Post # 1
If you live in a different city than your in-laws (mine are a 5 hour drive away), where do they stay when they visit you? My family has always lived around the same area so this was never an issue, but when we visit extended family elsewhere we always stay in hotels (my family enjoys their privacy and space). However, my husband’s family accepts it as the norm that you stay with the family when you visit.
Right now we just have a one-bedroom apartment so my in-laws stay with my parents when they visit, but I’m just curious to hear about others’ experiences hosting their in-laws (or not hosting!).
Post # 3
We have a one bedroom apartment and we give them the bedroom and we sleep in an air mattress in the living room or on the couch.
Post # 4
They sleep in our guestroom.
Post # 5
They usually stay at our house but FMIL threw a fit because how dare we *allow* my family to stay there as well so she says she will be staying in a hotel if she ever comes up again.
Post # 6
Well my FFIL doesn’t visit as he has physical difficulties and can’t get around the city, or up to our 3rd floor walkup.
When FMIL and future grandma in law visit, they stay in our room and we sleep on the pull-out couch. Please note that we have lived in the city for almost 5 years and they have visited twice so this is not normally a concern ;o)
Post # 7
well my inlaws live here in st louis but my parents live 5 hours away. we have a 4 bedroom house (all th erooms are upstairs) and we have 2 more rooms (no closets tho so they aren’t ‘real’ bedrooms) downstiars and we told my parents if they furnished one of the rooms, they could have it for when they stay over. so they brought all the bedroom furniture and put a california king size bed in downstairs. They can be a little overbearing, but it’s temporary and they’re downstairs so it’s not so bad. But if you have the room for family, i think it’s definitely nice to let them stay with you–how often do they visit? i couldn’t make my parents stay in a hotel if we had room for them. Even when i was in an apartment druing college we slept on the couch and i gave them my bed. Plus, we stay at their house when we come visit =]
Post # 8
My parents usually stay in a hotel, because we live in an apartment and they just aren’t comfortable staying there. However, when we move into our house in Feb, they will most definitely stay with us!
Post # 9
Well it sounds like the way my family stays in hotels is not the norm, which is good to know!
I think this will be less of an issue when we have a place with more space, but for now being in Los Angeles in a tiny apartment it seems like it would be overwhelming to have them stay with us. The in-laws are very nice, but they can just be a bit… much at times 🙂 They would probably visit every few months if they could. We just saw them at Thanksgiving and they already want to come down again next week!
Post # 10
OMG I have the exact same problem. They stay with us in our one-bedroom apartment when they visit and mine (who do live locally) would NEVER stay with me if they were to come visit (I have lived in other cities and they would get hotels).
I told FI that there are no more visitors until we have a bigger place. His family is also not allowed to stay with us for the week before the wedding. The last thing I need is 5 other people in our 1 bedroom apartment before the wedding.
FI doesn’t understand why I don’t want them staying with us. It’s jsut way too small and since the bathroom is in the master bedroom, they would have to come in to use it.