Post # 1
Our wedding is in a hotel and I am conflicted if I should book rooms for my parents and family in the same hotel. Part of it is that the rooms are kinda pricey and thhere are some across the street that are cheaper so some of the $ could go to flowers etc. but also because we kinda want our privacy and we plan to have an after-party with friends and we don’t want family to hear us coming back late to the hotel… any thoughts? What would you do? i don’t want my mom to feel sad she isn’t in the same hotel especially becuase it would be easier for her to get ready and stuff if she is in same hotel as me.. I am leaning towards that for the most part… i just also don’t want unneccessary stress from her the day of if she is nearby eek!
Post # 3
@kittypuppy2014: do you not have a great relationship with your mother that you are concerned with having her nearby? you are clearly an adult if you are getting married, so why would it matter if she happened to hear you coming back late from your after party? also, why are you paying for your families’ rooms? and please don’t take these questions as attacks at all…i am just trying to get a better feel for your situation/relationships.
Post # 4
@kittypuppy2014: We wanted total privacy, so we stayed at a completely different property than the other guests. However, if some of your guests are staying at your same hotel, I don’t see why you would single out your parents and relegate them across the street. As far as the stress issue…my mother and I didn’t particularly like each other at the time I got married so I didn’t care where she stayed as long as it was far away from me. My getting ready time were some of the most peaceful moments I’d had the entire weekend and not inviting someone to get ready with me who was likely to stress me out (in this case my mother) is one of the best wedding decisions I made.
Also, I think it’s sweet that you’re paying for their room. I wouldn’t have. Even if my mother and I were BFFs.
Post # 5
Well, I wouldn’t mind paying for my parents to stay where I was at. I would much rather have them in a nice room than put the money towards something else. Your parents may be exhausted and not really care if you come in late. It is sweet of you though, to pay for their room.
Post # 6
I don’t think they will hear you come back late. If you’re really that worried about it just request a hotel room across the hotel- I’m sure they get that request from wedding couples fairly often.
Post # 7
If budget is really the concern book her across the street. If not, make a request with the hotel to put you on a different floor.
Post # 8
Hotel rooms have locks. It isn’t a home; they won’t hear you come back unless they’re waiting up in the lobby or you scream and stumble past their room drunk as can be. So don’t worry about that.
But you could block rooms at both the cheaper hotel across the street and in the hotel you’ll be at and let everyone choose and book their own. Usually guests (even family) pay for their own hotel rooms.
That said, my mom would have been sad if I told her I put her in a different hotel from me
Post # 9
thanks for the replies.helped me put things in perspective. I will put them in the same hotel as me. It will be fine and fun. i guess i was just feeling stressed a little but i need to just relax and enjoy the time and appreciate family!