(Closed) Where to mention registry

posted 5 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
12250 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@fuentesbee:  Stick it on your website! It’s generally considered rude to put registry information on your invitation!

Or, if you don’t have a website, tell your parents/bms/gms. People will know to ask you/them!

Post # 4
3196 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It all has to go out through a website (you can mention the website at the bottom of your invite) or by word of mouth. It’s a no-no to point them out to people.

Post # 5
1600 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Where I live, it’s EXPECTED to include registry information in invites, so we don’t think it’s rude at all lol.

Never heard of anyone in real life having a website and there are so many damn people invited to my wedding/shower, word of mouth would cause serious miscommunication.

I would just add it at the bottom of the invite information in smaller font or something.





Post # 7
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Stace126:  I totally agree.

Check with the protocols for your local area or social circles (even just casually mention it to a few people that are invited whose opinion you trust). I live in Australia, and I’ve yet to receive a wedding invitation that didn’t include something about gifts or registry information on it, so it’s pretty normal to include it with the invitations here! I also don’t think many people in my area do wedding websites – I had never heard of them before the Bee! I wonder how people got this information out before the internet?

Just check, though, because there are some people that think it’s the rudest thing ever. Sigh…damn etiquette making life difficult for everyone.

Post # 8
1113 posts
Bumble bee

@fuentesbee:  Disregard the people saying it’s rude to put it on your invite. I know in some places, it’s customary. I would never do that, but I just had a friend who sent out wedding invites with their registry info in them. They included a little, business card sized paper that listed the places.

Post # 9
1748 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Our registry is on our website and the site was mentioned on our save the date and on our more info card in our invite suite. I didn’t want anything mentioned on the invite.

In the past if I wasn’t sure where someone was registered, I’d typically go alone to all the typical places: Macy’s, BB&B, Target, Crate & Barrel, etc and see if I could find the couples registry. If I couldn’t then, I’d call and ask.

Post # 10
3053 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I just got my cousin’s invite & they had an insert card with registry info & the wedding website on it saying “Want more information?” on top. I never knew that was supposed to be “bad” before the bee, everyone in my family has done it on a separate card from what I can remember

Post # 13
934 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Haha my coworkers told me today that I should email my registry to all the guests. I was like ‘hmm, let me think about that.’ LOL. 

I just stuck the registry on our website. 

Post # 14
6207 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

@Stace126:  lol really?? Every couple I know who is engaged/got married has had a website

Post # 16
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Ok, Etiquette Snob here (comes from my career)

Agree with the other Bees who said it is an Etiquette Faux Pas / Rude to put your Registry Info anywhere on / in the Invite package

Any mention of Gifts by the Bride (or the Couple) is seen as being Gift Grabby… and one’s prime motivation for having a Wedding

Hence WHY it is not done

Wedding Websites are the now accepted place for that info… as someone else said in a sort of “General or Odds & Ends Category”

If you aren’t having a Website… then the accepted practice is what has been done for 100s of years in America…

Word of mouth.  Let the key family members know and your Bridal Party… so if anyone is asked they can pass the word (Bride & Groom are registered at ___)

Because if folks are forward as you say they are… they will surely ask.

BUT if they ask you… personally.  As per Etiquette… you should be coy… and not directly answer the Question… instead using the old stand-by

“Honestly… Your presence on our Big Day is present enough”

BUT then let one of your key people know (whoever is closest to the Guest who asked) to get the info to them…

“FuentesBee mentioned she ran into you the other day… and you asked about what to get them for the Wedding… she was flattered you would give them a gift”… “I happen to know they are registered at ___ you could check there if you like”

Ya I know… it is a round about way to get things done… but that is what Etiquette and Manners are truly all about.

How not to make people feel awkward / uncomfortable.  (Same reason folks don’t blow their nose at the Dinner table)  It makes everyone else around them feel out of sorts… in the case of gifts, discussing such things could potentially make others who might overhear or be present during such a converstation and not have the funds to bring a gift feel awkward… so the rule of thumb is the Bride & Groom shall not speak of it.

Hope this helps,


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