Where to put the RSVP date

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I had online RSVPs.  I printed an insert card that said to RSVP and for other informatoin, visit our wedding website at http://www.MrandMrs.com.   Please RSVP by X date. 

I’ve also seen it at the bottom left corner of the invitation if you don’t have an insert.

Post # 4
1644 posts
Bumble bee

In the lower left corner of the invitation card, in smaller print:

R.s.v.p. by June 25 at

In a perfect world, you would leave out the date because your guests could be trusted to reply immediately, as good manners require. In an even more perfect world, you would leave out the R.s.v.p. instructions completely and all your guests would reply on their own stationery with a hand written note of acceptance — when I was a girl it was considered “not quite nice” to put the letters R.s.v.p. on an invitation (and unthinkably crass to actually send a stamped self-addressed envelope!) But even by those antiquated standards, having to supply a web address gives you a plausible reason for including the R.s.v.p. instructions, since guests would not know the website otherwise.


Post # 5
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@prahajess:  Are you planning on having an insert with the information on it? I think that would be the easiest way to be clear on the online RSVP thing, and the date. Online RSVPing is relatively new, so not everybody has seen it, and many may be confused by it. Having an insert would be more informative and less cluttered than having it on the main invite. As far as wording, I went with “The favor of your reply is requested by September 6” and because I am giving them the option to RSVP online, I said at the bottom “for your convenience, you may choose to RSVP on our wedding website.”

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