Post # 1
Hello Bees I could really use some opinions. Sorry if this is a little long but FI are stuck in an endless debate…
FI and I got engaged in October but because of immigration issues we had kind of put planning on hold. After meeting with our lawyer last week he suggests that we have our wedding before FIs visa runs out in March! This is completely doable since we were planning on having a small <30 people wedding anyway but a little stressful since we haven’t decided on any details yet including the location.
A little bit more background, my family lives in Maine, his family lives in central Mexico, he lives in Boston, I live in southern Connecticut, important members of my family do not have passports. So no matter where we get married most people are going to have to travel and it has to be within the US and I don’t want to get married in Connecticut in the winter.
Right now we are seriously considering two options for our wedding next month.
1. Boston, it’s where we met, it’s where he lives, and we spend a lot of our time there. We know some beautiful places to get married and some great places to hold a celebratory dinner. However, my family has come to Boston many times, and it is cold in February and there is a chance of snow which might make travel from Mexico difficult.
2. New Orleans, we love to travel and New Orleans is on our list of places we’d like to visit. No one on our guest list has been there before and it would be like a mini vacation. This location is close to half way between our families and the weather should be nicer. However, we don’t know the location and would not have a chance to visit before we start booking places.
Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated!
Post # 3
OK let me preface by saying I love Boston and any other time of year I’d be saying pick Boston but you’re right. Feb in Boston is risky.
I think New Orleans would be a lot of fun. I would do a lot of research though since it’s somewhere you’ve never been.
Post # 4
I’d be really wary of planning a wedding on short notice in a city I’m not familiar with. Also, isn’t Mardi Gras in February? Hotels are probably already booked up.
Post # 5
this is one of those instances where i’d suggest a destination wedding….i was going to pick New Orleans but then i read what LGenz said about mardi gras and i’ll have to agree…i believe mardi gras is march 8th but nonetheless hotel prices might be expensive right now….
Post # 6
another thought – since you and your guests don’t have much time to get good prices on travel costs, maybe take a day to check out plane ticket prices and hotel prices in the locations that are on your list…. it might influence one choice over the other…
Post # 7
My personal tendency would be to stick to the area you know and can easily view things/meet with vendors. I’m much more of a hands on person, so not being able to view potential sites and talk with vendors face to face would drive me nuts! 😛
Just a quick question (I know you didn’t ask about this, so forgive me for the side track, but my hubby and I went through a fiance visa for immigration last year, so immigration things always catch my eye these days): You mentioned he’s here on a visa and you mentioned immigration issues, and you said you just got engaged a couple of months ago. Is he here on a student or work visa at the moment? I’m assuming he’s not here on a fiance visa since that would have been aMAZINGly fast turnaround. When we went through our couples interview here in the States, the immigration person talked about the ways people typically make his job harder (and make things harder on themselves) by not doing things the right way, i.e. getting married while on a visa free waiver and not leaving the States to finish the processing. I know you said your lawyer suggested this, so maybe I’m worried for nothing (I definitely don’t know all there is to know about immigration), but when I read what you posted, I had little red flags going up.
Anyway, enough of my sidetracking! I hope things immigration-wise and marriage-wise work out perfectly and quickly!! 🙂 Whatever choice you make is going to be lovely, but if you do decide to go the New Orleans route, then I’d probably suggest hiring a wedding planner who knows the area and the vendors in the area to take some of the stress off of you. 🙂
Best of luck on everything!! If you ever want to have someone to commiserate over immigration with, just pm me! 🙂
Post # 8
If you are on a tight deadline, then I would say either do it in an area that you know or pick a destination where you can get some sort of all inclusive package.
Post # 9
one word- well two words VEGAS ELVIS
Post # 10
February in Boston is very risky, especially if people will be flying in. New Orleans would be the perfect midpoint.
Mardi Gras is late this year, so you could possibly get a good deal in early February. Not sure.
Post # 11
I think given your timeframe I would pick Boston.
BUT I do think you should just spend a day or two researching New Orleans and see if it’s doable. Check out the costs of plane tickes and hotel costs. I would check wedding chapels that supply an officiant.
You could do your reception at a restaurant that offers a private dining area.
Best of Luck
Post # 12
new orleans! i’m sure it’s a lot cheaper than boston. i’ve planned my entire new orleans wedding long distance (i’ve met with some vendors, but most i had already booked when i met them).
mardi gras is march 8 this year. keep in mind hotels cost a lot more than normal that week. also, it’s vacation week for most people, so some vendors might charge more or be harder to get.
if you choose new orleans, i’d be happy to share my vendors with you!