Post # 1
So I have a problem with where I should have my gifts sent..I have lived here for 5 years and my fiance and I plan to live here for another 3 or so. We have absolutely everything that we need. (We both each had a house full of stuff when we moved in together…We still have twos of certain things that we didn’t want to pitch!)
That being said, I totally understand that people will want to buy us presents for the wedding (and not cash) and I have no problem with that. Even though..again, I have way more stuff than I even need.
We’regetting married in my hometown. Which is 5000 miles away from where we live. We are also planning to move back to my hometown in 3-4 years and would need to start over with all new stuff (as it’s too far and difficult to ship things.)
Do you think it’s a good idea to have my registry just send my gifts to my parents house for storage until we move there in a few years? (Storage won’t be a problem. They have a huge house and I still have a bedroom there) I’m thinking heavy quality stuff like dishes, etc. Will that stuff say good for years if it’s not opened up??? What stuff wouldn’t stay good?
My other option is having everything shipped to where I live now and then returning gifts that I’m able to and putting that money in a fund for when we do move to our new city. In a perfect world everyone would give cash but “requesting cash” is NOT an option because I feel it’s tacky (no offense to anyone who did!)
Post # 3
I would do a very small registry at a place with a generous return policy and have gifts sent to my current home. I just wouldn’t want to be committed to still liking things after a few years in storage, and that is a LONG time to keep stuff in storage – life plans change. Also, as a guest, I wouldn’t love finding out that my gifts were going into storage for years. I think when you do a small registry, people get the hint that you don’t need much. It’s better than not doing a registry at all in that situation, then people just assume you didn’t register, but not that you don’t need much.
I’d also try to make sure no one threw me a shower, or if they did, maybe some sort of themed shower (stock the wine cabinet or something). Around here, showers are where the gifts roll in, weddings tend to be money.
Post # 4
@NAvery: I was also thinking people maybe would be a little annoyed if I didn’t use their gifts right away (But then how would they feel if I returned them?)
& yeah, I nixed any showers.
I am not concerned about things going out of style or changing my taste because I have classic taste and have liked the same things since I was 10.
Thanks for the comment!
Post # 5
My cousin lived in California when she was engaged and planning her wedding. She knew that she and her now husband would be moving back to the East coast so they did just what you were thinking about. All of their gifts were sent to their parent’s house. She filled up her old bedroom with plates, wine glasses, towles even bed linens and everything was perfectly fine when she moved back a few years later. No one outside the family knew that they were not planning on using the gifts for a few years, but I don’t think that anyone would have really cared one way or the other. Like you she likes classic items so she was not worried about anything going out of style. You are correct that some people just love to give a gift so having some kind of registry to help them out is necessary.
Post # 6
I would just have the gifts sent to your parents house. There’s no reason for your guests to know that you’re not going to be using them right away.
Post # 7
Glad to see others have also thought about doing it this way!!
Post # 8
I would just do a very small registry of things you’ll actually love to use now and want to move and have them sent to your current home.
There’s a big difference between writing “CASH ONLY” in big letters on your invite, and when specifically asked where you’re registered/what you want for your wedding saying something like “we’ve registered for a few things we really love at X-Store, but with a cross country move coming up in a couple years and having to really be selective about what we can bring, monetary gifts that we can set aside for setting up our forever home would be really appreciated”