Post # 1
Ok, I have said this before and I will say it again – I’m watching Platinum Weddings right now and I don’t freaking get it!! For example:
Super expensive super rare flowers that only grow halfway around the world flown in just for your centerpieces vs. local seasonal flowers – who would know the difference? They both look like flowery centerpieces.
Thousands of dollars worth of real diamonds vs. costume jewelry from Macy’s – who would know the difference?
$10,000 (I kid you not,) hand beaded tablecloths vs., I don’t know, $10 machine beaded ones – who would ever know the difference?
A $20,000 designer dress that looks pretty much like a $1,000 dress – who would…ok, ok, you get my point. To me it’s kind of like buying a $500 designer white tee shirt. Maybe in a few circles people would notice, but by and large, who knows it’s not from Target?
On the other hand, there are some cool things that DO make an actual difference, i.e., great food, fun venues, etc.
Which made me ponder – of the things you pay for, what do you think actually adds to the overall ‘experience’ of your wedding vs. being a sort of ‘name brand only’ luxury?
Post # 3
LOL at the table cloths and flowers – to each their own I guess?
Our splurge list is as follows:
-DOC (not that it’s expensive, just that I hadn’t originally budgeted for it.)
Our scrimp list is:
-video (we’re having a friend tape)
-decorations (I’m DIYing a lot)
-cake (I’m hopefully making it)
-invites and Save-The-Date Cards (I’m planning on DIY or bargain hunting)
Post # 4
I hear ya girl!
At first, I was like “I have GOT to buy me a designer gown, no matter the cost!” but then I was like..who is really going to know it’s designer. Only I will know how much the dress cost. So now I’ll prob buy my dress from Davids Bridal since they have a gorgeous line out for ’10
the only thing I think I would spend good money for is the food and photography! Everything else, eh…it can be generic.
Post # 5
I think food, drink, and entertainment are vital for the overall experience–both for the bride and groom, and for the guests. You can definitely tell sub-par food from great food.Not so necessary? I agree, that the type of flowers doesn’t add much–but I think the way they are arranged does add to the experience.
I think for the people on Platinum Weddings, they don’t even think about getting a $1k dress. It’s not like they went shopping at David’s Bridal–they probably only checked out designer places, high end florists, etc. So of course they’re going to end up spending more, because it’s not necessary for them to bargain shop/cut corners.
Post # 6
AGREED! here is our splurg list:
officiant (flying him and wife in and making the biggest donation we can afford at the time)
Ketubah (Jewish marriage contract)
our priorities are ppl having a good time and celebrating the REAL meaning of getting married; our love and commitment to each other and God.. 😀
Post # 7
I am not by any means phased by designer duds or flashy. To me if you can accomplish the same look for less by all means go for it!!!! My only real splurge is the plated dinner and open bar for our guests. I want them to have a lot of fun and enjoy great food. I worked at a flower shop for a few years and I am getting ready to start back to work there because I am moving back to Oklahoma and I will be doing all the centerpieces myself and 2 of my BM’s are florists and we are doing all the ceremony flowers and to me no one will ever know that I didnt drop big $$ on all this stuff.
Post # 8
I’m nowhere near getting married yet ha, but definitely for me it would be food, photographer (Max Wanger I drool), and venue. Everything else I could careless, and I don’t think anyone else would either. It’s none of their business whether I went to Walmart or Macys..whether my dress is preowned or new. I’m big on pictures so a great photographer would be one of the most important things for me and so forth..
Post # 9
I agree, I don’t really understand what the difference is between flashy flowers and table clothes versus a cheaper stand in, but to each their own. I don’t think that much of our wedding is necessarily a “splurge” because we looked for the best deals possible but there are definitly some things that were more important than others like:
-Food (got a great BBQ place for a steal!)
I cut corners with:
-Invites and decor
Most of that I am DIY-ing and trying to cut back on.
Post # 10
Food, venue, open bar 🙂 Photographer is a bit of a splurge but nothing crazy.
And re: Platinum Weddings, people who are that ridiculously wealthy spend on unnecessary things because they can…saving money just isn’t a goal for many of those brides, but having the best of everything is. Hence the imported flowers and designer gowns.
Post # 11
I have to disagree with the designer gown. Sorry but i can tell the difference.. Sure there are beautiful dresses for less, and some designer gowns are over priced, but when someone is wearing a beautiful desinger gown you can tell!
I think its a waste to spend alot of money on:
-invites(theyll just be thrown away)
-Save the dates
-a band( unless they are well known most people enjoy a dj more IMO)
Things worth money
-a beautiful designer gown
– an excellent photographer
Post # 13
I skimped on everything! 😛
Post # 14
Splurge on the elements that you and/or your guests will remember: food/drink, entertainment, photography. Everything else is fluff. Sit down with your fiance and decide what you can’t live without and what isn’t important to you. Everyone has their own priorities, so beyond the three main elements listed above, it’s entirely up to your budget and preferences as far as the rest goes. Just make sure that your guests are not inconvenienced in any way or placed in awkward/embarrassing situations and that they do not have to open their wallets at the wedding for any reason.
Post # 15
You are so beyond correct – WHO KNOWS THE DIFFERENCE AND DETAILS UNLESS YOU TELL THEM…….To stand apart and what guests will take away and remember we splurged on:
- live 6 person band
- Pie Bar – Food – Booze (lol)
Post # 16
We’re splurging on bathrooms! We have to rent porta-potties, so we’re doing the trailer with two bathrooms with flush toilets, running water, and lights.
We’re keeping everything pretty cheap, but not cutting corners on food and alcohol.