Post # 1
I always thought although the engagement ring comes first, the wedding band sits at the base of the finger. Closer to the heart, ya know? But I see photos here and there of the band above the engagement ring. Is it personal preference or is there a ‘right’s way to do it?
Also, are you supposed to wear your engagement ring during your ceremony? I’m clearly over thinking!
Post # 2
- Wedding: April 2016 - Gorse Hill, Surrey, UK
Sometimes it’s preference, sometimes it’s culture. ultimately you can where it however you want.
if you are planning for the wedding band to go first, I would wear your engagement ring on your right hand for the ceremony or give it to your MOH for safe keeping. If you want the band on top I don’t see any reason why you couldn’t keep it on.
Post # 3
ts7738: I wore my engagement ring on my left hand as normal during the ceremony. The wedding band was put over it. Then in between the ceremony and the photos I switched them. But in the photos at the end of the ceremony they would be the wrong way around. Perhaps that is what you are seeing.
The majority of women wear the engagement ring on their right hand during the ceremony, but that didn’t feel right to me.
Post # 4
ts7738: I’m going to wear my e ring on my right hand for the ceremony because I’m a bit soppy and know there’s no way I’ll want to take my wedding ring off straight after the ceremony even if it’s only for the two seconds it would take to swap them round. Also, wearing the wedding band first is more traditional but even if it wasn’t I think I’d wear them that way as I’m more likely to want/need to take my e ring off than my wedding ring.
Post # 5
ts7738: lol I always wondered this too.. Lol I see more people wearing the band first then engagement ring… Lol not with me, I wear my engagement ring first then my band. Idk why but to me it feels better that way, and I always thought since they give engagment rings first then it would be first then the wedding band? but it’s all personal preferences. There’s no right or wrong, I guess however you feel.
Post # 6
I’m wearing my engagement ring and the wedding ring can go on right after it, “sealing the deal” so to speak 🙂 that diamond solitaire is WAY more valuable than some gold band so you’d better believe I’m keeping it extra safe and ‘closest to my heart’ haha!
I think wearing the band ‘closest to the heart’ is a conspiracy made up by jewelry stores hoping women will lose their engagement rings and have to re-purchase, possibly upgrade $$$
Post # 7
I wear my band first then ering. Personally I prefer that look but it’s also convenience. I often take my ering off when i get home so it’s easier not having to take both off only to put the band back on.
i wanted my band to go onto an empty hand during the ceremony but I couldn’t fit my ering on my right hand so I wore it as norma. And then when handing my bouquet to my MOH just before vows I subtly gave her my ring and then go it back off her when we went to sit down.
Post # 8
I really like my side detail so I will be wearing my wedding bands on top. I’ve been told it’s “wrong” but I could care less
Post # 9
Aaah! Every time I see the title of this thread my brain insists on reading it to the tune of that annoying ‘what does the fox say?’ Song… I have decided to share this pain with anyone else who knows the tune 🙂
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2
ts7738: I was planning on wearing my ering on my right hand during the ceremony and switch it over, but my now-husband requested that I leave it off for the ceremony. I left it with my mum, and put it back with the wring for the reception.
I’m in the minority where I wear the ering at the base, for asthetic and for ering’s safety reasons 🙂
Post # 11
ts7738: As others have said I believe its personal preference/cultural. For me personally it kinda bothers me if the wedding band isn’t closet to the heart but thats just how I was raised/taught. You can wear your rings however you like. I plan to wear my engagement ring on my right hand and then after the ceremony on our way to pictures I’ll put it on top of the wedding band.
Post # 12
I wear my band first, at the base (closest to the heart!), followed by the ering. I have always seen it that way growing up, but as the other bees posted, it’s personal preference. I wore my ering on my right hand during the ceremony, then switched it back above the wedding band after the ceremony…easy peasy!
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
Even though tradition says the wedding band goes first, I remember the mom of my ex did the opposite. Ering, then band. she explained to me that in the event a ring get pulled off, it should be the less expensive one. She felt like the wedding band was protecting her rock. Makes sense to me.