Post # 1
So my husband and I got married in a private ceremony back in May. My parents are now throwing us a party to celebrate and I’ve run into the usual dilemma.
I’m finally finishing up my invitations. I’m friends with a few people at work who I’ve decided to invite. The people who are definites are the ones I hang out with outside of work or talk to on a daily basis. The problem is everyone already knows that I’m having this party, and one person in particular is visibly offended he hasn’t been invited. I’ve talked to him about reception things since he is getting married next year. If I invite him, then I automatically have to invite 2 other people.
Where do I draw the line????
Post # 3
@Pixie26: I say, if you don’t hang out with them outside of work, then I wouldn’t invite them. But it’s easier said than done, I know! 🙁
Post # 4
I kind of feel like like if you are sharing details with him about it & inviting other co-workers, then its kind of rude not to invite him.
Post # 5
yeah I dunno why you would share info and then be like “Nope not it! You ain’t coming!” If he’s throwin a stink then just invite him. Its kinda like you’ve been teasing him anyway. And why do you have to invite the others? Do you talk to them as well?
However, as for who to invite from the office, ick, what a huge nightmare. I do not envy any of us who have to tackle that issue!
Post # 6
We had a big problem with this at our wedding. We have over 100 coworkers and we work in the same place so most people know one of us really well or both of us well. We just had to whittle it down to people we really enjoy being around. There may be some hurt feelings but people need to understand (and should understand) that weddings are expensive and a huge guest list only adds to that cost.
Post # 7
@SincerelyShe: you said: “if you are sharing details with him about it & inviting other co-workers, then its kind of rude not to invite him.”
@Mrs. Camel: you said: “There may be some hurt feelings but people need to understand (and should understand) that weddings are expensive and a huge guest list only adds to that cost. “
Wishful thinking I’m afraid. Of course most people are aware on an intellectual level that weddings are expensive. However on an emotional level–not so much. Your true regard for each coworker will become readily apparent to them once the invitations go out….
There could be seriously uncomfortable ramifications at one’s work environment. Silly maybe, but people are human….
I wouldn’t invite anyone myself.