Post # 1
Where is every body seating their parents. Ideally I would like for my mom and dad to sit with my fiance’s mom and dad but my mom thinks it HAS to be separated. I told her we are not dividing the room in half by sides because of the layout of the room. The parents get along great, I just think it is more of my mom worrying what other people will think if the bride and grooms parents sit at the same table.
If we do it that way we would probably only have the 4 at the table. Otherwise we would have the grandparents at the table with each parent and that concerns me because we would have 2 tables that aren’t filled and I don’t know if we have room for that.
What are other people’s thoughts on having both parents sit at the same table?
Post # 3
Whaaat? I thought you were supposed to seat the parents together. Otherwise, I think it does look "divided". Not sure…i haven’t usually noticed at other weddings.
My parents are sitting with my FI’s mom and grandparents. Fi’s dad is at another table b/c he’s bringing his estranged wife and we do not want her at our parents table. It’s a weird relationshp. We think it makes the wedding look friendly if all the parents sit together. But, I don’t have grandparents coming, so so our table for 10 holds the 10 people we want it to perfectly.
Post # 4
I’m wondering about how people do this too — if we seat our parents together, it’s just the four of them (siblings are all in the bridal party). If we include grandparents, it explodes to 13. Both sets of my grandparents will be coming, as well as his maternal grandparents, his grandma on his late father’s side, and his step dad’s parents. I have really NO idea what to do with it.
Post # 5
I’ve been struggling with this too. FMIL assumed that she would be at the head table and was shocked that we were thinking about not having a head table. (The FMIL saga continues.)
We think we’re doing:
-Sweetheart table is "Table 1"
-Wedding party is "Table 2"
-Both sets of parents and my 3 sets of grandparents are "Table 3"… not sure about grandparents, though, my dad’s parents are divorced and might not want to be seated together.
And we are probably naming, not numbering the tables, at the reception. But we’re numbering them on the chart just to help and b/c we don’t have table names yet.
Post # 6
We had each set of parents host their own table and all of my sisters (plus dates and my nephew) at another table. My husband and I sat at a sweetheart table at the front, and we didn’t have a bridal party, so nobody to seat there. It just worked out better for us this way, because we had a bunch of people coming who were special to us, and we wanted to give them an honorary position. We only assigned seating for these three tables, and everyone else got to pick their seats.
Post # 7
I dont think they HAVE to be seperated. It just works out better in some cases.
Post # 8
I think it’s really sweet to sit the bride and grooms’ parents together. That’s what we will be doing. His & my parents all get along really well together and I know they would be sad not to sit together.
Other family members, I would seat them nearby the parents’ table, for us, we will most likely sit some of my family with some of his family at different tables so everyone can get to know one another since they all live far away.
Post # 9
Muahaha…I’m not doing assigned seating, so I don’t really have to worry about this myself (although I’m hoping to sit close to my parents/siblings/grandparents/MOH and to my fiance’s parents/siblings/grandparents/BM), but…I would seat all the parents together. I agree with the other posters — that’s usually how I’ve seen it done.
Post # 10
I think you should definately put both set of parents at the same table. The wedding is the uniting of two people, two familes, why would you want them divided?? As for aunts, uncles, grandparents… you can put some of them at this same table or another one. There are no rules to seating, but I think it is a must to blend family and friends! This is an opportunty fo relatives and friends to get to know each other, mingle!