Post # 1
We recently adopted a dog, and we’re both first-time dog owners. The dog sleeps in our room at night in his crate, with the crate door shut.
Well, since we got the dog, a somewhat strange issue has come up of “what to do with the dog when we want to get busy.” I don’t care if he’s in his crate in the same room, but Darling Husband feels very weirded out by that. He won’t do it if the dog is in the same room, even though he’s crated and not, like, running around or yapping at us or anything.
I don’t really get what the big deal is. The dog doesn’t care what we are doing; he’s usually just laying down, sleeping. It’s not like he’s watching and judging us. But yet, Darling Husband finds it freaky to have him in the room. So it’s kind of making things a little awkward, because we have to either go pick up his somewhat heavy crate and move it to another room, or move ourselves to another room. Then, sometimes when he’s crated but not in the same room as us, if he can hear us in another room, he whines. That definitely kills the mood, because then I feel sorry for the little guy, but if I let him out to run free while we’re out of the room, he’s liable to pee somewhere (he’s a male, with some marking issues if you’re not watching him carefully).
For you dog owners out there, what do you do with your dog in this situation?
Post # 3
We have a cat but we just let him run free. If he’s getting in the way he gets kicked out of the room though…
Post # 4
i can’t offer much insight. my dog sleeps in our bed, but as soon as anything starts he gets down. his bed in kept in the hallway bc while we’re having sex he HUMPS HIS BED. i can tune it out, but my SO insisted the bed be moved out of the room. yes, it’s weird. but, if we try shutting the door he cries and scratches and makes a ruckus.
Post # 5
Well we have a cat, not a dog, but we just lock him out of the bedroom for awhile. Sometimes he sits outside the door and meows, but most of the time he takes the hint and just hangs out in the other room.
Post # 6
We have cat, and if we let him run free in the bedroom he thinks it’s bedtime and tries to get in bed with us. He has jumped up on my husbands back before or tried to crawl in between us. If we close the door to lock him out he cries and scratches at it. Darling Husband calls him little furry cock blocker!
Post # 7
We have cats and we just close the door 🙂
Post # 8
My dog actually sleeps on my head at the top of my pillow. She can now sense when ‘something is up’ and jumps down before anything happens. She can just tell the mood. When she was a puppy though, she’d just continue to sleep on the pillow until I finally picked her up and put her on the floor. Boy that was awkward. I’d open my eyes and she’d just be staring at me 3 inches from my face. My dog never misses an opportunity to make out with a man, so once she even got in between us and gave him a kiss. We stopped that pretty quick. A threesome with my dog isn’t what I call a dream of mine 🙂
Post # 9
Our dog has his “bedroom” that we put him in when we go to bed or leave the house, so even if we are just going to have a quicky in the afternoon he goes into his room… It freaks me out to have him there, he’s like our kid.
Our poor kitty on the other hand, he loves to cuddle in bed with me at night and if Fiance starts making any moves the cat hides in the living room until we’re done and I come get him (he’s like a teddy bear, I can’t sleep without him.)… It’s like he’s mortified.
That said, in college I took in a stray cat for a few weeks (until I found him a new permanent home, I wasn’t allowed to have cats), and he was the cuddliest little thing ever (he was probably only 6 months old) and my boyfriend at the time came to stay the weekend and the cat wouldn’t get of the bed (the cat was basically cuddled at my side) while we were doing it… The cat didn’t care, it was the strangest thing ever and I almost pushed him off the bed because it was freaking me out so badly. lol
Post # 10
@ananeele: lol this cracks me up!! that is something my dog would do, he does that just when Fiance and I are cuddling on the couch!
Post # 11
^^ These made me lol. 🙂
We usually just kick ours off the bed and don’t really worry about it. Our rescued pup has separation anxiety, so we can’t really put him out of the room or he’ll mark on the walls. : The other one will just wander to wherever he wants to sleep. They’re old guys, so they don’t try to jump on the bed anymore.
Post # 12
@piglover: Lol, furry little cockblocker!
I can definitely not see having the pets on the bed like most PPs said, but in the room and doing their own thing does not bug me. Glad to hear I’m not the only one. I guess maybe Darling Husband will get used to it the longer we have him?
Post # 13
Our dog seems to know to leave the room. The cat on the other hand we have to physically remove from her semi-permanent cozy on the bed.
Post # 14
My dog sleeps in bed with us. Usually he just keeps sleeping at the end of the bed when we have sex. lol. Sometimes he gets in the way, and I’ll put him on the floor, but usually he leaves us alone and we leave him alone.
Post # 15
Our dog has his big dog bed in our room. He’s a lab so he always has to be near us. If we’re in our bedroom, so is he. But he’s super lazy and is asleep within seconds of laying down in his bed. He never seems bothered or pays us any attention. If he’s on the bed and we start messing around, he usually gets down. I figure he doesn’t know what’s going on, and if he does…dogs aren’t judgemental anyway 🙂
I will share one thing though: he does sometimes lay on the floor on either side of the bed when we first get into our room. Once he was laying on the floor and Fiance had me…hmm, how can I say this…bending over onto our bed. I was all caught up in the moment and when we finally moved from our standing (bending) position to get fully onto the bed, I realized I had been STANDING ON THE TIP OF HIS TAIL!! As soon as I picked up my foot he jumped up and left the room. I felt so bad. All I could think was how I had trapped him there (which, in reality, I probably hadn’t) while we were doing that and I was standing on his tail. We laughed for days about what was going through his head: “okay, cooper. Just breathe. Go to your happy place. It won’t last forever”
Post # 16
If we have “play time” at bedtime, we just let them sleep on their beds on the floor of the bedroom while we play.
If it’s any other time, we run upstairs and close the door before they get inside. They always sit outside the door usually chewing the carpet 🙁 until we’re finished