am not changing my mind and I am stepping out of it. We told both mother’s that we was not happy with them leaving the reception to watch the kids so we will see whst happens. At this point I am done stressing it.
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
How about the sister/cousin step out of the room to watch the kids? There is NO reason for the MOG or MOB to babysit during the reception! IMO, after the bride & groom, the parents are the most important people there- why should they miss out?
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Yeahhhh… normally, I get that when you say “no kids,” you’re going to lose some attendees, and you have to be able to live with that. But the parents of the bride and groom should not be the people who are missing the reception because of the rule. These parents need to hire real babysitters.
Post # 13
I totally agree ladies, I just don’t understand why the parents and our moms don’t get this.
Post # 14
Maybe I’m just being a bridzilla, but if it’s my wedding I think that I choose who is coming. I have three nephews ages 3, 1, and not even a month old. They are all welcome to attend, but my sisters would prefer to not have them at the reception. My mom, who I am not close to, offered to leave after the ceremony to babysit. She isn’t exactly a big part of my life and it shows..
I have four cousins ages 6-10 that I use to baby sit and see all the time. They are invited. My finance’s two brothers 6 and 10 are also invited, but will leave after dinner (FMIL decision) We did not invite other kids. I know that it seems rude, but we don’t see any other children on a regular basis. I have other children in my family, but with having alcohol and paying per person we don’t have room to invite them. My guest list would double if children could come. We just tried to invite exactly who we wanted with the number that we had.
My posts are always long and bossy.