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Um, NO! Haha. This is a hotly-debated topic. Registry info doesn't belong anywhere near the invite. It's like asking for money/gifts. You don't HAVE to bring a gift to a wedding. Sure, it's nice, but you're inviting people to your wedding because you want them there, not because you want a gift from them.
That being said. Registry info CAN go into shower invites. But the most proper method is to have people spread the word.
I've been thinking about this myself, and I think the invitation is probably the best place. I think the Save the Date is a little....too much. It kind of makes people think you expect them to get you a gift whether they come or not. Waiting until the invitation goes out gives people more time to plan it out.
AND ps...the whole etiquette thing.
People want to give you a gift. They want to know how to do that. It is not rude to help them out a bit. I have guests who aren't connected to one another, so "word of mouth" is just not going to do it. I'm also not going to, or have my mom, call every guest and let them know where we're registered when a small and unobtrusive card will do it nicely.
Can I also say how tired I am of hearing the "proper method" for doing things?
It's a different world then it was when etiquette was established, and some of it is nice, while some of it it just unrealistic.
I put them with our invites. In our pocketfold. With our map and our drinks tokens and our RSVP information. And our wedding website was on our invite as well and our registry info was on there too.
I know it's not really the done thing but lots of our guests live overseas and it just wasn't practical to tell them by word of mouth. And some of our guests aren't tech-savvy enough to figure out how to get to our website so they needed to know a different way.
While I think that some etiquette/traditions are a bit antiquated in today's society, I don't hink this is one of them. I have to agree with *Grey* on this one.
I think it is just as easy to give people your registry information on your wedding website (which can be listed in your invite). If I got an invitation to attend someone's nuptials and it included a gift registry card, I would think, "WOW!! These people really want gifts!" As opposed to, "What a lovely invitation. I'm so happy for them..." If people really want to get you something off your registry, they will find it and purchase you something. If (and this does happen quite often) people do not really care about your registry, they will give you what they feel like giving you - or nothing. But that's not really the point. The point is that you are asking your closest friends and family to join you in sealing your marriage and celebrating your new life.
If you have a wedding website and you list your registries on there (and the website is listed on the invite) you should be fine. I don't think I've ever gotten an invite (and I've gotten tons!) that had a registry card in it, but even if I did, I wouldn't think it rude. Most of the times, the registry cards are included with the bridal shower invites. I honestly only hit up the registry for the shower and for the wedding I usually write a check - but that's just kind of the norm in my circle of friends.
We're going to have all of our guests RSVP online, so our invitation will have a link to our website. And our website also has the other info our guests might need, including the registry stuff. I'm hoping that that's all we'll need to do.
I think having the registry info included on your wedding website is perfectly fine. My registry info was both on my wedding website (it wasn't announced to everyone) and it was included in my shower invite.
The rest was done by word of mouth.
I opened up a free wedding website with weddingchannel.com and put that info on the reception card. My sister didnt put her registry info on her invitations and she didnt get any gifts at all at her wedding
Wedding websites are great, unless you have a fair amount of people who won't be checking out your website because they aren't internet browsers. There are quite a few people like that out there.
DONT put them with the invites. We threw all of ours away. My shower invitations listed the registries, and the wedding invitation info card had a link to our website. The registry info was on that site and everyone got the memo.
Including them with the invites looks gift grabby...and if someone does miss the registry on the website, you are likely to get money
Oh my goodness, put them in the TRASH! They don't belong on any invitations, Save the Dates or even shower invitations. They belong on your wedding website.
I put ours in the trash... er, I mean recycling. We put our wedding website on the invite info section, which links in to travel info, things to do, registry, etc.
Never put registry info in or on your invitation! Leave it on the website or include it in a bridal shower invitation. Everyone wants to give you a gift so they will ask around or find your registry on weddingchannel.
Yes, a lot of young people, including myself, consider some etiquette rules to be old fashioned and out of date. But a good portion of the guests are likely to be family and older relatives who still adhere to these rules. Why run the risk of dealing with the hassle?
While I would never put anything about my registry on my invitations, except for my wedding website...I think those little inserts in general are really tacky and cheap looking themselves. I think a cheap little paper with a code printed out on it from BBB, Target or wherever, falling out of your most likely very nice and time intensive invites looks terrible.
Whenever I have gotten an invite to a wedding and it didn't have information on there, I simply asked the couple. It isn't hard for a guest to do. I never would just show up to a wedding without a gift.
We have our registry information on our wedding website and we typically also include it in the bridal shower invite. Most of our guests are couples or families, which means almost everyone invited will know a woman who is invited to the shower and will have that information from the invite. If they don't, I just hope they're computer saavy enough to check out our site or feel comfortable just asking us!
thanks bees!! now i know..will most likely keep it on our website, and if there's a shower, maybe on the shower invite..
Honestly, Out of the 7 weddings I've been to in the last 5 years, 6 of them had the registry info in with the rsvp card and maps/info etc. I think it is so much easier and I wasn't at all offended. The one that didn't have it included, was a hassle. I didn't want to ring the bride and ask her, and I didn't really know her parents, and we didn't have any mutual friends. It stressed me out and I think I ended up putting $100 in a card bringing it too the wedding.
So I would say put it in the invite. But, I do live in Australia and I think our weddings are less formal in general, so maybe its just a cultural difference.
Registry info never goes in the wedding invites. It either goes in the shower invites or is spread via word of mouth.
Unfortunately, have to agree with the majority of posters, it's considered a bit inappropriate to include registry info on the invitation...But as long as you include your wedding website info, people will find the registries, don't worry! And if they don't, you'll most likely end up with more cash instead of presents, and who can complain about that?!? 
I always find this debate an amusing one. I'm in the same boat. I wanted to do a wedding website, have the RSVPs on the site or phone if people don't have a computer and my mom nixed that idea, yet she wants me to put the registry info in the invitation.
Everyone I talked to said if they did their wedding over, they'd include the info - people bought them stuff not on any registry because they didn't know they were registered anywhere, etc.. And people I've talked to from a guest point of view thinks it would be helpful. I've also seen several invitations lately that have this info in it.
People coming to my shower are not the same as the people coming to my wedding, so even though the info is in the shower invites, that will maybe count for 1/3 of our guests at the wedding.
Putting up a website would be pointles - i'm doing a pocketfold invite and will have all the info for directions, accomodations, etc on that. And putting one up JUST for registries WOULD be tacky.
So i'm in the same boat.. put a small insert with registry info or let people search for it themselves? My mom is the one most people would ask, but she'll be going out of town soon and will be back only 2 weeks before the wedding, so she'll be incommunicado (70% of the guests are my parents friends).
My FH and i are designing and printing our invites this afternoon.. so who knows what i'll end up actually doing.
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ETA: On the etiquette thing - everyone says you shouldn't expect gifts, yet how many sites have I read "every $1 you put into an invite, you get $50 in gifts". Everyone knows that if you go to a wedding, you're expected to bring some sort of gift (whether it's $5 or $150). So.. bride and groom expect gifts...guests know they should bring a gift - why does everyone tiptoe around this fact?? (And before anyone says i'm selfish.. if people come to my wedding and don't bring a gift, no i wouldn't care in the slightest.. but i AM for making life easier.)
I once got an invitation with many inserts:
-map
-hotels
-registry
I found the all-in-one invite easy to use. Loved it.
As for me, we're going the wedding website route.
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Hi bees, just a question, where do you put your registry inserts? Do you put it along with the save the dates or the actual invitation?? Thanks=)