Post # 1
So, its been a month now. A wonderful, beautiful and exciting month of excitement in our new engagement. We’ve had a wonderful and unexpected engagement party, engagement pictures are done and we’re just waiting for them to come in now. And, everyone couldn’t be more happy for us in our new step of life.
But it hasn’t been beautiful the entire way. Big rock in the road. I’m completly stumped and cannot figure out this gruling question. Where is the wedding going to be?! Yep, big question, and I have no answer. I have searched and searched and we cannot seem to find a place that fits what we want. A place big enough for over 200 guests, we want indoor and outdoor options and we want to bring our own food!! Apparently this is too much to ask. Idaho is not a big place, or big city like, but it isn’t like I live in the middle of no where. I think more than anything I’m starting to get worried that I wont have enough time to plan everything else if I dont find a venue today!
Alright, I think I’m done venting. Has anyone else had this problem? Did you have to “settle” for less than what you dreamed of for a venue or any other aspect of the wedding?
Post # 3
Just remember you WILL find a venue and it will work out – you just need to be persistent and patient. We got engaged in September of 2009. We searched for venues until January of 2010 until we FINALLY decided where we would be getting married. It felt like it would never happen!! And then once it did everything else was able to fall in place. We were all over the place – looking at venues in Maryland, VA, NC, SC and even thinking about doing a cruise!!! It’s funny because the venue we ended up choosing is in Georgia (where FI is from) at the lake where we have spent a lot of time together and where we got engaged. Honestly in all the months of searching and brainstorming I did not think of this and once we did it made sense. Originally we wanted to get married in October 2010 but our venue had weddings all of September and October so our wedding was then pushed forward to August. So we didnt actually know where we were getting married until 7 months beforehand. And then from there we have been able to plan all of our other vendors. You still have a lot of time so don’t stress!!
Post # 4
PS – I did not settle for less. I just didnt know exactly what I was looking for except we knew how much space we needed.
I got way more than I could have ever imagined. My venue is absolutely gorgeous and at a place that is so meaningful to us that we will visit many many times in the future and bring our children to!
Post # 5
We got engaged on April 25, 2010 and we’re getting married on August 15, 2010. We found a venue, not in a big city with lots of stuff, but we found one, so I totally have faith that you can find one with a year to go. Don’t start stressing now because it only grows.
Post # 6
You can do it! I think the self-catering options are more difficult to find…we couldn’t even find a venue that would let us bring our own alcohol (well, not a venue that met all the other criteria), but we did find something we love in the end. You will, too!
Post # 7
Have you looked around for country clubs that don’t require you to use their caterer? Also, have you browsed through the Premier Bride Idaho listings? http://www.pbidaho.com/
Otherwise – if this is your kind of thing – I imagine you should be able to find a farm out there with an enormous open-space barn to suit your needs. I saw an amazing wedding done in a barn once, and they even kept the horses in there for the entertainment of the guests!
Best of luck hun!
Post # 8
I definitely didn’t find everything I wanted in a venue, and it didn’t talk long for me to get really stressed out about it and tired of the search. So, yeah, I made some compromises, but for me it was completely worth it to just be done with it (I’m not really cut our for wedding planning, as it turns out.)
I gave up having both indoor and outdoor space–in the end it just wasn’t so important to me.
I initially wanted to have this GREAT gourmet taco truck in town do the catering, but we ended up in a space in an upscale downtown steakhouse…so no taco truck for us. That is still a little disappointing to me, but I still know the food will be really good (and food is important to us…FI is a chef). A lot of venues we looked at forced us to use mediocre caterers, and we knew that wasn’t a compromise we’d make.
The place we chose has a modern, lofty feel to it…I had imagined more of a rustic feel, but we really don’t care about decor at all, so that wasn’t a bit compromise.
At the end of the day, I’m very happy, and can’t imagine being happier (okay, the taco truck would make me a little happier)
So, yeah….keep looking until you find something you love. And if you get tired of looking, then find something that you really like.
Post # 9
I went through about eight different ideas before I finally decided on what I want. For me, it was not that I could not find a venue, but I just am not into all the planning, so I had a very tough time finding a package type deal that was all inclusive for a reasonable price. So I basically gave up. But I was not happy with all my other ideas/options, so I came back to my original idea, and ended up finding something that works (after wasting a lot of time and energy looking for something else that really was not going to make me happy). So I guess I’m saying, figure out what is important to you and what really isn’t, and keep looking (and try not to stress). I’m sure you’ll find something that makes you happy.
Also, I’m not sure about Idaho, but the cities around me have rental facilities and they are usually cheaper (but have stricted guidelines) because they’re owned by the city. Does your city have something like that?
Post # 10
Thank you all so very much. I think more than anything I was getting too stressed and ready to give up 🙁 I appreciate all of your great ideas
@jenbrandner: This is an amazing idea! A barn is totally our style and I am going to start searching… I’m sure it cant be too hard to find a barn in Idaho! lol
Thanks again ladies 🙂