Post # 1
I have a slight opinion on what I am about to ask because I have been a victim. lol Well, I am just thinkng toward the future, if you are in a wedding, where do you want to sit if you are not close to the other memebers of the wedding party? I was in a wedding and dinner bored me slightly because we had to sit at the head table according to tradition. Im sure it is fine if you are close to the whole bridal party, but I would of rather ate closer to the bride, (who is close to me, but that seat was taken by the maid of honor, which i understood), or my family at the other table, but no one considered that option. That is why i may decide to have a sweetheart table, and a table for my wedding party and maybe a signifiant other. Has anyone else thought of this? What are you all doing?
Post # 3
Yes, that’s sort of what we did. We had a sweetheart table, and then the Bridal Party got to sit at two other tables with the SOs. I was also in a wedding where they had a sweetheart table, but then the Bridal Party was scattered around the room with their friends. (We decided to do the former b/c we wanted to contain some element of “specialness” for the Bridal Party during dinner.)
Post # 4
I’m having this same debate too. Our wedding party isn’t made up of couples, and I don’t want their SO’s to have to sit with people they don’t know well, so we’re thinking of doing a sweetheart table too. I posted this question on another wedding forum, and lots of people said the sweetheart table was the best decision they made. One girl suggested having a few extra chairs at the table so people will come up and sit and talk to you. I thought it was a great idea!
Post # 5
@QBbride: you could try polling your wedding party? We emailed them, and while none of them were very opinionated, it was nice to have allowed them to voice their preference.
Post # 6
I thought about a sweetheart table, vendor said dont do it, its always weird.
Post # 7
I guess is depends on your bridal party! On DH’s side, he had his best mate and his wife, and his brother in law plus his dad. These three all know each other (well, two are married! lol). And we then sat his family at the front table on that side so they were close enough to talk and move around.
On my side, all three again knew each other and got on brilliantly. Plus my mum who knows them all. Again my family were at the front table on this side and set out close enough that we could interact with them too.
Post # 8
I had a post about this. I decided to do a tiered set-up with a sweetheart table and a family table, but my now Darling Husband decided that was all wrong. So we did the traditional head table and everybody hated it basically. They sat there for 5 minutes for dinner and one of my MOHs pouted the whole time because she couldn’t be with her Fiance who was sitting 5 feet away from her.
that’s just my experience i don’t have any suggestions.
Post # 9
We are going to have a head table – just for my Fiance & I and our 3 children…. then we are going to designate one or two tables for the bridal party and their SO’s… that way there shouldn’t be any awkwardness ( I hope )
Post # 10
I think it depends on your situation. But with us, we did a head table with me and the hubby and our parents and a couple siblings that were in the wedding party. The non-family wedding party we put at a separate table and they got to sit with their husbands/wives. They really liked that! Then the few rest of the relatives (we don’t have a lot), we just grouped together at another table. It worked out ok! I did not want to do a sweetheart table. It just seems odd to me!
I definitely felt like you do and didn’t want to stick to the tradition of everyone having to sit at a head table and be separated from their SO. I HATE that so much!