Where to save money!?

posted 2 years ago in Money
Post # 2
5207 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Wifey2beee:  Don’t buy anything that will be discarded after the wedding. Programs, place cards, flowers are a big one. Don’t drive yourself bonkers over favors. You’d be surprised at how many people would rather have a few Hershey kisses scattered around the table than aNything else.

Post # 3
2428 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think wine and beer only is completely fine. I’m not sure what you mean by your wedding cake as desert. If you’re doing any favors, you should skip those. Can you DIY your flowers?

I would nottttt forgo a videographer just because it is so great to see your day in motion. I feel like there’s only so much that can be captured in photos alone. There were moments that I didn’t remember until I saw them in our video. I just think it’s so special to have. If anything, you can hire someone for cheaper or have some friends and family record your ceremony at least.

Post # 5
6435 posts
Bee Keeper

Weddings can be so expensive! Photos capture so much. Having a videographer is a luxury service for a few minutes of video that you’ll only see a handful of times. I agree with limiting the alcohol options to reasonable beer and wine. Keeping decorations and entertainment simple will also save costs, but I agree it’s important for everyone to be well fed. Having a digital play list would also cut the cost of a DJ. 

Post # 6
5763 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

As a guest, I’d much rather have an open bar than a photo booth.  In most areas, drink tickets are more suitable to business meetings than hosted events like weddings.

cut back on the decor. You can’t eat a chandelier. 

make your guests be your priority and cut back on anything that doesn’t directlty benefit the guests.

Post # 7
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2025

Wifey2beee:  I’m not sure if I should be giving you ideas since I blew my budget by 30%, but I would make a list of the most important things to you, and you’re left with stuff you can cut back on. For me, it was the venue, the open bar, and the photographer. And we went over budget for the photographer 🙂 

Some things I cut down on:

-flowers: A lot of florists have minimums for weddings in my area, the average minimum was $3k. I decided to go with silk flowers and it’s costing me $1400 for all flower-related stuff.

-desserts: my bridesmaids and I are having a baking session the day before 🙂 we’re making cupcakes

-DJ: we lucked out on this one. Our DJ is a family friend who gave a pretty hefty discount.

-wedding cake: we’re getting a two tiered cake with an extra full sheet.

-catering: we’re considering a family style dinner with less passed appetizers. If you venue provides its own catering, give them a budget and have them work with you.

-guestlist: we originally had close to 300 on our list. now it’s down to 220 people invited (and 20 people may not come). 

Also, some people nix the favors because they have a photobooth already, and that itself can be a favor!

Good luck planning!

Post # 10
5763 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Wifey2beee:  that’s a selfish attitude. The reception is meant to thank the guests for coming to celebrate with you. You should welcome them graciously and not cheap out in favor of some expensive elaborate “vision” that is all about the superficial.

your location says you’re getting married at a golf and country club. If someone invited me to a country club wedding,complete with elaborate decor, then started handing out drink tickets, I’d think their priorities were too self-centered and it would have a negative effect on our friendship.

Post # 12
367 posts
Helper bee

It looks like we are going to go over 30,00 which was our budget so I’m thinking of cutting back on decor, the silks and the chandelier and not get tiffany chairs brought in and just go with chair covers, amazing what you can save.

Post # 13
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Wifey2beee:  You have to make some tough decisions I’m guessing

Maybe getting less fancy linens and less flower (not sure if you said you are getting any)

Maybe look to scale back dinner a bit (less appetizers, one less course if you have 4 or more)…

Videography may def be a good thing to cut to get the budget down.. you could always try wedding mix..

I know its hard but believe me you cant go from 40,000 to 25 without going bares bones in some places

Good Luck!

Post # 13
5763 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Wifey2beee:  I’m saying that if a friend or family member placed superficial things like fancy up lighting and chandeliers as more important than treating the guests well, I would lose a lot of respect for them and that would cause the relationship to suffer. If I have $10 and my choices are to spend it on buying something for a friend or buying some shiny decor, I’d be a jerk to skrimp on my friend. You may think that is “judgmental” but news flash: people don’t like it when you splurge on expensive venues and elaborate decor then turn into a cheap-wad when it’s time to feed the guests and give them drinks. You’re basically saying your shiny chandelier is more imortant than treating your guests well.

Post # 14
1062 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Is the venue and catering set? I don’t think you’ll meet your revised budgeted goal if venue, food, and alcohol total $21K. Also, you don’t want to cut back on the decor, so that bumps up the minimum range to $25,000. 

How much are the costs if you include your dress, shoes, makeup, hair, tux, photographer, flowers, STDs, invites, etc.?

I feel the only way you will reduce major costs is by cutting down on the catering, venue, and decorating costs.

Your idea for alcohol seems fine to me. I don’t have issues with drink vouchers.

However, you can do the following to help save a little.

– buy shoes < $100

– do your own hair, make-up, nails

– have a friend record your wedding

– remove photobooth

– dj < $1000 or Ipod music

– dress < $1,000

– no wedding coordinater/planner 

– no favors

– downgrade meal option to something less pricey

– cut guestlist



Post # 15
60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: Atrium at the Curtis Center

Of course, you need to set your priorities for your wedding, that’s something only you and your FI can do. Like some PPs have mentioned it will be very difficult to cut the budget by that margin. The photobooth is probably a good place to start, even though they are fun they are definitely a bonus. Good luck – keeping wedding costs down is definitely a challenge!

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