Post # 1
So the FI and I were discussing where on the invite to write a person’s name. I;ve never heard of this until he showed me an invite that he got from a friend recently. On the top of the invite there’s a line and our names were hand written in. I HATE this. to me it looks tacky and like a kids birthday party invite. I said you just put the person’s name on the envelope and that’s that. But it doesn’t cover people with a plus one. I said we would write it on the rsvp card, but then if they decide not to have a guest it still says John Smith and Guest on the rsvp card and Joh Smith might not cross off the guest part. We’re doing pocket fold invites so I suggested writing it on the back (the flat part where these’s no fold to open it.) FI is worried people won’t turn it over and see it says NAME PLUS GUEST. And there’s no way he’ll go for an inner envelope. lol he doesn’t even understand why we have to mail the pocket folds in an envelope.
So PLEASE help me figure this out! I just don’t want hand written names ruining my pretty invites and making them look tacky.
Post # 3
Are you using inner envelopes?
If so, put “John Doe & Guest” on the inner envelope and just Mr. John Doe on the outer.
If you are not using inner and outer envelopes you can have something like:
“we have reserved 2 seats in your honor
___ of 2 will attend”
on the RSVP card so you get accurate counts.
Post # 4
We only have one envelope. We wrote Mr. John Smith and Guest. On the RSVP’s there is a space for name(s) and food choice. We are hoping whoever the guest is will indicate their name in that spot for the purpose of food choice and escort cards.
Post # 5
The outer envelope should be addressed to the guest, and inner envelope should say “John Smith and Guest” (without an address).
Post # 6
But where would I put it if there is not inner envelope?
Post # 7
Without an inner envelope – you write it on the outside with the address:
Mr. John Smith and Guest
1234 Main Street
Anytown, Anystate 01223
ETA: We also did pocketfolds and addressed the outer envelopes as above and also had a fill in line on the RSVP card that said:
____ seats have been reserved in your honor. For the +1’s we put the number 2 in this section.
Post # 8
Maybe you could add a small card attached to the pocketfold with the “Name & Guest” written on it? We’re in the same situation – pocketfold invites and no inner envelope and that’s what we’re considering. I’m thinking of something similar to Mrs. Gazelle:
Except that instead of a picture on the little card, it will list names. We’re not planning to do this for everyone, just the people with guests who we don’t know. When we’re inviting a couple, we’re just writing both names on the outer envelope.
Post # 9
I would address the outer envelope Mr. John Smith and Guest
Then on the rsvp card, there could be a line stating “# of guests attending”
Post # 10
I agree with Oracle and Ms. Blue.
I’m not doing inner envelopes, so the address will say “Mr. Smith and Ms. White” or something similar (we’re not doing “+1,” we’re inviting couples where we know both halves, but I think you could change one name to “and Guest”).
Then on the RSVP, there’s a place to write their names AND a place to mention the number attending (in case they’re bringing kids and can’t list them all on the tiny card).
Post # 11
hmmm….maybe we’ll go with a belly band or tag then. I just hate the thought of messing up my invites by hand writing names on them. FI thinks its fine because this is how its done in Ireland
Post # 12
@gonatgo: I saw a pocketfold invite a friend of mine received. It had the formal name on the front (Mr. and Mrs) – and then had a belly band around it with a little tiny tag that had their first names on it. If you wanted to go that route, that could be a way to add the first names or first name and guest – but, that seemed like waaaay too much work for my tastes and I thought putting in on the envelope and adding the # of guests invited was clear enough!
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
I’ve been wondering this too, honestly! I’ve never been invited to a wedding with an ‘and guest’ before so I’ve never actually seen an invite set-up for that situation. I’m glad you ladies are here to help!
Post # 14
just a thought, but we are going to have our RSVP on our wedding site, that way people can go to the site and rsvp themselves and their guest.
Post # 15
Outter/inner! Oh my!!! So many ways to address invites! I am getting pocketfolds I think. The 2 I love on Etsy are that style. I dont think I will have any “and guests.” Thank goodness! OP I guess writing it on the outside isnt too bad. I would probably want to know the person they are taking so I at least know their name. Or just ask the person you do know for the guest’s name…
Post # 15
Just write the guests name on the outer envelope. I also dont like the look of the guests names written on the actual invite itself!