Where do you get your wedding money from?

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 3
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We paid mostly from our own work paychecks, but I also got a $3000 loan from my 401k.

Post # 4
308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We budgeted 10K, which felt like a huge amount. We’re paying for our wedding/honeymoon mostly ourselves, saving $800 a month for the last 8 months up til end of October (fiance graduated college and was looking for a job for six months right after proposing, otherwise we would’ve been able to save more). Oh! Plus a tax refund from earlier this year.


The rest is coming from generous family members like my grandparents and my aunt and uncle, with a few hundred bucks thrown in from my parents. That probably comes to about $3K when all is said and done, which was more than I ever expected, as we aren’t rollin’ in the dough in my family.


Between all of us, I think we’ll be just a little over 11K (grandma wanted a nicer venue than I anticipated, paid for the difference herself) and thankfully everything will be paid for upfront. We cannot wait until we can stop saving for the event, lol.




Post # 5
1287 posts
Bumble bee

IRS tax refund, wedding photography income.  Strict budget and bargan shopping

Post # 7
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Parents :)… It’s quite customary in my culture for parents to pay for the entire wedding. Downside is, we are probably obliged to do the same for our children in the future, lol….

Post # 8
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We grew it on a money tree. Took a few years and a lot of fertilizer, but it was worth it.

(Oh, I wish)

Mostly coming out of saved-up paychecks and some savings here and there. We have the money already saved up, but have been putting as much as we can on our joint credit card to build up our credit together – gotta make it work for us somehow!
Our moms are contributing a bit, which is very generous of them.

Post # 9
2818 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I used my 2012 tax refund and whatever I still had left over from the 2011 refund. And I took a 3 month salary advance (which I paid back over 6 months). I did not receive any contributions from anyone. Even though my wedding was what I consider very expensive (especially given that we decided that I would bear all the costs myself) it didn’t cut into my daily operating capital in any way. Some people say that they would not have wanted to put such a big dent in their savings, and I can appreciate that. But I much preferred that to putting a dent in my income.

Post # 10
8498 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

My parents are paying about $12-$13k of it.

FI and I are paying the other $10k.  We got engaged almost a year ago.  And we just saved up enough between then and now to pay for it.  I wouldn’t have agreeed to spend it if I wasn’t sure I would have it on hand.

Post # 11
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

FI has quite a bit saved up (cannot wait to have him be the money manager when we marry as he is very good with $$$), and I make a little more than him in base salary so I’ve been frugal lately to ensure my share gets covered. We’re doing a city hall ceremony and a party/reception at a restaurant so when all is said and done, I do not expect us to go over $10k TOTAL.

We’re doing another reception next summer in my native country, and I am hoping my parents cover it. However, if they don’t, it will be held at their house or my grandmother’s house (hence free venue), and I can easily pay the catering costs as things are cheaper there. My big splurge there will be photographer. I’m a photographer snob and will be foregoing a photographer at my November event (my mom will take pictures) to have an amazing one over there.

Post # 12
3635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Wedding money came from my paycheck.  Instead of saving half of it for a few months I was paying off big Amex bills.

We had a pretty small wedding (40 people) but with all the trimmings, so it wasn’t cheap but it kept costs reasonable. 

Post # 13
1178 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

my parents gave us $15000 plus they are paying for flowers, his mother offered to pay for our photographer (last minute but I’m very pleased with this.  My FI is working 2 jobs to pay for the rest.

Post # 14
10384 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Our wedding cost about $28k. $10k was from my FIL, $2k from my mom, and $16k we paid ourselved. We had good paying jobs and lived frugally at the time – we already had a nice nest egg and had a monthly savings buffer that made the amount doable.

Post # 15
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My parents are paying for our reception. His parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner and morning after breakfast and FI and I are paying for all of our vendors and honeymoon. 

Post # 16
630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@soinlove79:  My parents are paying for most of the wedding, but there are some expenses that my FI and I will pay for.

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