Where have all my friends gone?

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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2704 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Don’t feel bad for wanting a shower and bachelorette! It’s natural, I want the same things! It’s a special time in your life that you only get to celebrate once!

Are you close with your mom or either of your sisters? Maybe you can express how you feel to them and they can light a fire under your MOH? If not, you should try telling your MOH again, maybe ask another friend or family member to help plan to make sure it gets done.<br /><br />As for the large group of friends… it doesn’t really seem like they’re that good of friends. I would say they’re just busy… but obviously that’s not the case if they’re throwing celebrations for another friend, and you’re not invited?! That’s weird, she’s obviously not your friend.

I’ve had drama with my wedding too- we all do. Hurt feelings, finding out you’re not as close as you thought you were with some family and friends… it sucks, weddings do bring out another side to people. What helps me when I get sad is to think about my fiance, the life we’re building together and how at the end of the day as long as we’re married everything turned out perfectly. Also, something that has helped me is to let go of expectations, I had this unattainable vision of what my shower/bachelorette/wedding was going to be like. The fact is, we’re not working with an unlimited budget, I don’t have friends/family that also have an unlimited budget and loads of time, things are not going to happen the way I always thought they would. But, that’s OK, the people who matter will be there, and again… I get to marry my best friend!! And you do too! Focus less on the poeple who don’t matter (I know… easier said than done) and focus more on your future husband… that’s who you’re starting a new life with… not them.

I hope that helps a bit… sometimes it’s nice to have an outsiders perspective.

Post # 4
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2704 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

No Problem!

I’m happy I could help. Good luck with the planning! 🙂

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